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Girl’s education: Sizzling inside patriarchy

College is closed for winter vacation, and I am finally home. After 6 months of being far from my home, I feel so comfortable and so warm on my own old wooden bed where I used to lie and dream for over ten years. I rise early and eagerly from my comfort, though it is into the shivery cold, so I can sit near mother in the kitchen where she is making tea to welcome the golden break of day. As I step down toward the yard from my room toward the kitchen I see Sita Aunt, who lives next door, sitting near the door of our kitchen. She gives me a glare filled with stuffs of her narrow mind because I am not a girl as she wants to see. I just give her a smile and ask her how she is.

Mother’s traditional, wood burning clay stove has been making the kitchen room smoky, so mother is coughing and wiping her tears with the hem of her sari. She scolds me out of the room to protect me, though she Is surrounded by that nasty smoke. The tenderness of my mother’s heart touches me instantly and deeply. As I watch her there, I feel deeply my gratitude for her extraordinary support of my learning, remembering how she always did what she could to support my ability to go to school and study, always encouraging me to advance to higher education. The role she played, the love she showered, the care she gave was surely a mark of a special mother.

Entering the kitchen, I see a pile of plates and cooking pots from last night’s dinner. I pick them up and turn to the nearby tap to wash. Being able to do this again after being gone from home brings me warm and toasty feelings inside, so my hands ignore the sensation of the frosty water.

But suddenly I shiver, as I hear the shrill words from Sita Aunt, who continues to watch me from the kitchen door. “It’s useless for girls to study; in the end her job will be washing dishes!” Being reminded of the hard reality of this devastating attitude immediately drives away the warmth of my comfort at being home. This doesn’t surprise me though. I already acknowledged her narrow attitude many years before when she made her two daughters leave school when we were in second grade together.

My mind flashes back to the day when my two intimate and beloved friends were pulled from school. I had wept as I begged Sita aunt to allow my friends to stay in school. But my tears only won me her outrage: “It’s enough studying for my daughters. They know enough to read their husband’s letters. If they study more, they will chase other boys.”

Woman who can read and write is accused of witchcraft

Basanti was my middle-aged neighboring aunt. She always used to carry a stick when she left the house. I still remember the garland of Rudraksh seed, a seed used for prayers in the mainstream Hindu tradition that she wore around her neck. When I used to be at her home she always appeared sitting with the Ramayana, the Mahabharata and other Hindu religious books. I was fond of listening to her tell stories from them which were filled with spirituality, peace, love, courage and diplomacy. I loved her soft voice, peaceful behavior and the love and respect she used to show to everyone. Somehow, this woman whom I idolized was being accused of witchcraft.

At that time I was too young to analyze those matters deeply. I asked my mother about these accusations, and she explained, “People think that women who read religious books and chant mantras are witches. Since most of the people in our society are illiterate, they believe that she must be using witchcraft to be able to do that. And for her to be so involved in the religious practices that men usually do, that frightens them too. So they accuse her and try to make here an outcast.”Oh! This revelation infuriated me. My mother’s words that “most of the people are illiterate,” was completely new to me at that time, and suddenly I realized how people’s illiteracy set their minds to misinterpret things! I then felt the effect of illiteracy on our culture. My respect for her increased.

Core Bias toward Girls and Women in Nepalese Culture

The mindset of Sita aunt and the story of Basanti aunt reflect the reality of Nepalese society where the people who cover more than half of the sky -- girls and women -- have been denied education due to social and cultural values.

The educational system in Nepal did begin to reform after the overthrow of the Rana regime in 1950. Before then, getting a chance to study was nearly impossible for common people. After the Rana regime, common Nepalese boys were able to enroll in school. Even girls’ opportunities rose at this time. According to the data published by the Nepalese Ministry of Education (2011 At a Glance) girl’s education rate between 1952 and 1954 was 0.7%. By 1960 it reached up to 1.8%. Over twenty years later, in 1981, the rate increased to 12% and in 1991, when the multi-party democratic system began after the end of the Panchayat regime, and in 2001 when the Maoist armed conflict was at its peak, 25.0% and 42.8% of girls were in school, respectively. Political change did have a positive impact on cultural norms for education, including the rate of female’s literacy, but in my experience the tragedy of girls losing the chance for education continues, and more change is desperately needed.

Different patterns of discrimination - the one closest to my heart

Poverty is one of the root barriers to education for everyone, but especially for girls. After finishing my intermediate level, I joined organizations working in remote villages. This experience highlighted this problem for me. Some families who were very poor would not send any children to school, but if any government school was nearby they would send their boys – and boys only. Families with some resources would send their daughters to government school and boys to private boarding school.

In a hilly region where I served more than a year an example of this bias especially touched my heart.

Pashang and Tshering were brother and sister, only 1 and 1/2 years apart. I used to bring them gifts of chocolate when I visited their village close to where I worked. To see them together going to school always with lots of desires and hopes brought a smile to my heart. I used to thank their parents.

Once after a short break I went back to visit them, and as soon as I caught a glance of Tshering, shivers washed over me. There during the school day Tshering sat in her yard with her school uniform on, feeding her little brother. I asked her why she wasn’t in school, and her eyes became moist. She leaned her head toward the ground. When her mother gave birth to a new baby, Tshering was forced to leave school to care for him while her parents worked. They did not ask her brother Pashang to leave school, because as their son he would be their crutch in old age. The son is regarded as the source of support for parents in their old age, the key to open the door of heaven after their death. The girls on the other hand are given away, to become the property of others.

Tshering’s tears struck me so severely. Though education is equally important to everyone, it is always the girls who will be denied the right to it.

I touched Tshering’s rosy cheeks to wipe the teardrops from her eyes. I pulled her to me inside my arm and could feel the heaving of her sobs and the pounding of her heart as she cried to return to school. I was helpless to make her dream come true as her parents had no other option for caring for their baby while they worked.

I remembered Tshering telling me her dreams long before, and those spoiled desires stuck me to the core. The bitter reality of either having to leave school or never getting to go to school at all is still alive in my country. When I am reminded of it, I see Tshering’s tear. Unfortunately, as the Book Nepali women Rising by Prativa Subedi explains, 77% of girls between 6-15 years old leave school.

Traditional values remain a barrier to education for girls. Menstruation is still considered impure, and during that time it is considered a sin to touch books or go school. A study shows that 65.6% of female teachers still maintain this belief (Status of Female Teachers in Nepal, by Bishta M., published by UNESCO, 2006) and this practice definitely affect the girl’s attendance in school. Likewise, the Undersecretary of the Ministry of Education, Mr. Babukaji Karki admits that social values and religious beliefs are key factors that hold girls back in all aspects of their lives including education. He clarifies that the situation is changing just as discrimination is changing.

Government’s strategy: Ray of hope

Education is a fundamental right for everyone. It makes us dignified, confident and skilled. Gratefully, the government understands this and has introduced many strategies to increase girls’ literacy rate. The Ministry of Education has launched the requirement to recruit two female teachers in each school to increase the number of girl students, and the result is satisfactory. Similarly, girls’ feeder hostels have been providing shelter and food for many girls from remote parts to attend school. The government already started to construct separate toilets for girls because most of the girls in village are absent during their menstruation due to lack of toilet.

This has helped to some extent. In comparison with previous times, there is hope for the future. We must strive to equalize the ratio between girls’ and boys’ education, not only in urban areas but also in remote villages where females’ literacy rate is less than in urban areas.

The government’s policy is a valuable start, but before sustainable, meaningful change can occur it is essential to transform the conservative, discriminating mindset of our culture.

First teacher is the mother

Education starts from one’s own family, and the first teacher is always the mother. Her attitude and support play the vital role in the likelihood daughters will be educated. My mother, being just a literate woman in stereotypic society, played an indispensable role in enabling me to achieve my education career. And yes, I want to make my daughter a dignified person by providing her a good education. The Nepalese government’s Non Formal Education program, education provided informally to illiterate people in their community, is very effective. This program must be continued and conducted especially for the rural women who are living their life in dark without education. That can effectively help many mothers to be literate.

What we learn in school is very important to develop our frame of mind. So a school’s curriculum must be influential. As stories easily influence the children’s mind, stories that are included in courses can be focusing on girl’s education by making the example of how an educated girl/ woman/ mother can make a society happy and developed. Such a curriculum would influence all the students, increasing support for educating girls across families and communities.

And this is the fact that we must understand: if we educate our daughter she will make her children rich by her valuable skill and she will make our son in law’s family happy. Is not that what makes a society happy?

Nepalese society needs to keep in mind Mahatma Gandhi’s observation: “Educating a man is educating an individual, while educating a woman is educating a family.”

This article is part of a writing assignment for Voices of Our Future a program of World Pulse that provides rigorous new media and citizen journalism training for grassroots women leaders. World Pulse lifts and unites the voices of women from some of the most unheard regions of the world.

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Stella Paul's picture

Memories relived

Dear Boini

I am so glad to have returned from my trip, finished my own Module 2 assignment in time. Now I can read all the stories and enlighten myself like I did during our application period last year.

As you can understand, I have started with you (yes, I am a little biased towards you :)

And it has relived my memories of Kathmandu. Your little daughter whom you are giving good education. And I am also reminded that you wanted to write well in English. Well, congrats sister, you have done it! Your writing has got all the ability to touch one's heart. And I am happy that you are continuing with the issue that matters most to you: girls' education.

Keep writing, keep spreading the word and hammering the point that no girl should go without education.

Love

Stella Paul
Twitter: @stellasglobe

usha kc's picture

Though it's short we had

Though it's short we had unforgtable memory in Parkvillage and ofcourse in Bus:)
Thank you so very much for always encouraging me sister.

much hugs

Celine's picture

So Happy to Read this

Dear Usha,

I concur with you, YES, education makes women highly skilled, hence they spread enlightenment to their children, spouses, extended homes and the society. Sure, the extension makes the society happy, peaceful and progressive. Keep up spreading the good news of importance of girl education.

Well done dear sister for the good work. I am always happy to read your posts.

Lots of my hugs from far away Nigeria.

Celine.

usha kc's picture

Celine ,, Thanx a lot dear

Celine ,,
Thanx a lot dear for your words on my writting.

lots of hugs and love from here too:)

One of Many's picture

flowing love and power

Dear Usha:

Ah, the amazing wonder of womanhood and education -- they add up to compassion, wisdom, and learning. And you are an excellent example!

I agree that the repression of women's schooling has been a tool of patriarchy to keep us down.

As you point out, that keeps the male world down, too!. Maybe with your insight and Gandhi's words, they will keep opening wider the doors to women.

So congratulations on your wonderful voice and passion. You light the fire in your readers!

Anna

Speaking my Peace

usha kc's picture

Anna didi, thank you so much

Anna didi,
thank you so much from my heart for your love, care, guidence and encouraging me always.

hugs:)

Monica Clarke's picture

Usha, dear Usha You should

Usha, dear Usha

You should write a book. And you should write it very quickly! You paint such vivid pictures with your words, dear Usha, pictures which took me back to my Sita Aunt, my mum's eldest sister, Aunty Lizzie she was called. I was scared of her and remember running away when she came into the room with her stiff back and pursed lips.

Your article took me back to our household of nine children, primus stoves, zink roof and mud paths, loving confusion full of good vibration and touch. Your words brought back the smells hidden in memories warm and some also still deeply hurting.

Please put me on your mailing list when that book is published!

With lots of admiration from Monica - and yes, Monica, too is biased towards Usha!

Monica Clarke, Writer & Storyteller, bringing human rights alive.
I wish you 'Nangamso', that is: May you continue to do the good work which you do so well.
(A blessing from my ancestors, the Khoikhoi, the first people of South Africa).

usha kc's picture

Monica sista, you

Monica sista,
you always boost me up by your heartfelt comments and thank you very much for encouraging me dear.
I wish I could write a book and for sure you will be the first to get my first book:))))))))

hugs

amiesissoho's picture

Thanks for the piece Usha.

Thanks for the piece Usha. As we get to change the mindset of children in school, we should also strive to change that of the parents, mothers in particular to be able to get the girls to school and maintain them to complete their education. I like your story telling style.

Amie

usha kc's picture

Thank you Amie for

Thank you Amie for comments.

Hug

treasureland's picture

Lovely piece...Usha

Nice one Usha. In-fact more women, I mean every woman should get education 'cos that's what gives us the VOICE we seek.

CHEERS

Ifesinachi

usha kc's picture

Dear Ife, thank you so much

Dear Ife, thank you so much for comments and putting your views.
love

tuulafai's picture

Another excellent piece

Dear Usha,

Your mother's quote is shocking to a female journalist like me covering spiritual news stories. I am so grateful to the many women of Nepal working toward women's equality in educational access, professional careers, and domestic matters. I am especially grateful to you for your insightful articles.

With Love, Tuula

“People think that women who read religious books and chant mantras are witches. Since most of the people in our society are illiterate, they believe that she must be using witchcraft to be able to do that. And for her to be so involved in the religious practices that men usually do, that frightens them too. So they accuse her and try to make here an outcast.”

usha kc's picture

Namaste Tuula didi, It's

Namaste Tuula didi,
It's wonderful to have your words on my post and yes am so glad too as you liked it very much.

thank you so much sista .

hugs

laurabstull's picture

Module 2

Usha,

I've so enjoyed reading your second assignment!

You so beautifully weave your own experience into the issue of education, making it relevant and engaging to the reader. And you've done so in such a descriptive, evocative manner! I also love that you've chosen such an essential topic to address: education. Education has repeatedly asserted itself as integral to solving so many overarching problems worldwide, and though we still have a long way to go, it's heartening to see women on the other side of the world who view it as I do!

Best of luck to you through the rest of the VOF process, I look forward to reading more from you!

Laura

usha kc's picture

Dear Laura thanks a lot for

Dear Laura thanks a lot for time you gave to read my post and yes it's so nice to have your nice comments.

thank you again for your best wishes.

luvs

mirette's picture

This is amazing Usha, your

This is amazing Usha, your story and description of your mother really touched my heart. And yes, we need more educated women, because an educated woman will sure raise up an educated children.

I'm also interested to learn more about the non-formal education programs that your government do with illiterate people, is it possible to send me more info. about it?

All the best,
Mirette

usha kc's picture

Mirette thank you so much

Mirette thank you so much friend. I am really happy that my post could touch you.
I will share you about Non Formal Education program conducted by Nepalese Government. I will share it after 2,3 days as I am now hurry up to visit my village and will be back soon.

love you sista.

sabitap99's picture

education the only hope.

Dear Usha,
I love the way you write. I strongly believe that girl's education is the only hope and the last string that we can hold on to, to make this world better place; equality, fairness comes with an education.
keep it up.
always loving teri paudel sabita : )

usha kc's picture

Thank you my fren. :)

Ruun Abdi's picture

Anotha great post!!!

Dearest Usha,

Thanks for taking this vivid topic and presenting it so well! I enjoyed reading your post as always. Of course educating a man is just educating one individual but educating a woman/girl is educating a whole society.

Cheers!

usha kc's picture

Hi Ruun, Thank you so much

Hi Ruun,
Thank you so much for your words sista.

noreens's picture

I felt as if I was sitting

I felt as if I was sitting with your mother and Sita Aunt at home!! Nice work Usha!

Noreen

usha kc's picture

Noreen, thanx dear

Noreen,
thanx dear for giving your time on my post to read and making comment.

Rachael Maddock-Hughes's picture

Wonderful!

What a fantastic job! You integrated your personal experience with statistics and background information perfectly--AND it was solutions oriented. I read your story, captured, from beginning to end.

Keep up the great work,

Rachael

"In every human heart there are a few passions that last a lifetime. They're with us from the moment we're born, and nothing can dilute their intensity." Rob Brezny

usha kc's picture

Rachael, it's my pleasure to

Rachael, it's my pleasure to have your comment.
thank yous so much.
hug

Pushpa Achanta's picture

Inspired!

Dear Usha,

I admire your courageous and candid piece. Hope you and your mother's achievement amidst continued socio-cultural taboos will encourage other women.

Best wishes for more success.

Warmth,
Pushpa

usha kc's picture

Dear Pushpa, so nice to

Dear Pushpa,
so nice to catch your comment on my post. thank you very much.

Julie Tomlin's picture

A skillful piece of writing

Dear Usha,

I really enjoyed reading your piece and the way that you weaved in the daily reality of you and your family's lives with the realities of life.
A great piece.

Yours,
Julie

@julietomlin

usha kc's picture

dear Julie I am happy that

dear Julie
I am happy that you enjoyed to read my post. thanx a lot for making comment.

mrbeckbeck's picture

Excellent work

Usha, dear... this is an incredible piece of writing. You've told a very personal story about a larger issue in your country...and indeed, a common story in many places around the world unfortunately. What's most striking to me is that you are a living example of what is possible when a girl is educated! Keep speaking out sister, show the way forward.

Thank you for your hard work and beautiful storytelling,
Scott

Scott Beck
World Pulse Online Community Manager

usha kc's picture

Hi Scott, thank you so much

Hi Scott,
thank you so much for your good words it' really encourage me to write more.

Paulina Lawsin's picture

Wow.. what a well written

Wow.. what a well written story Usha. Basanti reminds me of Joan of Arc... she have fought and won in many battles and she was accused of being a witch because she is a woman excelling in a traditionally men's job. And Tsering touched me. It happens in the Philippines, too where young girls have to quit school to take care of younger siblings. A lot of work needs to be done to increase literacy rates among girls and women in Nepal. Government has to invest in massive information campaign that will reach people like your aunt to make them realize the importance of education.

Your beautiful daughter can read well and sing "Juliet" eloquently at a young age because she has a grandmother who send her daughter too school. Let there be more mothers like you in Nepal.

With a lot of love from the Philippines,

Paulina

usha kc's picture

Sister Paulina, thank you

Sister Paulina, thank you very much for taking time to read and making such encouraging comments.

Oh!! you still rememeber my daughter's singing!! this song is her altime fav:)

take care ,, hugs

Paulina Lawsin's picture

Definitely. That was

Definitely. That was memorable. Good luck to us in our Op-Ed.

Paulina

Paulina Lawsin's picture

Wow.. what a well written

Wow.. what a well written story Usha. Basanti reminds me of Joan of Arc... she have fought and won in many battles and she was accused of being a witch because she is a woman excelling in a traditionally men's job. And Tsering touched me. It happens in the Philippines, too where young girls have to quit school to take care of younger siblings. A lot of work needs to be done to increase literacy rates among girls and women in Nepal. Government has to invest in massive information campaign that will reach people like your aunt to make them realize the importance of education.

Your beautiful daughter can read well and sing "Juliet" eloquently at a young age because she has a grandmother who send her daughter too school. Let there be more mothers like you in Nepal.

With a lot of love from the Philippines,

Paulina

MaDube's picture

Dear Usha

I THANK God for your mother, who refused to be shortsighted like the rest of society to think that the education of a girl child is not important. Were it not for her enlightenment, we would probably not know each other and what a loss that would have been for mankind. Indeed the education of girls is one of the most crucial steps in building a better world. The fight goes on and we shall succeed with people like you at the forefront.

Best,

MaDube

usha kc's picture

Dear Rumbi, thank you so

Dear Rumbi,
thank you so much for making comments on my post.
Yes, fight goes on and we shall secceed.

hugs

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