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MARGINALISATION DE LA FEMME EN RDC

A cause de la pauvreté les femmes sont devenus des marchandises de tous genres et manipulable par n'importe qui.
Dans certains foyers, vous verrez la femme qui n'a pas de travail est maltraité par son mari parce qu'elle attend tous de lui, la femme peut avoir un niveau d'études dépassant même seul de son mari, mais le complexe qu'ont les hommes de chez nous, elle refuse que sa femme ne puisse pas travailler. Car elle met en tête que si une fois sa femme travail, elle satisfaire aussi à certains besoins primaire de la famille, alors en voyant tous cela, il lui refuse d'exercer son travail professionnel.
Je connais une femme qui depuis son mariage, elle faisait toujours les rodages, jusqu'au jours où elle avait eu ses quartes enfant, alors un jour Dieu lui a béni à son cinquième enfant, elle a trouvée du boulot, quand elle avait fait une année et demi entrain de travailler, son mari à avance de motif soit disant qu'elle n'irait plu au travail, et dès maintenant qu'elle commence à garder ces enfants à la maison, et s'elle ose partir au travail, qu'elle emballe ses affaires et retourne chez elle, moi quand j'ai entendu ces genres de paroles, je me suis rendu compte que son mari était content de la vie que menée sa femme, sans tenir compte des souffrances qu'elle traversait, ni de trajet qu'elle faisait. Alors elle ne sait plu quoi faire, ni où aller.
Les hommes sont devenus des êtres méchants devant moi. Quand j'analyse tous ce qu'ils font et de la manière dont ils parlent des femmes, et vu comment mon père nous avez traité depuis notre enfance jusqu'à maintenant, je sens le dégout d'être mariée un jour. Et vu encore comment les garçons qui ont des moyens muni muse les filles qui n'ont pas des moyens pour vivre, ça me fait du mal au cœur. Et je me dis toujours,
Un jour je serai aussi quelqu'un de valeur dans la vie si Dieu me la prête.
A la prochaine....

English translation by PulseWire member cynthia123

Marginalisation of women
Because of poverty women have become all types of saleable products for anybody. In certain households, you find women who don't work maltreated by their husbands because she depends on him. These women could be more educated than her husband but because he is the man of the house, he refuses to let her work. He thinks that if he lets his wife work, she would not be able to perform her duties at home and for that reason, she cannot work.

I know a woman who since she got married with 5 kids. She found a job and after working for a year and a half, her husband told her to stop working and take care of the kids and threatened that if she went back to work, she should be prepared to pack up her things and go back to her parents.

When I heard this story, I understood that her husband may have been happy with her just being a wife and taking care of the children but without thinking of the stress and suffering this may have caused her. Now she doesn't know what to do or where to go.

People have become very wicked before my very eyes. When I analyse all they have done and the manner in which they speak to women and how my dad treated us from childhood till now, I doesn't feel like being married one day. Everyday, I experience how the rich men treat women who don't have a means of survival and it make me very sad and I say to myself everyday, one day I will be an important person if God permits.

Till next time

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Comments

milsgra's picture

Marginalisation de la femme

Il est important de parler de la marginalisation de la femme dans la société. Merci de votre courage et votre voix s'exprime pour les femmes sans voix.

Anuarite's picture

SALUTATION

Merci aussi ma cher.
A bientôt sur WP.

anolitékrz

cynthia123's picture

Translation

Marginalisation of women
Because of poverty women have become all types of saleable products for anybody. In certain households, you find women who don't work maltreated by their husbands because she depends on him. These women could be more educated than her husband but because he is the man of the house, he refuses to let her work. He thinks that if he lets his wife work, she would not be able to perform her duties at home and for that reason, she cannot work.

I know a woman who since she got married with 5 kids. She found a job and after working for a year and a half, her husband told her to stop working and take care of the kids and threatened that if she went back to work, she should be prepared to pack up her things and go back to her parents.

When I heard this story, I understood that her husband may have been happy with her just being a wife and taking care of the children but without thinking of the stress and suffering this may have caused her. Now she doesn't know what to do or where to go.

People have become very wicked before my very eyes. When I analyse all they have done and the manner in which they speak to women and how my dad treated us from childhood till now, I doesn't feel like being married one day. Everyday, I experience how the rich men treat women who don't have a means of survival and it make me very sad and I say to myself everyday, one day I will be an important person if God permits.

Till next time

jacquesato's picture

Thanks for sharing

Dear Anuarite:
What you've told us is very true. Women all over the world have to face so many difficulties in their lives, every single day. Being a female is not an easy job at all. But we have to continue fighting for our rights, like many courageous women did hundreds of years before us, paving the road for new generations. I agree with you, unfortunately many men are chauvinistic and feel that they must control women in every aspect. They are like that because they are full of fear and prejudice. But there are also nice men who don't see women as a threat if they're independent and strong. I'm happy to be married to a man who respects me and encourages me to be myself and always explore new possibilities. You're very young and I understand how you might feel hopeless sometimes. It's in your hands, though, to choose someone not only with your heart, but also with your mind. If you feel that your boyfriend is not giving you any support to fulfill your aspirations, then it means he's not the right guy for you. My piece of advice is: Always believe in yourself and stand up for yourself!!
All the best to you.
Jacqueline

Jacqueline

ChicagoGirl's picture

Anuarite, Thank you so much

Anuarite,
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your experiences with all of us. As someone else commented, you are giving voice to the women who have no voice. That is a brave and powerful thing you are doing!
Seeing the injustice around you is a burden, but it is also a gift. Because you understand what is happening, you can speak the truth, you can care for those around you in need and you can seek help for yourself and others. You are the beginning of change in your community! Women have been oppressed since the beginning of time, but women - women just like you - have also overcome oppression. There is hope. Always.
Take courage in knowing that you are not alone and that, despite the wickedness you experience, there is also joy and love. Focus on bringing that into your life.

Thank you Anuarite!

Anuarite's picture

Salutation

Merci beaucoup pour votre courage! ça nous montre combien de fois nous sommes toujours ensemble.
Que Dieu vous bénisse.
Anuarite.

anolitékrz

Rakiba's picture

Dear Sister

This is what we need and that is a true voice to speak and share your problems.Thanks for sharing. Together we will surely bring change!
Rakiba

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