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La viol a domicile

Une femme mariée mère de six enfants dont deux filles et quatre garçons vient de furie son foyer suite a un cas de viol commis dans sa maison.
Elle pratique le petit commerce des souliers.Elle circule la ville de Bukavu avec trois ou quatre paires de souliers en cherchant comment nourrir sa famille.
Son mari,jadis commerçant a perdu son capital dans une embuscade des bandits FDLR(Rwandais) sur la route de Kamituga . Pour le moment il n'a pas de travail.Il passe la journée a faire des commissions et a mendier la bière.
Sa deuxième fille âgée de dix ans racontera a sa mère ce que son Papa lui a fait pendant la journée a l'absence de sa mère.Son papa l'avait appelle en chambre pendant la journée et lui a demandé d'enlever les habits pour mettre le nouveau caleçon qu'il lui avait acheté.Après que la petite fille eut enlevé les habits,son père sauta sur elle et la déflora.Il lui demanda de ne pas le dire a qui que ce soit et surtout pas a sa mère.
Le papa ne s'est pas limité a celle la car il a continué a faire de même a l'autre fille de 12 ans.Les deux enfants ont témoigné qu'elles pratiquaient l'acte sexuel régulièrement avec leur papa chaque fois que leur mère était absente.Cette femme a découvert ce secret sept mois après que son mari ait eu l'habitude de coucher avec ses filles pendant la journée.Et c'est sa voisine qui avait soupçonné cela.
Après que les deux enfants eurent avoué,le papa n'a pas accepté sa faute.Il a menacé de tuer sa femme par ses fétiches, si elle portait plainte au tribunal.
Le dossier fut géré entre la famille de l’époux et épouse qui ont demandé a la femme de supporter ce crime et de continuer a vivre avec son mari en vue de faire grandir leurs enfants.
La femme a refuse toute ces décisions c'est pourquoi elle est allé louer une petite chambre dans l'Av Kibonge.Elle continue son commerce avec beaucoup de peine car elle ne sait pas quoi faire.
On lui a refusé de partir avec les enfants.Ses deux filles sont envoyées au village chez la grand mère.Les quatre garçons vivent chez les autres membres de famille. Elle s'est ouverte a moi dans un cadre amical et religieux car elle sollicitait un conseil.Je lui ai recommande prier et d'aller s'ouvrir a un centre d'appui psychosocial plus proche.Elle a peur de divulguer le secret au risques de mourir suite aux menaces de son mari présumé sorcier.
Quel conseil pouvez vous donner a cette femme ?

English translation by PulseWire member AnnieTheriault

A married woman and mother of six children (two girls and four boys) fled from her home after a rape was committed there.
She sells shoes. She walks around the city of Bukavu with three or four pairs, hoping to earn enough to feed her family.
Her husband, once a businessman, lost all of his money during an ambush by FDLR (Rwandan) outlaws on his way to Kamituga. Currently, he spends his days running errands and begging for beer.

The second daughter, who is ten years old, told her mother what her father did to her while she was away from home. Her father summoned her to his room and asked her to take her clothes off in order to try on the new undergarments he had purchased for her. When the little girl took her clothes off, the father jumped on top of her and raped her. He told her not to tell anyone, especially not her mother, about what had happened.

But the father did not stop there: he also raped his other daughter, who is twelve years old. Both girls have testified that they were regularly raped by their father while their mother was away. The mother found out about this secret seven months after her husband begin raping his daughters during the day. And it was a neighbor that suspected it.
Although both girls say they were raped, the father denies it. He threatened to kill his wife if she reported the incident to the tribunal.

Everything was dealt with by the woman and man’s families. They asked her to forget about the crime and to continue living with her husband, so that their children could grow up. The woman refused to accept this and rented a small room on Kibonge Avenue. She continues to sell shoes but faces hardship and doesn’t know what to do.

They did not let her take her children with her. Her two daughters were sent to their grandmother’s village and the four boys are currently living with family members. She spoke to me as a friend, during a religious event. I told her to pray and to go the nearest crisis center. She is afraid to tell anyone about this terrible secret because of the threats made by her husband, allegedly a sorcerer.

What advice can you give this woman?

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A married woman and mother of six children (two girls and four boys) fled from her home after a rape was committed there.
She sells shoes. She walks around the city of Bukavu with three or four pairs, hoping to earn enough to feed her family.
Her husband, once a businessman, lost all of his money during an ambush by FDLR (Rwandan) outlaws on his way to Kamituga. Currently, he spends his days running errands and begging for beer.
The second daughter, who is ten years old, told her mother what her father did to her while she was away from home. Her father summoned her to his room and asked her to take her clothes off in order to try on the new undergarments he had purchased for her. When the little girl took her clothes off, the father jumped on top of her and raped her. He told her not to tell anyone, especially not her mother, about what had happened.
But the father did not stop there: he also raped his other daughter, who is twelve years old. Both girls have testified that they were regularly raped by their father while their mother was away. The mother found out about this secret seven months after her husband begin raping his daughters during the day. And it was a neighbor that suspected it.
Although both girls say they were raped, the father denies it. He threatened to kill his wife if she reported the incident to the tribunal.
Everything was dealt with by the woman and man’s families. They asked her to forget about the crime and to continue living with her husband, so that their children could grow up. The woman refused to accept this and rented a small room on Kibonge Avenue. She continues to sell shoes but faces hardship and doesn’t know what to do.
They did not let her take her children with her. Her two daughters were sent to their grandmother’s village and the four boys are currently living with family members. She spoke to me as a friend, during a religious event. I told her to pray and to go the nearest crisis center. She is afraid to tell anyone about this terrible secret because of the threats made by her husband, allegedly a sorcerer.
What advice can you give this woman?

topieopolot's picture

soo sad

hello brigitte, that this woman came and talked to you is helpful enough instead of it eating her a way. i am so sorry that this has had to happen to her and her children. at least the children are safe from that man. How can these things happen and societies let them keep occurring? I mean the people who let him go scot free! that man deserves the wrath of all human kind and i my self can not help but wish the worst for him.. i know forgiveness is key but surely? are there no probation offices that protect children from these kind of people?
Prayer is important as you told her and she has to keep going, and as you said that she trades in shoes if its not paying well i would suggest she embark on another trade to help her because at the end of it all its her and her alone and people like me and you to give moral support.
am so sorry ans so saddened by this.
Its become quite an important issue not to leave a girl child especially babies with males without some other person being present.
i really dont know and can not understand what has gotten in to these mens, heads. God help us all
take care and keep encouraging this lady

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