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Marvelous Mum

"My Marvelous Mum" is the theme of 101 Anniversary International Women Day celebration in Cambodia. From early this month until 8 march, there are several activities both the Government and civil society.The speech of His Majesty King Samdech Me Norodom Monineth will voice through out the country by local TV and radio channel.

For NGOs and other civil society will also conduct their activities. Like Women's Radio FM 102 MHz, local radio station of Women s' Media Center of Cambodia, none-profit organization work for Gender Equality for Cambodian society, will celebrate it's 13th anniversary of the radio establishment since 1999.

Talk about one of grassroots group call the messenger band, the girls band grew from the Women garment worker empowerment project since 2005, they compose the songs about the life , the hardship of the grassroots group of garment workers, poor farmer and sex workers. For 8 March this year, the group will perform the song and conduct Role play near their factory to entertain as well as provoke the consciousness among worker to come together for their struggle over their poor working condition and low wage.

For me, "My Marvelous mother " is really touch my hart deeply, because I am not really sure my mother inspire me , I feel really painful to say it frankly, I know that it is really evil thinking.

I used to feel disappoint with her. I never get any encouragement form her when I did something good, but contrast she will used very bitter word when I did something wrong. As I remember, when I pass Exam.. or I got award from school as an outstanding student. I hope they come, but I did not see the... like to see them stay with me when I am success. They say they very busy with their work, but I think differently. I saw only my friends' parent come to encourage and cheers them. when I was young I did not aware that encouragement is powerful to me. But when I grow I believe that encourage is play important role in my inner soul, it will build my confident, my success. I start to realized that the satisfactions in the past will horn me in the present. I find very hard to control my anxiety, I am easily give up when I face problem or not success. I feel frustrate with my future career . My decision making is weak. I found my self sick and my memory is ruin, I sometime find hard to call the name of my colleagues or say thing properly. When I have a lot of thing to do I became anxiety and lost self control , even though I know how to manage them but evil feeling always interrupt and error thing occur.

The time has passed, what ever I think about her in the past but for now I always think good about her and pity her ,I try to forgive.I know she really strong and clever, my father too . Both of them work every hard, they can sent me to University, support my brother and sister to get higher education . Whatever I think about her in the past but for now I always think good about her and pity her ,I try to forgive, I know she also in the hard time too, because my younger sister left her and come to stay with me since she have long upset with my mother several thing.

This is bad feeling that I used to fail into unexpectedly. I try to find out why I feel bad so far. later on I realized that I upset because I am not satisfy with my family in the past and with my self too that I am also in the tough time when my second baby was born. Once, I knew how anxiety she was and how pain she feel when my father betray her and have date with the girl outside.

Now every thing is better when we all try to communicate with sympathy .That bad feeling was become disappear when I try to thing positively, keep reading book, open my hart to new focus, listen to the encourage word and I also got encourage from my spouse and my little two kids.

Whatever happen to you please be a " Marvelous Mum " to be a leader of your child. Your child need you to PRESENCE Not PRESENTs

Let celebrate for Super Mum this year !!!!

Kunthea, Cambodia

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Sarvina's picture

Re: Marvelous Mum

Hi bong Kunthea,

I am so happy to read your powerful piece. I am so touched by your beautiful story. I understand it is really hard when stood to receive our academic award without seeing our parents - it is really sad. It is such a discouraged thing for all children anyways, your mother is a wonderful mom in the world so you decided to forgive her is great that every children should do.

Your story makes me so moved to know how your life is...I am sure you will know how to be happy when you drop all the past and accept for today for what your mom is doing. I know she is very happy to see your happiness now.

I can say that I have a very wonderful parents to hold my hands each time I feel I wanna drop doing something but most times I got award - my parents never present there too. It was sad for me too when I saw other students stood with their parents but I just told myself that my parents are always in my heart and they are always behind me.

Encourage and Support are very powerful to push us go forward!

I love your writing so much sister. It is really inspiring:)

Happy International Women's Day...! You are a SUPER Mom!

Lots of Love,

Sarvina from Cambodia

Regards,

Sarvina from Cambodia
VOF 2011 Correspondent

Hin Kunthea's picture

Thanks

Thanks Sarvina that you have read my writing, and thanks for your encourage word, . It really important to move out from the circle of evil feeling. I more I feel bad about anyone, the more i hurt. Hating, angry ...revenge can not solve anything, instead it make the situation become wost. I used to come across this bitter period and I do not want to repeat it again, it really painful and suffering. When I recall this feeling , I can not stop my tear from falling down , it really emotion to my life. Now I just keep it as my lesson learn. When I try to be more open, I see my problem is nothing... it just a dark period and have been passed through. I really ashamed I can believe that it happen to my life. I have read what you shear with Loy 9 " the strong see problem as challenging and opportunity.... the problem is just temporary. That was great and inspire word to me. You still young but you so powerful. Wish you success.

Thanks again.

Kunthea

Sarvina's picture

Hi bong Kunthea,Exactly, you

Hi bong Kunthea,

Exactly, you have a very powerful story to share us and also to people around the world. You are strong enough to push out the bad things happened in the past and drag for what is happening and and future. It is great doing open mind and accept the lesson learnt!

I have also had many disappointing things that I haven't succeeded in my life but i still keep doing and wishing for what I want. You know when I studied in grade 9, I heard about WMC and I really wanted to work for this organization but I have never had a chance to be offered a job at all. At first, my application was rejected and second one was shortlised but still failed but I have never been hopeless even I was not selected because I just think it is starting so I will always keep trying and applying when the suitable time is coming.

So it is like you too, absolutely, people will easily drop or give up things we cannot do or succeed and I was ever like that too. But now, I think I am like a new person so I always go go...for our future, children, family and country.

You are powerful:) Smile will bring you a Happiness and Hope!

Happy International women's day!

Love,

Sarvina

Regards,

Sarvina from Cambodia
VOF 2011 Correspondent

Hin Kunthea's picture

Thanks,

Great , you are right, success person never give up. and we are what we think.... I try to remind from what I have read from one psychology book said " detect catastrophic thinking" mean detect negative self talk and "dispute the irrational assumption". I will go back to read more about that part and I will shear to you and other too, it really inspire me, it made me think for more insight, it talk about stress management. When I stress, i always go back to this book, I read it two times, but i can not remember it clearly. English and ability to understand thing is still my constraint I need to read it more. People sometime make me sad, yet the book will always make me happy and hopeful. You see I think like that again. It is a negative self talk when I think someone make me unhappy. It actually, I my self not happy , i was come from us. No one make us not happy but ourselves, our choice. Buddha said , human need to take care their heart/ mind / soul, it come from inside.

Good luck sister, Wish you success what you dream for.

Kunthea

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