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Woman, Thou Art the Beholder!

They say that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. But where was the beholder when God was creating you 'fearfully and wonderfully', after his own image. In my many encounters with women of different ages, I have realized the constant need for acceptance by the yardstick set somewhere in the West. They just are never good enough and most of them always have a past that has fed them this lie. I at one point in my life was a victim of low self-esteem and always told myself that nothing good can ever come from me. It has been a long road from then to this day and a lot changed when I began to talk to myself and remind myself daily of how beautiful I am. I have had lot of encouragement from The Tyra and Oprah shows which focus on reminding young girls of how beautiful they are and empowering them to do greater things.
I have counseled with girls who presented very low esteem and denial to the point of seeking acceptance in men by giving themselves to them. At the end of the day they felt much worse about themselves but the momentary feeling of acceptance keeps them going back and it becomes like an addiction to them.
My appeal is to you all; in your various capacities and by virtue of being in this site, kindly take this as an individual burden in your area. We need to encourage this young girls to take pride in who they are so that they can come to realize their full potential. Let them know that they are their own beholders!

Comments

Matilda Moyo's picture

Wow, you read my mind!

Words right out of my mouth - sure sounds like the story I would write. Thanks for sharing this and reminding us that we are the beholders and need not fit into some standard set by an individual preferences..

joyomosh's picture

Its Our time to Act

I am happy that thus far there is two of us willing to change the world and we know that it begins with women. Lets do the world a favor; Spread the word!!!
Cheers!

jadefrank's picture

Every woman is beautiful!

Hi Joyomosh,

Your presence here on PulseWire is already so strong. I think that you would be an excellent candidate for World Pulse's new program, Voices of Our Future. In order to participate you must join the group and then the journey can begin!
http://www.worldpulse.com/pulsewire/groups/3740

Warm regards,
Jade

Nzasu's picture

I feel your story as I have

I feel your story as I have lived it too but now I know better
The problem with Kenya and the rest of Africa is the West
We are not the West and we will never be the West
But the West has influenced us
And still continues to do so

What we see what we hear is Western
Turn on the Television
Walk into a store
Go watch a movie
A caucasian woman
Is wearing that dress
Wearing that hair do
Is that size
But I am not a Caucasian woman
I am an African woman

Exposure to this type of information daily
Billboards, Magazines,shops, websites etc
Consciously or subconsciously
This becomes your'e benchmark
When it comes to beauty
This is what you seek to achieve
But instead we are only killing ourselves
We try to make our hairs straight
Whilst our African hair has never been straight
And will never be straight
We use chemicals on our heads
That have been banned by the US and Canadian governments
As they corrode sewage pipes
How stupid would you be to put this same chemical on your head
I can go on with examples
But remember before the white man came to Africa
There was beauty in Africa

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