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Violence de droit de la femme

Dans notre quartier ,nous avons une fille qui été déjà fiancé,le garçon est arrivé même au point d'aller voir les de la fille et ce dernier appelle ses parents pour qu'ils disquette la dote,la fille travaillait dans un établissement ,malheureusement elle engrossé, Tous juste à l'ouvertir , le garçon est parti à destination inconnu , jusqu'aujourd'hui cette dernière est entrain de se demander si on va l'accepter toujours au boulon et si non, qui pourra intervenir,
Maintenant elle va perdre son boulon , elle n’a pas du commerce et son mari ne se fait pas voir,donc jusque là elle ne sais pas sur quel pied danser, Merci mes amies

English translation by PulseWire member JC2986

In our neighborhood, there was a girl who was engaged. Her fiancé had even gone as far as going to speak to the girl’s parents so that they could all discuss how much they would give the family in exchange for the daughter’s hand. Unfortunately, the girl ended up getting pregnant. Her fiancé instantly disappeared to an unknown location and she is left worried about whether or not she’ll still be accepted at her job and if not, who would help her out.
Now though, it looks like she’s going to lose her job. She has no education or skills and her fiancé is still out of the picture. She doesn’t know what to do. Thank you my friends.

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Comments

JC2986's picture

Ou est l'homme?

La fille est enceinte et c'est le petit de son fiance, c'est tragique que l'homme a disparu. Comment va t'elle s'occuper de son enfant sans boulot, sans soutien?

Merci d'avoir partage votre histoire.

JC2986's picture

Translation

In our neighborhood, there was a girl who was engaged. Her fiancé had even gone as far as going to speak to the girl’s parents so that they could all discuss how much they would give the family in exchange for the daughter’s hand. Unfortunately, the girl ended up getting pregnant. Her fiancé instantly disappeared to an unknown location and she is left worried about whether or not she’ll still be accepted at her job and if not, who would help her out.
Now though, it looks like she’s going to lose her job. She has no education or skills and her fiancé is still out of the picture. She doesn’t know what to do. Thank you my friends.

irina_costa's picture

Thank you for sharing with us

Thank you for sharing with us this sad story. It happens so very often that fathers don't take responsibility for being a parent and leave all the financial burden and all the emotional challenges to the mother. Why? I have a hard time understanding. All I can say is that the woman in your neighborhood has nothing to be ashemed of. She has a ton of other issues to worry about but she should never be ashamed or guilty. She has done nothing wrong, yet she because of the way our societies shape men she is now in a difficult place. But there are always solutions.

I was wondering if in your country women can get an abortion if they don't want an unplanned pregancy? If for this girl this is not an option than i think one of the biggest challenges will be for her to find a way to earn money so she can take care of herself and her newborn.

How old is this girl? Can her family help her or are they willing to support her in any way? Where will she live? Sometimes, in situations like this we are fortunate enough to have relatives and friends who after they listen to our story they end up offering us help. Having the courage to share with others what has happened to us someties proves to be a good strategy. People hear what we have to say and sometimes they find ways to help us.
In my community there are also some professional institutions that help women in situations like this- women's organizations or charities. Sometimes even a church will help out women in situations like that of this young woman.
your young friend should know that there are many women all over the world who go through similar situations - they are young, unprepared to become mothers, alone, with no skills, little education and no job. It is a rough road but it is far from being a deadend.
if you can just tell her not to be ashamed.

irina

Irina Costache

Dear Yvonne,

Thank you for speaking out about the young girl in your community who has been abandoned by both her fiance and perhaps her community. Irina's response -- above -- is excellent and helpful.

As the courageous woman who has shared this story, you may have taken a first step in helping this young woman. Telling our stories aloud -- or the stories of others in need - is the first step toward positive action.

Perhaps you, or someone you know, can reach out to one of the organizations Irina suggests on behalf of this young woman, and in this way you will have contributed greatly to providing her with the support she so desperately needs.

Thank you again for your strength and compassion, Yvonne.

With Respect,

Interfaith Reverend Sarah

sallysmithr's picture

Thank you for sharing!

I'm so sorry to hear what this girl has had and will have to go through. There are so many single parents in the US and it is such a difficult job. I hope that she is able to find support and strength to get her through the difficult times. No one should have the responsibility of raising a child on their own. I wish her the very best!!!

Sally

Dear Yvonne,

Thank you so much for taking the time to write on behalf of the young woman in your neighborhood. It is a gift for her that you cared enough to post here for her. She will need people to support her through this challenging time and she is lucky to have you as a friend. I truly hope that she will also be able to find other support systems, through family or somewhere she can get some help. Isolation is one of the biggest dangers for anyone. Having even one person who cares can make a HUGE difference in someone's life. Even here on Worldpulse, she can find a community of caring beings. Please encourage her to reach out and not to give up on her dreams.
We are sending our good thoughts for your neighbor, that she receive the help she needs and many thanks to you for the caring and compassion you have shown.

Best,
Laura

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