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Women Just Loooove to Talk! (Or Do They?)

Over the course of the past few years, I’ve made the following (highly unscientific) observation: Women (myself included) remain mostly silent in the presence of men. From a professional work meeting to a social hour with friends, I’m noticing again and again that men constantly dominate conversations. Just watch: The next time you’re out for drinks with friends, notice how often the conversation is about sports or cars (or some other very “guy” topic) while the women all sit there looking incredibly bored, and then notice how often the conversation is about fashion or relationships (or some other “girly” topic). I bet you’ll never observe the latter. I’m dumbfounded as I watch and wonder, “Wait…why is it said that women are the yappers? These guys just blab, and blab, and blab…”

While I believe the reasons for this social behavior are many and complex (e.g. we’re socialized into letting the men take center stage, we’re raised to be “quiet, good girls,” etc) I believe one of the reasons is that we feel intimidated—especially when it comes to “guy” topics that we may wish to explore more (e.g. investing, car maintenance, etc.). I believe there’s a fear that if we ask questions and give our opinions on traditionally male topics, we’ll be spoken down to or made to feel stupid (And to be clear, I’m not saying that all men do this on a conscience level, or that all men do this at all). I have been there so many times, I cannot even count: I think of an idea, stay silent because I don’t think it’s a good idea, then kick myself when one of the guys voices the same idea…and everyone agrees it was good!

So what does any of this have to do with my personal vision? I desire to create a safe place where women in my target audience can speak up without feeling intimidated. By offering a blog that is packaged and tailored towards women who want to learn how to tool around—whether they *want* to for fun, or whether they *have* to because they don’t have a tool-savvy man in their life—I wish to offer a judgment-free space that embraces and enhances our feminine side, our masculine side, and everything in between.

Becoming a Voices of Our Future Correspondent would provide me with the tools and coaching I need to become a better, more influential writer. It would open opportunities to expand my vision and my voice to a larger audience—via magazines, websites, and newspapers. As World Pulse and Voices of Our Future program partners such as the Op-Ed Project know very well: The world is in desperate need of more women voices. We must recondition ourselves to believe that our questions are worth asking, and that our ideas our worth sharing. More women need to speak up! And I would like the opportunity to lead the way.

Comments

Stella Paul's picture

Good luck!

Thanks for sharing this and reminding everyone the need for speaking aloud. I wish you all the luck and really hope that you become a VOF!

Stella Paul
Twitter: @stellasglobe

Kenia's picture

Thanks!

Thank you Stella! :)

Kenia Perez
CoFounder, www.MsJaneOfAllTrades.com

marieb76's picture

Knowledge is power and until

Knowledge is power and until women feel comfortable owning that power, men will dominate is most avenues. Strong work recognizing that need and trying to develop a vehicle to help fill the void :)

Bryne Atkinson

Emily Garcia's picture

Thank you!

Hi Kenia,

Thank you for sharing! I can absolutely relate to what you've written about here and I think you have fabulous ideas about encouraging women to learn about traditional 'masculine' activities if they have a genuine need or interest in them. I'm also generally the silent type when in the presence of a group of men, but even find myself using self- deprecating language when I'm not silent...like 'well, I don't really know much about X". And I noticed that you too qualified what I consider your highly important observation as "highly unscientific" as though to discount it. Studying social science myself, I think this observation can lead to some very significant avenues of scientific inquiry that has relevance to so many lives...mine included!

By the way, I'm so impressed by the diverse interests you've listed in your profile--you're an engineer, a writer, a yogi--I know you have so much great knowledge to share and I'm looking forward to reading more from you!

Best wishes and thanks again!

Emily

Emily Garcia
World Pulse Online Community Associate

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