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la vionlence dans nos famille

Après reflection , avoir toutes les vionlences par ci par la tous ses hommes qui violent ils viennent tous de nos familles, s'ils le font a l'exterieur, donc ce n'est pas la 1e fois ,dans nos familles afriquaines les femmes ont peur de dennoncer tous ce qui se passe pour ne pas etre mal vues au sein de notre societe .nous meme nous entretenons ses violences sans le savoir en nous taisant. Il faut avoir le courage de dire nom. Nous vivons dans la proximite dans nos centres villes une maison avec 2 chambres 1 pour les paremts 1 autre pour les enfants avec les oncles, tantes , filles et garcons . Est ce que les parents savent ce qui se passe dans l'autre chambre. Etant enfant de 6 ans j'ai ete violee plusieur fois par un oncle qui etudiais chez nous passions la nuit dans une petite chambre . Grace a notre organisation aujourd'hui je peux le dire.

English translation by PulseWire member ngalula

Violence in Our Family

After thinking about it, all violences that happen here are coming from men of our families. They do it outside, hence is not the first time in our African families women are scared to denounce what happens. They don’t want to be pointed at in our society. We as well accept those violences when we don’t talk about it. We need to courage to say names. We live next to the center of the city, in a house with two rooms, one for the parents and one for the children with the uncles, aunties, boys and girls. Do parents know what happens in the other room? When I was six years old, I was raped many times by my uncle who was studying and was spending the night at our place in a small room. Thanks to our organisation today I can say that.

This story was written for World Pulse’s Ending Violence Against Women Digital Action Campaign.

World Pulse believes that women's stories, recommendations, and collective rising leadership can—and will—bring an end to gender-based violence. The EVAW Campaign elicits powerful content from women on the ground, strengthens their confidence as vocal grassroots leaders, and ensures that influencers and powerful institutions hear their stories.
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ngalula's picture

translation: violence in our family

After thinking about it, all violences that happen here are coming from men of our families. They do it outside, hence is not the first time in our African families women are scared to denounce what happens. They don’t want to be pointed at in our society. We as well accept those violences when we don’t talk about it. We need to courage to say names. We live next to the center of the city, in a house with two rooms, one for the parents and one for the children with the uncles, aunties, boys and girls. Do parents know what happens in the other room? When I was six years old, I was raped many times by my uncle who was studying and was spending the night at our place in a small room. Thanks to our organisation today I can say that.

:: Beatrice Ngalula Kabutakapua
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William's picture

speaking out

Dear jeannehalisi,

Thank you for your courage in writing this article and making us aware that if women want violence to stop, they must be willing to risk telling others about it when it occurs. I'm sure that after sharing this experience with those of us in WorldPulse, who care about you and every girl and woman in the world, you are now better prepared to tell your story again. Thank you again for your courageous sharing and I hope you are aware of your new strength.

Zaira.I's picture

First Step

Dear jeannehalisi,

You are absolutely right. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. The first step to ending any problem is awareness. Making people aware that a problem exists. When you share your experiences, you help thousands of other women. You speak for those who cannot. Thank you for helping us in our fight to end injustice against women.

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Sexual Violence in the Family

Dear jeannehalisi

Your story is very powerful! Thank you for sharing it with us. It must be one of the most difficult stories to share with an audience but im sure it will help numerous young women who are in similar situations.

I keep thinking if young women knew more about themselves, about the fact that they can say no to a man, would this help? would it help to openly discuss sex with educators?

irina

Irina Costache

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Correspondance

Bon jour Neema,
Cel que je à fait longtemp que je n'ai pas été en contact avec vous ni même faire suite à ma correspondance. je compte m'y mettre très prochainement; mais en ouvrant ma boite je n'ai eu aucun message de ta part. Je suis un peu souffrante, j'ai des troubles de ménopause qui ne me laisse pas en paix et un agenda de travil très surchargé. Demais je fairai suite à mes commentaires pour que les autres puissenrt me lire. Envoie moi ton programme car apartir de Lundi 27 nous pouvons nous voir si tu es à bukavu. Mes salutation à ton Mari.

la votre Jeanne Halisi

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Correspondance

Bon jour, william, Zaira. I, Irina Costa!
Je vous remerci beaucoup de m'avoir lu et me faire vos appreciations , j'en suis ravie. A présent je n'ai pas suffisament à vous dire; mais seulement nous allons partager ensemble cette experience:

Je suis formatrice en alpabétisation des adultes, et du moment que je vous suis entrain de vous écrire je suis en pleine formation à Burhinyi , Territoire de Mwenga, province du sud Kivu,RDC. Dans nos programmes, nous avons le devoir de sensibiliser les alphabétiseurs que nous formons pour encadrer les mamans et les jeunes filles à 80% analphabètes violentées sur la non-reconnaissance de leurs droits en titre d'héritage( Dans leur village, les femmes ne doivent pas hériter des biens familiaux; celà est éxclusif aux enfants garçons). Notre sensibilisation a porté sur comment amèner ces victimes à la prise de conscience de leurs droits suivant le code de la famille congolais.

A notre grande surprise certains alphabétiseurs en majorité des hommes, leaders locaux, ont refuser en disant que jamais les femmes n'hériteront de leurs biens, quelque soient ce que dit la loi. Ces femmes meurtriées,et marginalisées que deviendront elles dans ce monde dépourvu de justice?

Jeanne Halisi

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