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Sometimes things go wrong. Very wrong. Few days back I heard a story about a woman who got married to an established business man. Her parents were happy. She thought she is going to have a beautiful life with this person. But that person had some other intentions infact. He started using her as a sex slave. Here, I want to say something about our South Asian societies. No matter what nation it may be, we have some similarities. We think pronouncing the term "sex slave" is reprehensible. For this mentality, if someone is even used like that, she is not supported. Instead, it is considered that may be the woman has some gestures/ some behaviors for which men are attracted to her. As it is the woman's fault, let her be in that situation. We believe in closing our eyes, ears and thinking that the problem is solved. We never realize how the victim must have been feeling, being used like that. Well, let me get back to my story. The husband started using her as a sex slave, which means she was forced to sleep with whomever her husband wanted her to. I think those days were most horrifying days for her life. She let her mother know. But her mother did not take any initiative to save her from that condition. She lived in that condition for almost six years and after that she escaped from her husband's house and went to her father. She told him everything. And her father filed a case against that person.

My point is, the lady could be saved from this condition just after the first incident, as she informed her mother. But her mother feared the society and did not say anything to anyone. Did this help? It did not. She endured this for a very long time and became a living dead. What good did this bring to the society? She had dreamt a beautiful life, not to be a public property; which she was forced to become.

Whatever religion you are from, wedding is treated as a very sacred bond. Through wedding a husband promises his wife his deepest love, his fullest devotion and his tenderest care. I just wonder, how on earth, this bond can be disgraced like this!!!!????

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olutosin's picture

Similar Case in Lagos

Thanks my sister.

I heard about a society in Lagos now where the couples shared sex among members. There are for instance 25 husbands and 25 wives, you can sleep with anyone in the club. Let us be careful of all these secret societies and men of easy virtues. Women must not remain gullible.

It is a new development we must fight against.

So Sad many victims are silent.....Hmmmnnnnn.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

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dowla911's picture

Yes sister.When I hear these,

Yes sister.When I hear these, I feel so suffocated. Just wish, some issues could have ever lasting solutions..

Be safe sister.. :)

Live life with love...

Unfortunately, this 'praxis' of using women as an object is spread all over the world. You can see it with different scarves, and as you say dowla911 one of the most ridiculous 'justifications' is that we have done something to provoke.

many false patterns & believes are falling, and there is lot of work spreading the true meanings, as well as building the new.

Olutosin, I totally agree, we must do something.
I'm developing a project that gets to the core, so we can really change this. I centered my research in an area deep down in the rainforest of Peru.
I believe that to MAKE IT HAPPEN we have to center in the future generations, try to influence to girls & boys - specially in the teenage (this one is quite difficult).

So good we get together and build it!!

thanks both of you!!

nuria g. puigarnau
http://nurandco.wordpress.com
@nurcoco

Unfortunately, this 'praxis' of using women as an object is spread all over the world. You can see it with different scarves, and as you say dowla911 one of the most ridiculous 'justifications' is that we have done something to provoke.

many false patterns & believes are falling, and there is lot of work spreading the true meanings, as well as building the new.

Olutosin, I totally agree, we must do something.
I'm developing a project that gets to the core, so we can really change this. I centered my research in an area deep down in the rainforest of Peru.
I believe that to MAKE IT HAPPEN we have to center in the future generations, try to influence to girls & boys - specially in the teenage (this one is quite difficult).

So good we get together and build it!!

thanks both of you!!

nuria g. puigarnau
http://nurandco.wordpress.com
@nurcoco

dowla911's picture

Yes... Any activity regarding

Yes... Any activity regarding this should be encouraged throughout the world.... Let me know if I can be of any help with your project.... I'll always try my best to work with this... Need to draw this issue in limelight...

Thank you

Live life with love...

nurcoco's picture

thanks I'll do

thanks!! I'm working so it is very important that we join all that are concerned and each one help in her area.

Love. Light & protection!!

nuria g. puigarnau
http://nurandco.wordpress.com
@nurcoco

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