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Mon histoir!je paie un dette que je n'avait pas consommé!

Aujourd'hui je vais vous parlée de ma vie!en deux mille cinq quand j'avais18ans je vivent chez ma grande cousine loin de mes parents,elle a vais un mari malheuresement elle 'on pas eu d'enfants avec se monsieur;lustard pourvie que les femme sont chosisfié ici,lhomme a commence le probleme il a fait soufer jusqu'à ce que la femme a déclarer la divorece et l'homme n'a pas pu supporte enfin il était convencu par l"etat!

Ma grade soeur est parti a l'étrage et sont a épouse une femme!nous a la maison nous avons tout aublir les dossier 2ans aprés l'homme a fait tout les moyens possiblepour avoir mon adresse électronique il a eu il ma apple je sui aller le voir il étaint ou magasin de son amis avec tout les clients qui vennent achéte des issistoir,aprés il a ferme la porte comme si il voulent prondre quelque chose derieur!il atourne la clés il ma dit;aujourd'hui tu doit paie tout ce que ta grande soeur m'avais consommé pour rien et elle ne ma rien laisse comme souvenir! j'ai eu de coup des beauxce partout!je criée ma voix ne sorte pas caar il y'avais des gents qui passée,de véhivule etec............enfin il ma reussi directement j'ai eu la grosse sans convention ni amour!je suis partir a la chez nous je renconte a la fammille les parent on t'aller le taduire enjustice mes parents on perdu beaucoup de l'argents sans gangne le procés car nous avons plus les corription a donné ou juje!le monsieur a donne beaucoup d'argents on lui afait sorti de la prison sans me garentir a rien!jusq'oujord'hui je suis avec ce petit sans aucun une aide de cette iresponsable soit disant pére de l' enfant!

English translation by PulseWire member ambrob13

Today I will tell you about my life! In 2005 when I was 18 I lived with my distant cousin far away from my parents. She unfortunately had a husband. She had not had any children with this man. By tradition women are objectified here. The man started the problem. He made her suffer up until she demanded a divorce and the man could no longer endure the process and finally he was forced by the state to comply!

My older sister went abroad and her husband got engaged to another woman! Us at home, we had all forgotten abut the marriage files. Two years after the man had done all that he could possibly do to get my e-mail address. He finally got it and messaged me so I went to go see him where he was, at one of his friend’s stores. After, he closed the door as if he wanted to take something from the back, he turned the key and said to me, “Today you must pay all that your older sister consumed for nothing and didn’t even leave me anything as a souvenir!” He hit me everywhere! I yelled, but my voice couldn’t escape the room since there were many people passing in cars. He finally overpowered me and raped me. As a result I became pregnant without love or convention. I left to go back home and I told the family. My parents brought him to court but they lost a lot of money without winning the trial because we (in the DRC) have enough corruption to bribe the judge! They let him out of jail without guaranteeing me anything. Even up to today, I have yet to receive any aid from the father to support the child!

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ambrob13's picture

Merci Mukuzo pour partager

Merci Mukuzo pour partager votre histoire. Incroyable l'injustice du gouvernement et en plus le mal de cet homme. Votre histoire va rester avec moi pour longtemps.

En solidarité,
Adele

ambrob13's picture

English Translation

Today I will tell you about my life! In 2005 when I was 18 I lived with my distant cousin far away from my parents. She unfortunately had a husband. She had not had any children with this man. By tradition women are objectified here. The man started the problem. He made her suffer up until she demanded a divorce and the man could no longer endure the process and finally he was forced by the state to comply!

My older sister went abroad and her husband got engaged to another woman! Us at home, we had all forgotten abut the marriage files. Two years after the man had done all that he could possibly do to get my e-mail address. He finally got it and messaged me so I went to go see him where he was, at one of his friend’s stores. After, he closed the door as if he wanted to take something from the back, he turned the key and said to me, “Today you must pay all that your older sister consumed for nothing and didn’t even leave me anything as a souvenir!” He hit me everywhere! I yelled, but my voice couldn’t escape the room since there were many people passing in cars. He finally overpowered me and raped me. As a result I became pregnant without love or convention. I left to go back home and I told the family. My parents brought him to court but they lost a lot of money without winning the trial because we (in the DRC) have enough corruption to bribe the judge! They let him out of jail without guaranteeing me anything. Even up to today, I have yet to receive any aid from the father to support the child!

Barbara M Bracewell's picture

This is an Outrage

Reading your story is making hopeless rage build up in my being. It is so sad that once more just because the perpetrator is a man and the victim is a woman, he should get away Scot-free with violating and assaulting your body. The worst thing is that you became pregnant with a beautiful, innocent child who was unfortunately brought about by the brutality and senseless betrayal of a man. It is so sad that a man of this caliber can roam around freely without any consequences for his actions. Worse still is that he is not even paying to support the child who did not ask for this fate. I commend you for your bravery in going to seek justice through the courts because you could have just cowered in a corner and hid in shame. So even though what happened to you is shameful, it is no reflection on you as a woman and a good person. Corrupt judges are a detriment to society everywhere and I hope that one day both he and your tormentor get their just reward though other means. May God strengthen you in your trouble my dear Mukuzo Mamy. Remain strong!

BMBracewell

Kadidia's picture

Viol physique et Moral

Mukuzo,

C'est une situation penible. L'excuse de payer pour ce que sa femme a fait ne tient pas la route, il devait avoir cette idee depuis longtemps. Il faudrait l'obliger a payer pour s'occuper de l'enfant au moins. Il n'a pas eu d'enfants auparavant alors qu'il s'en occupe.
L'enfant n'est pour rien dans cette situation, prie pour que Dieu te donne le courage de l'aimer.

Prends ton courage et fais quelque chose de ta vie, une formation et un travail tu rencontreras eventuellement un homme qui respecte les femmes et qui t'aimera. MAIS n'accepte jamais plus de ta vie d'etre baffouee et ne risque plus jamais de trouver seul avec un homme quel qu'il soit, dans une piece sauf si cela est ta volonte.

Tu as le support de ta famille et cela est tres important, ne laisse plus jamais ce perdant s'approcher de toi.
Bon courage.

Kadidia Doumbia

MUKUZO MAMY's picture

La ireconnaissance de congolais!

Aujourd'hui dans notre pays précisement dans mon privince du sud kivu a bukavu nous avons un grand homme un homme de projet c'est un docteur ginécologue il aide beaucaup des femme car sont de stérile sanc s'avoir les couse de ça chose grave les gents mal intensionné sont venu les tué mais Dieu aide dans lui a souve la vie aulieu qu'ils soit tué on a tué sont bonne!
Que dit-vous de cette situation

Beverly Rose's picture

when will it stop?

Dear Mukuzo,

First of all, thank you for having the courage to share your story, however painful. I am outraged to hear yet another story of violence against women. All violence is wrong, and all of it is horrific. Yet some stories, like yours, have many layers of brutality. You were physically abused, then raped. Then the courts sided with the perpetrator. When will it stop? What will it take for women and children to be safe and respected? For all people to be free of violence?

I work as a domestic violence/sex assault advocate here in Hawaii. Recently I attended a conference where I was reminded that what is required is social change, not only criminal justice. While we want the abusers to be held accountable, it is only a change in attitude that will prevent future rape and other forms of violence against women.

Please remain strong and continue to share your stories with the world. I will keep you and your child in my prayers.
In peace,
Beverly

MUKUZO MAMY's picture

Mes remerciement

Bonjour!je me sens fierez de lire vos message!je veux bien que j'ai un support de ma famille,mais sachez bien que l'homme ce l'homme!il peut change importe quand!mon enfant a déjà six ans ce une age ou li doit aller a l'école maintenant! ce ici ou je un problèmes sériée!ma famille m’oblige que,si vous voulez que nous prenons ton enfant en charge ne nous parlé plus les histoire de vêtement etc..........vouvoyer maintenant que sans une occupation comme travail je suis dans le danger!
Dieu merci qui m'avez montre Maman NEEMA qui m’avait connecte!et qui m'aide a être contactée avec les femme du monde le Seigneur le bénisse

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