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MARIAGE PRECOCE

Concernant les mariage je vois qu'il y en ont beaucoup sur au village là où la coutume à une grande place dans la socièté.les filles sachent que se marient ;c'est une chose où mettre au monde de valeur .ce qui est grave est qu'elles mettent au monde à un age très bas (13,14ans),16,17ans pour eux sont des grandes filles qui dépassent l'age .il y a celle qui vivent ensemble avec les soit disant mari qui a aussi l'age de 17à18 ans.Malheur aux filles car le soit disant mari souvant les chassent comme une chose non valable dans la maison où il continu ses études et elle reste comme la servante de cette famille.Son travail est seul de cultiver ,puiser d'eau mettre au monde et garder les enfants en un mot s'occuper de travaux ménagère. Après les études ,elle n'a pas la chance d' y rester il va menant se remarié et cette malheureuse femme agée de22ans soit 26ans qui a6à 8enfants sa vie malheureuse se multiplie davantage même elle peut se rentre chez ses parent où rester là ça revient au meme .les parents ne veulent plus d'elle et meme si elle rentre tot avec 2ans elle n' est plus considerée dans sa famille or ses sont les parents qui montrent toujour à leur filles que la valeur d'une fille se le mariage les études pour eux peu importe.Alors ça devient une chose régrétable pour nous .Plupart de ses enfants là subissent menant ces sort car la malnutrition se présente et même leur maman .

English translation by PulseWire member Aurore

In the villages where traditions have great importance, girls know when they marry that giving birth is very much valued. The problem is that many of them give birth at a very young age, when they are 13 or 14 years old. Girls who become mothers at 16 or 17 are seen as too old. For those who live with their so-called husbands (aged 17 or 18), they are often forced by the latter to stay at home. The husband can pursue his studies and the wife becomes a servant for the family. She can only cultivate, collect water, give birth and then look after the children. Put shortly, take care of the household. When the man is done with his studies, she has no chance to stay anymore. He marries another woman and this poor mother, aged 22 or 26, with her 6 or 8 children, whether she stays there or goes to her parents, her life will be the same. Her parents do not want her with them anymore, even if she comes back after only two years. She is not considered as a part of the family anymore, even though her parents always taught her that marrying was more important than studying. This is a shame for us. With malnutrition this affects more children and their mothers.

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milsgra's picture

Saife

Merci cela demeure un sujet très important à aborder celui du marriage précoce au détriment de la femme et de la société.

Aurore's picture

Traduction World Pulse

Bonjour Saife, merci pour avoir partagé ces réflexions sur la condition de la femme en RDC et les difficultés que rencontrent les jeunes mariées avec enfants. C'est effectivement un sujet très important pour nous tous ici. Je suis traductrice volontaire pour World Pulse, et l'équipe souhaitait rendre votre article accessible aux lecteurs anglophones. N'hésitez pas à partager de nouvelles idées ! Merci encore. Chaleureusement, Aurore

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Read the article in English!

In the villages where traditions have great importance, girls know when they marry that giving birth is very much valued. The problem is that many of them give birth at a very young age, when they are 13 or 14 years old. Girls who become mothers at 16 or 17 are seen as too old. For those who live with their so-called husbands (aged 17 or 18), they are often forced by the latter to stay at home. The husband can pursue his studies and the wife becomes a servant for the family. She can only cultivate, collect water, give birth and then look after the children. Put shortly, take care of the household. When the man is done with his studies, she has no chance to stay anymore. He marries another woman and this poor mother, aged 22 or 26, with her 6 or 8 children, whether she stays there or goes to her parents, her life will be the same. Her parents do not want her with them anymore, even if she comes back after only two years. She is not considered as a part of the family anymore, even though her parents always taught her that marrying was more important than studying. This is a shame for us. With malnutrition this affects more children and their mothers.

Beverly Rose's picture

Dear Saife, Thank you for

Dear Saife,

Thank you for sharing this story, one that keeps recurring in many parts of the world. We know that when women postpone having children they are more likely to get an education, have less children, be able to provide for themselves and their families, and other positive changes.

How do you think this can be changed in your country? I would love to know your thoughts. Please keep writing and stay connected.

In peace,
Beverly

viochan's picture

Women and education

Dear SAIFE,
Beverly is correct, but she has it backward: when women are given the opportunity to pursue an education and earn a decent living, then they are more likely to have fewer children and provide for them better.

Women in the developing world have no way to decide to have fewer children because they lack access to education, to contraception, to health services, to financial services, to familial support. But if we educated them so that they could get a better job, better pay, better knowledge about the decisions (to marry, have children, pursue a career, etc.) that would affect the rest of their lives, then the doors to their success would be wide open.

What do you think?

Thank you so much for sharing,

Violeta

Kara-Amena's picture

Public awareness

Dear Saife,

There are so many victims in this story - so many lives ruined. It's really sad. These young girls can not parent properly because they are suffering so much themselves. And then to feel the rejection of losing their husbands and being pushed away by their natural families, the psychological effects must be severe. All of these things will have an impact on the innocent children. It seems that the majority of people in the community are affected by these practices - all the women and the children. Is it possible to run a public awareness campaign so that people understand the detriments of these choices? Is birth control ever practiced?

I will keep you and these young mothers in my thoughts. I pray that things will improve and people can begin to live more healthy and satisfying lives.

Peace and blessings,

Kara-Amena

SAIFE's picture

CONCERNANT LE MARIAGE PRECOCE

Merci beaucoup à vos commentaires qui mes donnent encore une nouvelle réflexion.L'éducation est très important pour aider les jeunes filles à ne pas s'engager tôt au mariage mais pour moi je vois que la sensibilisation est la chose à faire pour la toute première fois car c'est à partir de la sensibilisation qu' on peut planter l'idée et entendre l'importance des études .étudier c'est une occupation qui peut permettre à quelqu'un de ne pas songer aux unitules. Il faut faire la sensibilisation en 3 catégories des gens :premièrement avec les parents ,les jeunes filles et afin les mettre ensemble.Si les parents comprenet l'utilité des études surtout pour leurs filles ceux qui seront les premièrs à sensibilser leurs enfants à l' age trèes bas merci

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