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INDIGNATION

Bon après midi. Je réponds au nom de kajuru cito floride. J étais mariée mais je ne le suis dirai je. Je suis mère de sept enfants dont deux naissances des jumeaux et deux autres enfants qui fait sept et il ya eu le décès des autres jumeaux .Donc j avais accouche trois fois les jumeaux. Deux sont en vie qui donne quatre plus trois qui sont nés un a un. J ai quartes garçons et trois filles. Je suis de nationalité congolaise a l est de la RDcongo juste a Bukavu. Agée de quarrent sept an j ai fait les humanités pédagogiques option maternelle. Je ne pas eu la chance de faire l université faute de moyen. Je me suis mariée après avoir eu le diplôme, Je fais le test d embauche et j étais engagée au bureau de l éducation depuis mille neuf cent nonante jusqu’ à nos jours.

Je lance un cri d’alarme a toute personne qui me lira de m aider a réfléchir sur tout les points de vue a ce propos. Sinon, mes droits sont violes dans le mariage et au service.
1. Dans le mariage; Apres deux naissances, le mari est sorti du toit conjugal pour aller débrouiller comment vivre et cela sans dispute. A un certains temps, il était parti pour du bon. Il m a laisse avec une grossesse de deuxième grossesse de deux mois et mes premiers jumeaux avaient l âgé d une année et demi. Quand la grossesse est arrivée a terme, j ai accouche, il ne se souciait même pas de moi au moment ou j étais gravement malade. Dieu merci je suis parvenu a être gruerie. j ai continuait a me rendre au service ou je gagnait un salaire très médiocre. Je me suis efforcée de faire l extra après le service au marché. Tout en sachant j étais déjà abandonnée par le mari comme sa maman ne voulait pas de moi. Je lui écrivais toujours des lettres comme il n y avait pas des téléphones il ne répondait pas il ne m envoyait même pas un sou pour la ration des enfants ai supporte croyant qu’il allait revenir ca n a pas tenu. D un coup j apprenaient qu’il était marie après dix ans de patience. Avec cette déception, je me suis aussi remariée, j étais a la recherche de mon refuge. Le deuxième mari, après trois naissance s est rendu a l étranger pour travailler, grande surprise ca fait sept ans il est aussi absent de la maison. Il a songe ne fuse qu’à la ration au moins trois ans. Vous comprenez que mes droits sont violes dans les deux mariages bien que c est avec le premier que j ai fait le mariage civil et religieux.

A nous revoir pour la suite. Bon soir.

English translation by PulseWire member MESSA

Good afternoon. My names are Kajuru cito Floride. I used to be married but it seems I’m no longer. I am a mother of seven, with two pairs of twins and two other children and the death of another pair. That is, I’d given birth to twins thrice. Two are alive with four other single births. I have four boys and three girls. I am from DR Congo in Bukavu. I am aged forty seven years and I’ve studied pedagogic humanities for nursery schools. Due to lack of finances, I was unable to attend University. After my certificate, I got married. I’ve been employed by the education bureau till date.
My plea goes to all those that will read me out there to help me out because my rights are being violated both in marriage and at work.

1. In marriage: after two births, my husband left the house peacefully in search of subsistence. After a while, he went for ever. I was left with a second twin’s pregnancy of two months while my first twins were one years and a half. After birth, I fell ill but he did not care about me. Thank God I gained my health back. I continued with my job for a very insignificant salary, and I tried to do extra efforts at the market.
Knowing I and the children were abandoned by him as well as his mother who did not want me, I continued writing to him because there were no telephones but he never replied and never sent any money for us but I kept the hope he’ll come back one day. After ten years of patience, I learnt he was married. After this disappointment, I also got married. I was in search of a safe haven. The second husband after three births went abroad to work and its seven years now. He continued taking care of allowances only for three years. You can understand that my rights have been violated in the two marriages even though court and religious vows were made only with the first.
To be continued. Hello.

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Comments

lydiagcallano's picture

Woman of steel!

Cito, I am awed by your resilience and strength. You are like a bamboo which sways anywhere the wind blows but you do not fall. I am amazed by how you are able to get up each time you fall. You are God's creation and He has a purpose for you. He does not give you challenges which you cannot overcome. Just have faith in Him and continue to believe in yourself that you can make it through. Press on and continue to be an inspiration to other women.

Ma. Lydia G. Callano
Iloilo, Philippines
+63 33 3158137 or 5138830

MESSA's picture

la force intérieure

Bonjour

c'est un plaisir de vous lire et de comprendre avec quelle bravoure vous avez fait face à une situation vraiment difficile. c'est un plaisir de savoir que vous ne vous êtes pas laissés faire. vous vous êtes battus pour vous et pour vos enfants. Votre histoire est tellement fascinante que je suis convaincu servira de leçon pour plusieurs qui se trouveraient soit dans la même situation soit dans des situations apparentes.
Chaque fois que vous levez votre voix, plusieurs en profitent et pour ma part je pense bien que vous avez été victime de violence, vos doits ont été violés.

Beaucoup de courage dans votre quotidien et surtout restez la tête haute.

Cordialement MESSA

Ghnadi un jour a dit, tout finira bien par s'arranger, et si tout ne s'arrange pas, ce que ce n'est pas encore la fin. Femme, garde espoir!!!!

Ghandi once said it will all get well at the end, and if it doesn't get well, then it is not yet the end.
Wo

MESSA's picture

Translation

Good afternoon. My names are Kajuru cito Floride. I used to be married but it seems I’m no longer. I am a mother of seven, with two pairs of twins and two other children and the death of another pair. That is, I’d given birth to twins thrice. Two are alive with four other single births. I have four boys and three girls. I am from DR Congo in Bukavu. I am aged forty seven years and I’ve studied pedagogic humanities for nursery schools. Due to lack of finances, I was unable to attend University. After my certificate, I got married. I’ve been employed by the education bureau till date.
My plea goes to all those that will read me out there to help me out because my rights are being violated both in marriage and at work.
1. In marriage: after two births, my husband left the house peacefully in search of subsistence. After a while, he went for ever. I was left with a second twin’s pregnancy of two months while my first twins were one years and a half. After birth, I fell ill but he did not care about me. Thank God I gained my health back. I continued with my job for a very insignificant salary, and I tried to do extra efforts at the market.
Knowing I and the children were abandoned by him as well as his mother who did not want me, I continued writing to him because there were no telephones but he never replied and never sent any money for us but I kept the hope he’ll come back one day. After ten years of patience, I learnt he was married. After this disappointment, I also got married. I was in search of a safe haven. The second husband after three births went abroad to work and its seven years now. He continued taking care of allowances only for three years. You can understand that my rights have been violated in the two marriages even though court and religious vows were made only with the first.
To be continued. Hello.

Ghnadi un jour a dit, tout finira bien par s'arranger, et si tout ne s'arrange pas, ce que ce n'est pas encore la fin. Femme, garde espoir!!!!

Ghandi once said it will all get well at the end, and if it doesn't get well, then it is not yet the end.
Wo

Kadidia's picture

Indignation

Madame,

Je suis desolee de lire votre histoire. J'admire votre courage.
Votre histoire est l'illustration des maux quotidiens de la femme africaine. J'admire votre courage.

Prenez la charge de votre vie et de vos enfants, croyez en vous quelques soient les difficultes. Vous prevaudrez ne serait-ce que pour vos enfants.
Bon courage.

Kadidia Doumbia

ddegarm's picture

Trampled rights

Kajuru,

You should see if there are any organizations in your village/city that can help you obtain the assistance that you need for you and your family. These tragic situations deserve attention and one way to get the attention needed is to let individuals now about the problems you face. You are very brave and facing many challenges. You must persist in seeking justice so you and your children can have a stable life. Please seek out assistance in your area.

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