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A STITCH IN TIME.....part 2

See part 1 here: http://worldpulse.com/node/60323

SEXUAL ABUSE
As children grow up, they become aware of the sexuality in them during adolescent stage. If they are not protected by adults, their sexuality can be abused by sexually perverted adults and other child that has been sexually abused.
These could happen in the following ways:
Incest: this is sexual abuse on a child which is carried out by a member of the child’s family example, a father having sex with his child
Rape: this is sexual abuse carried out by any other person that is not related to the child. It is often associated with violence such as hitting the person, beating and treats
Child marriage: this is giving a child out in marriage before the child is old enough to marry because of financial gains such an act will bring to the family
Child trafficking (sexual slavery): some children are taken to other places far from their homes and family and are introduce to prostitution so that they can bring gain to those that took them there.
Homosexuality and lesbianism: usually not chosen but subtly or sometimes forcefully introduced to the child by an older person.
Masturbation: this is an act of playing or fondling with ones genitals to arouse sexual excitement. It results in a problem in later years called premature ejaculation.

Dangers of early sex
Sex is meant primarily for procreation i.e. for bringing forth ones kind for the purpose of continuity. If this gift of God is misuse, what is meant to bless can also be a source of curse and pain.
The following are negative consequences’ of sex:
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES: diseases such as HIV/AIDS and other STDS can are usually transmitted through multiple sexual partners.
UNPLANNED AND UNWANTED PREGNANCY: this can and usually disrupts the life of the young girl involve and will eventually lead to quitting school.
ABORTION: when a girl gets pregnant side wedlock, most often, the sexual planner persuade her to go for abortion. This is a delicate thing because if not properly done, it can lead to complication that sometimes takes a person’s life.
DEPRESSION: feeling of failure and shame can lead to depression and sometimes insanity.
It is necessary that a child discuss with an adult as soon as a child right is abused sexually. The child needs to know that no one will beat or punish him/her if an abuse is reported no matter the severity of the threat of the abuser. No child should be made to suffer these things so children should be advise to talk to any adult they can trust as soon as they are sexually violated or even when such acts are suspected.
Why not give the next generation a head start in life by giving them a solid foundation of mental, emotional socio patterns?

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Comments

Sharontina's picture

Good

Good posting dear.

Thanks.

Merlin Sharontina

Tessie's picture

a stitch in time

thanks dear sister for the encouragement. i really appreciate it

salient cry

Myrthe's picture

Thank you

Tessie, thank you for your overview of the forms sexual abuse and the consequences of early sex. You raise some interesting points in your post.

While I don't think homosexuality and masturbation constitute sexual abuse in general, they are when they are when an adult forces a child to engage in them. By the way, I am not sure there is a connection between masturbation and premature ejaculation.

I think you did a very good job pointing out the consequences of teenage pregnancies: teenage mothers are more likely to not finish their education and because of that have less chances to find a good job and become financially independent later on in life. Also, I like that you mention the health risks connected with unsafe abortions. It is important to remember that these are health risks for any woman who decides to have an unsafe abortion, it doesn't matter how old she is or whether she is married or unmarried.

Thank you for writing this post!

Tessie's picture

A stitch in time

Dear sister, i appreciate your contribution. Premature ejaculation has a multifactoral causes but there is a medically proven fact that masturbation is one of the factors to premature ejaculation. Thank you.

salient cry

Here is a topic or subject matter that is often difficult and extremely awkward to discuss with our children. However, Tessie, I was looking forward to Part 2 of your posting and you did not disappoint me at all! Your thoughts are well laid out and clearly stated. Even though the subject matter may be an uncomfortable one, especially in our African societies, you have hit the nail on the head here. Many discussions between children and adults in our African settings are practically non existent when it relates to sex. There has to be a way where we can openly talk to our children about sex or other taboo subjects like the male and female genitalia. If we are unable to bring up the topic at an age appropriate time, then we leave the kids with no alternative but to learn it from their peers (more myths than facts), other literary sources or from some perverse adults who may introduce them to sex prematurely and criminally no less. Such sexual molestations and taboo encounters help to ruin the psychological balance of a child for the rest of their lives. Many years of therapy may help in some cases but, the mind is a powerful instrument and such tramatic incidents tend to play repeatedly in the child's mind without any break in the ongoing hurt and pain. This is tormenting and torturous in the most inhumane way. We should all come together as a society to introduce proper sex education in schools at the appropriate age for our children. Parents must play their roles too and not flee their responsibilities on the touchy but very relevant and important issue. We have to save our kids from pedophiles and sick adults by letting them know what to look for and expect when it comes to sex so they can protect their bodies from abuse and misuse. With an early sex education, our children may also become aware of the concept and understanding of respecting each other's bodies which may lead to men learning early on in life what it means to honor a woman's body and protect her pride. I dare say that such boys will grow up to become men who will never rape any woman under any circumstances. Sex education and its importance therefore cannot be overemphasized.

BMBracewell

Tessie's picture

A stitch in time

My sister, thank you. I understand perfectly what you mean. I picked courage to discuss sex with my girl when she was 3years after i attended a seminar where the assistant commisioner of police gave a talk on sex and the girl child. I chose to adorpt her method. I however extended the talks to include the boys.

salient cry

Ali Shahidy's picture

Helpful Information

Thank you, dear Tessie

What you are doing is so helpful. You very well identified the forms of sexual violence and the harmful consequences they impinge on the victims, and as a result, on the societies. You made a great effort, Tessie.
Thank you for sharing this helpful information with us.

Ali Shahidy

Tessie's picture

A stitch in time

Thank you Ali.

salient cry

Potter's picture

A Difficult Conversation

Your article very skillfully points out the confusion and misinformation that can occur when sex cannot be openly discussed. Sexually curious adolescents will find their own answers when honest, open discussion is not possible. Sexual exploitation and manipulation is also much more likely when frank discussion fails. Thank you for raising the issue. Talking about sex is often difficult and cause for embarasment and misinformation...and being willing to speak honestly and openly is the best solution to a potentially tricky problem.

Tessie's picture

A STITCH IN TIME

hi Potter,
indeed is isnt a comfortable topic to discuss with ones child but it has to be done to avoid possible abuse. thank you

salient cry

Tessie,

This is such a hard subject for people to talk about openly. It is as if the taboo surrounding sexual abuse outweighs the importance of discussing the negative implications of these actions in victims - especially the young ones. I appreciate your willingness to bring attention to the issue so that we can explore additional ways to product people from the evil ways of abusers and predators. I think with more honest discussion more solutions will surface. The long term physical, metal, social, and physical damage that results from molestation affect people their entire lives.

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