Getting to empowerment
Every time I talk with my menthor I close the skype being a more aware and rich human being. She makes me travel to the deepest myself to bring out important reflections that allow me to go on and keep self confidence. I would like to share with you what I've been learning during this program.
One of the most important issues in life is to know yourself. you can't empower yourself if you do not know your potential. Each person has a way and there's no people better than others: there are people who are challenged by life differently than others. There are different skills that are developed according to these challenges.
So do not waste energy admiring the garden of your neighbor: grow your own, and please share the fruits of your garden. Noone knows everything but all we can benefit from the knowledge of others if we share it. Think about this: The key to empowerment is not to know everything: Is to identify,ignite and share.
Identify: Always be honest with yourself. If you love lists like me, write one of your strengths and one of your weaknesses. Then reflect on your strengths and identifies the 5 most important, the top 5 you would like to develop or those that are essential to achieving your goals. Then go to your weaknesses. Do not be shy, we all have weaknesses.The good news is that in every weakness sleeps a challenge and if you face it, will bring out the best from you.
Life is a dark night. You do not know what will come. It's like driving a car in the middle of the night. The lights only let you see one meter ahead. It's really scary, but remember something: You're in charge of the machine. If you know yourself enough you will know how your engine works and what kind of oil you need to keep the car of your goals moving on.
Ignite: Think about how your body transforms fat into energy. Well, empowerment has a lot of spinning bycycle like: It involves a great effort, work and discipline. And commitment: is not enough the desire, you have to work, sweat and not give up at the first try.
Empowerment is not about doing everything yourself: If you need help you have to ask, do not hesitate to involve others in achieving your goals. The best way to learn something is to teach it. We are social beings, we are born to live in society. No one can change the world alone. I think one of the great lessons of this program is this: We can not help other women if first we do not help ourselves, and then each other. Help yourself, including asking for help, is not weakness, is wisdom.
Share: Talk to others about your experiences and what you have learned. Perhaps you inspires them to have a better life and a few words can make a difference.
An important part of sharing, is sharing with yourself: What you give to the world, you have to give it first to you. Sounds easy but it is not. If you do not feel peace, compassion and joy, you can`t bring this with sincerity to others. No matter what you've done, mistakes, if you've hurt someone, or if someone hurt you: Forgive and you can forgive. No matter your mistakes, what matters is that you can learn and change. Nothing is so bad that force you to stop loving yourself.
I always say this: If for every mistake we make, we put a stone of a kilo of weight on our back, we would work too much
quickly to correct our mistakes as soon as possible, because the weight would not allow us to walk, think or breathe. However, we torture the mind and soul over and over again with the cries of our bad moments. Carrying a backpack with ourselves and others' mistakes, is spending life playing the victim. What it exists is: Human beings facing hard times, unfair situations with terrible consequences. No pain is more important than another. There is no suffering that deserves more compassion over another. What we all deserve is to heal and a new opportunity to move forward.
How I know all this? Many times I failed, I made mistakes, I was exposed to unfair situations. I never thought I was not able to go over them, even when I felt miserable many times.I know I have to get along with problems, not problems with me. I am who I am not despite my bad experiences, but because them. That allowed me to bring out my natural wisdom. I know now better who I am: I have the conviction I am a woman of convictions.