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Introducing myself and my journal: It's Hell In The Hallway But I'm Beginning To See The Light

About Me:
Founder/CEO of small NGO I AM ONE IN A MILLION that "hands on" helps street orphans in developing country Livingstone Zambia in Africa. I am there a lot. My work, of course, includes work helping many women. My memoir "IT'S HELL IN THE HALLWAY . . . But I'm Beginning To See The Light" will be perfect for so many African and women of other ethnicities It is my evolution focused on my early years in the 60's and 70's up to now. In many ways, the African women are in the 60's and 70's so this will be an inspiration for them. I didn't know I was too short to become Miss Vermont in the Miss America pageant so I did. I didn't know I couldn't get to live on the Chicago Gold Coast if I was born poor, so I do, Didn't know I could have four successful businesses without an MBA so I created them and was successful. I didn't know I could be president of the Student Body in high school because I was from the wrong side of the tracks so I became the president. I didn't know first year high school students didn't get the lead in the State One Act Plays because the roles had to go to experienced seniors, so I got the lead my freshman year. On and on to create my greatness. This feisty but compassionate woman is thirsting to help other women who are in a one down position but have a dream. I hope some of you will be kind enough to read the first 50 pages of my book and comment on them so I can make changes before writing to a literary agent.

My Passions:
Helping people in a one down position find the seed of greatness they didn't even know they had

My Challenges:
The same as every woman but I believe the gift or opportunity is in the challenge calling each of us to our soul purpose

My Vision for the Future:
To kiss George Clooney. My serious vision is too see myself relevant to the end.

My Areas of Expertise:
Inspiring and making things happen that others aren't sure can or will happen.

Comments

Precious M's picture

In the Right Place

Dear Wendy,

After reading your profile, I can aptly say that you are in the right place. Welcome!

My pen speaks

Precious M's picture

In the Right Place

Dear Wendy,

After reading your profile, I can aptly say that you are in the right place. Welcome!

My pen speaks

Thank you for your welcome and message. I am thinking of going to the weekend seminars in Washington and Atlanta as a way of meeting like minded people. Have you ever been do you have any feedback on them.

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Nusrat Ara's picture

Dear friend, Welcome to

Dear friend,

Welcome to PulseWire! You are now part of a thriving community of women from all parts of the world. See the PulseWire Getting Started Guide to learn more about networking in our community: http://www.worldpulse.com/pulsewire/about/guide

Please explore the site to meet the women and also find the groups of your interest.

I look forward to hearing your voice in the community!

In friendship,

Nusrat

I am happy to have the warm welcomes of all of you. My awareness of the World Pulse website was synchronicity so I know it is the Universe moving me to all of you.

It is so good to be with women whose magnificent energy I feel through the post even.

There is much for me to learn to expand my knowledge base. I have an NGO in Livingstone, Zambia to help street orphans and vulnerable children BUT am moving more and more and quicker and quicker into helping the subservient unjustly treated women there. We are all important to the future of women.I believe there's pwer in women.

The word UBUNTU is my favorite word. It is the complete word. Let me give you an example.

Two months ago, I answered Miss Vermont's email. She is helping with the new Miss Vermont contest which is a preliminary to the Miss America Pageant in America.

I closed my email to her with the Suth African word

Ubuntu,

Wendy Stebbins

(Ubuntu means "I am who I am because of who we are together).

I just heard back from her. She was so taken aback by and impressed with the meaning of UBUNTU that she made it the theme for the three day Miss Vermont contest. Now hundreds know the word, it's meaning and saw a role model follwing it.They will become absorbed with the word, tell others and others will tell even more. It is a reminder of what Mother Teresa said "Progress does not happen by extraordinary people. Progress is made by ordinary people doing extraordinary things". Today I am going to "put my money where my mouth is" as we say in America and walk my talk, turn my words into action. Each person I meet,l I am going to look them in the eyes, smile and say "Hi".

I already did one ubuntu action today. I was about to leave a store, saw two mothers with their babies in their carriages. They were going to have to clumsiliy manipulate the doors to get through. So, without an eye blink I said "Let me help". I opened the door, they passed through easily. That was that. We went our separate ways. May sound little but I believe the simplest gift we can give is our energy.

I want to and plan to accomplish on a grand scale. In the meantime, there are a lot of little caring behaviors I can do that say "I care about you".

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Wendyiscalm's picture

SHAME IS MY HONOR BADGE

Frm my memoir "Hell In The Hallways...but I'm Beginning To See The Light"

Question: How do you get over the shame you mentioned?

Answer: Shame is my honor badge. I honor it. I hug it. I lived it. I have become great in spite of it.

But I don't try to minimize it. I don't. It is a part of who I am. You may be great and never had to go through what I went through. But look at me. I am great AND I had to overcome this too. If you didn't have the opportunity, my greatness is different than your greatness.

I do know that the gift is in the problem. The opportunity is in the problem. Let's face it. I do not think any of us would be on WORLD PULSE helping vulnerable women if we had not been disadvantaged or vulnerable ourselves in some huge, life-altering way. So, we are gifted. Now let's use our gifts of sensitivity and courage as an opportunity together to show and change the world. UBUNTU: I AM WHO I AM BECAUSE OF WHO WE ARE TOGETHER.

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Wendyiscalm's picture

SIGN ON MY DESK

:Where are your wounds?" God asked.

"I have no wounds," I said

"No wounds? Was there nothing worth fighting for?" God asked.

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Wendyiscalm's picture

Sign on my entrance wall

""EVERY DECISION YOU MAKE DECIDES IF SOMEONE IN THE WORLD WILL CELEBRATE OR CRY"

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

I have found education is not the number one problem. That is simplistic.

As I travelled to the huts of my vulnerable children and heard the screams in the night of 2-4 year olds because they were cold and had no blankets or warmth on the mud ground and I saw the looks of horror and hopelessness in the aunties and grandmother's eyes, I realized again, that we must have a comprehensive way to understand ALL the layers of problems. First I bought blankets.

The needs are great butnot singlular.

For example, Levy, who is one of my sponsored street orphans has an Auntie Grace. She and her husband have a one room hut and about 15 people sleep in it. But they do not have food daily. Sometimes she can get a large sweet potato and cut it into 15 pieces, one for each person.

Last week I got an email from Levy who did piecework for the money to use the internet cafe. He told me his Auntie has malaria, a bad cough and she no longer can lay on either side because it hurts so bad. He said it is because of her kidney. This, I knew was not good and she would die. The family, such that it was, was falling apart. I emailed another street orphan who is intelligent. I told him to take the day off school, to go get Grace, take her by taxi to the doctors, and get a second opinion and medicine, food for her and whatever was needed. I knew I could not afford kidney surgery but I wired the money to cover everything else.

I got a report back that it was not her kidney. The pain is because her ribs are all pushed together because she so often carries heavy firewood and other heavy things to go to sell at the market to be able to buy food. I told Derick to have a meeting at Grace's place and tell the high school kids, her husband, her brother and all, SHAME. From now on, others must get the firewood and not let Grace lift anything even if they have to get up early before school to do it.

Now what if I did not have knowledge of this. What if I thought education was first. I would have missed the point about how subservient women, young girls are treated.

I have a water program. The doctor here in America told me the reason so many street orphans there do not have energy, a memory or a clear mind is not because of lack of food but because of dehydration. My kids are required to drink 8 glasses of water a day. In 3 1/2 months I saw a noticeable difference in their energy level and clear headedness. But what if I did not have this knowledge.

It is clear from Bill Gates longitudinal study that if a mother has a disease when she is pregnant, the child will always be born with an I.Q. of 80 or less. They are uneducatable. And if their I.Q. is normal they are ALL damaged.I see this in reality. BUT there are always exceptions, diamonds in the rough. That is my committment. To understand, to educate myself about traditions and customs and to be there "hands on" which I believe is necessary as part of the solution to this very serious multi-layer of problems.

Would like to hear your thoughts on this.

Wendy Stebbins

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Amei's picture

basic needs must be met

Food, shelter, security comes before we can talk about education.

My struggles made me stronger and sensitive to peoples needs. I care for people and discuss issues with them. Some learn to change the situation others are self blaming or blaming others. I found that I can only help people who want to change and take actions. Others who believe the situation is beyond their control is harder to help. As you mentioned the adults who do not help each other and want to receive are in the harder to change category.

Yet, basic needs must be met for people to even consider anything beyond suppressing the pains of hunger.

What we need to keep in mind is that with new knowledge of brain fluidity it is possible for these kids who are affected to improve or change the capacity of the brain. It will take time but there is hope. To keep the brain active is key to the improvement. We have to find strategies that works with individuals. We must touch the desires of the individuals. Anything is possible.

You are on the right track. Be positive and do what is possible in a given situation and we will be doing a lot better than we can imagine.

All the best
Amei

Wendyiscalm's picture

Still relevant

Hi Amei,

Foir some reason I was reading over again some of my older posts and responses and came upon this one from you. It is so profound because you are SO right. I think when more volunteers, missionaries, teachers in third world countries, etc. understand this, there will be more sustainable progress..

This is actually an important piece that I wish every NGO, volunteer and Missionary doing work in foreign lands could read.

Hope all is well with you.

Ubuntu,

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins
Founder/CEO
I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

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