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NEW YEAR

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I am happy i mde it to this year and thank the almighty God for the guidance through out last year.

Last yea was not a very good year for me I lost my lovely husband, living made a single mother of a 6months old baby boy Themba, and as a widow life was not easy for me, I had to quite my job as my late husband want to inherit the house and most of our properties that we owned.

I faced life positively, its not a good experience at all and I understand all the widow what they go through. I thought what about old people who spend all their lives building what they have with their husband, on my side atleast I am still young I can work remary, get more kids......it make me sad and blame myself why didnt i stand up for my rights against my in-law?

Although I am still young, acording to my culture I am only allowed to date after a year....really what a lonely year was it for me, I cant not stay out at clubs or bars until late. When I heard all those dont and they only apply to women, but when a men loose a wife he is free to date even after burier of the wife.

And widow are stigmatised in the community poeple judge you and want to know wha kill your husband...It really makes me to repect my fellow widow in Africa and everywhere

Comments

Corine Milano's picture

Welcome

Dear Emms,

It is an honor to meet you on PulseWire—thank you for sharing your story with us. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband; what a hard and difficult thing to go through, especially with a new baby.

I hope that PulseWire can be a place where you can receive support from women around the world, and that the connections you make here will help make 2009 a year of inspiration and new growth.

With love,
Corine

Lisa's picture

Welcome, Emms

Hi Emms,

Welcome to our community space, PulseWire. It sounds like you have endured quite a lot over the past year. I hope you are able to connect with other African women involved with widow's rights advocacy here. Have you met PulseWire members Loran from Uganda (http://worldpulse.com/user/661) or Leonida from Kenya (http://worldpulse.com/user/635) yet?

Have you seen the Bold Ideas contest (http://worldpulse.com/pulsewire/groups/4595)? I would love to hear your ideas for Youth 2 Youth or ways to support widows in Namibia, Africa, or around the world.

Warm wishes,

Lisa

Emms's picture

Thanks Lisa I will surly get

Thanks Lisa I will surly get connected to other women.

Cheers
Emms

+264812557560
skype: emmsmich
tulinawa@gmail.com

jadefrank's picture

New Year indeed

Hi Emms,

There is something refreshing about changing over to a new year. Something about leaving the past behind and stepping fresh into new possibilities is energizing.

It sounds like this past year has been truly difficult for you and I am sorry to hear of your loss. I understand your frustrations of society forcing its own convenient ethics upon women, thinking that they know what is best for us and what they are most comfortable with. As women, we know that everyone is entitled to enjoy the freedom to choose their own path and personal journey through life, though unfortunately those rights aren't always easily within our reach.

I hope that you can connect here with other women who have been in your situation and who can provide compassion and guidance through this difficult period. As Lisa mentioned, there are members on PulseWire who are involved with widow's rights and I also urge you to connect with them.

Thank you for sharing your very personal story and I hope that you continue to speak out for widow's rights in your country!

Warm regards,
Jade

Emms's picture

Dear Jade Thanks, I will

Dear Jade

Thanks, I will defently connect with those other women

Cheers
Emms

+264812557560
skype: emmsmich
tulinawa@gmail.com

Nester's picture

still alive!

hi wolrd pulse sisters!

i 've been quiet since end of last year,i couldn't communicate with you guyz neither my group that i'm with here in Cape Town(South Africa) have had any word from me,i want all of you guyz to plz forgive me i love you and i will always do.
You are source of strength to me, a shoulder to cry on.

the reason why i was quiet is that i was facing a phase whereby i have to confess to my parents about my status that i am living with hiv,but i couldn't say it out until now it is bugging and disturbing me,co i cann't keep on advising people that i living with hiv and yet i'm also hiding it within myself so i'm praying that God will make it through.

i miss u guyz.
nester

jadefrank's picture

We are with you

Hi Nester,

It's so good to hear from you and know that you are well. I cannot imagine the difficulty of sharing the news of something like this with your family. I hope that they can offer you the love and support you need and deserve to be strong, but know that the PulseWire community supports you 100% and we are here to listen, nurture, and help you to celebrate your amazing achievements that you accomplish in life and with the Women Business Center. You are a strong, beautiful and courageous woman!

Warm regards,
Jade

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