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WOMEN IN AFRICAN and INDIA LIKE USA WOMEN WERE IN THE 1950's

I have made an observation that from all the stories I have read and from my personal experiences in Zimbabwe, Zambia and South Africa, that the women today in Africa, India and other countries are much suppressed and have low self-esteem like our USA women had up through the 1960's even. That is when it started turning around for women here in America. I am discouraged because I keep writing posts but get little response so I do not know if my words matter. Please will someone write and let me know.

Because I want to write my last chapter of my book/My MEMOIRS on WORLD PULSE because it really really I believe could help women in Africa and other countries where woman are not equal. It will inspire them to find their soul which then gives them the foundation to be whole and important no matter where they are or who they are with.

I hope I get a response as I have been very discouraged.

Thank you.

Ubuntu,

Wendy

Comments

megha's picture

TRAGEDY IS......

Hi wendy, first of all you shouldn't feel down....... it happens with me too, once I wrote a post on the cases of rapes but there wasn't a single comment, so it happens. And as of india, you know what according to me the real problem is religion. People are really sensitive about their religions and every religion brainwashes people and make them believe that patriarchy is the only way through which society can be successful.

megha

Wendyiscalm's picture

You are so right Megha. I see

You are so right Megha. I see that problem all the time in Africa, in Zambia where I work. They pray and read the bible and go to church every day and night. One person asked if I read the bible. I said "No, I'm too busy living it". That made him be quiet. They sit around and are not motivated to actually DO much. For sure they DO NOT help their fellow citizens. I never saw anything like it. SO, with my street orphans I still make them do some piecework for internet money and they are sealing roofs of the poor who have huge holes in their hut roof where the water during the rainy season comes in and they are up all night scooping it out. It is very very hard to get them to do anything on their own for many reasons, not the least of which is that they pray and expect a handout. I think foreigners who visit these countries have to be careful not to be used. For example, Benson a street orphan in Livingstone Zambia played on an American woman to buy him a new bicycle so he didn't have to walk so far to school. Which was a good idea since he could never get one himself. BUT the minute she left he sold it for money. I see first hand that religion in many cases actually makes a person MORE dependent and holds them back.

Thank you for sharing.

Ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together))

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

kotravai's picture

true

The title points out to a true fact

Kotravai
M.A.S.E.S - Movement Against Sexual Exploitation and Sexism

megha's picture

Yeah..

You know what every religion has caused problems for women......... and to humanity as well.I mean if religion would not had been present in the world, many huge problems would haven't their root cause. And to be good and moral u dont need a religion.

megha

Wendyiscalm's picture

You are right

I was raised Catholic but even when I was little and could not speak out, it did not make sense. I was taught that to go to heaven you had to go only to the Catholic Church. BUT I saw many non-Christian families were who nicer than my family or other churchgoing people. As the years go by I think what matters in life are two questions: 1. Am I trying to improve> and 2. Am I helping others? I think that about covers what life is all about. So much subservience came from the church regarding women and I think it must be engrained in male figures in Africa, India and other countries. WHY do they beat a child who is late to school? WHat does that person get inside. When his wife is sick, what does the husband get in his heart when she continues to carry heavy things. WHat does he get when he slaps or beats her? My fear is that it is so ingrained that I do not know how to begin to make sustainable change. I still believe that for a person to give up something of value (Even if it is not a good value), this habit must be replaced with something of equal or greater value in order to last. I think we women cannot beat men at their own game. We have to really be thinking how to get through to men to make them willing to treat us better and step aside. It is a very difficult and multilayered problem that I have no answer for but wish I did. There is that part and then there is the large numbers of women coming together marching into a school for change and by sheer numbers of people and energy the school knows it will never be the same.

It help to talk it out in this forum.

Thank you,

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

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