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Lighting candles

A candle looses nothing by lighting another

My vision : A world where women believe in themselves and are confident to be themselves; whether it is a doctor, a teacher, lawyer, farmers, entrepreneur, or a mother.

One of my favorite poems of all times is these words by Marianne Williamson. They may sound cliché but ring true for me who has been held back by fear in the past

" Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

But to be all we can be in our journey of life, we need people who pour into us. This is how I look at my life; someone poured of themselves or sowed the seeds of greatness into me.

“There is no such thing as a 'self-made' man. We are made up of thousands of others. Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success." - George Burton Adams (1851-1925)

I would never be where I am if teachers did not pour into my life. (I highly respect teachers for the many lives they build everyday sadly most of their work goes unrecognized). In campus we lecturers who trained our intellect, shaped our world views and helped chart our lives. My favorite lecturers were those that besides training us on academic excellence also poured of themselves during lectures. They taught us their fears, struggle and shared their successes.

For some it was through the simple words like “You can do this “and sometimes it was by asking, “what do you want to do?’ They made me believe I could be what I wanted to be.

Strangers have also poured into my life. Some said nothing, but the things they never said were always heard. Their lives spoke to me. My aunties and friends have also poured greatness into my life.My grandmother sowed into my mother’s life then my mother sowed into sisters and my life…and so the chain continues….

Back to my vision; I want to help build women’s confidence so that they believe they can the best they can be.
How do I want to do this? My vision is to start mentorship programme for girls in high schools. I went to a boarding school where we had “school mums. This were girls who a year or two ahead of us. We were required to do the same for the students who came after us. They were, meant to be our “coaches.” The problem is that most some of us didn’t know how to be mothers and were only mother by name. How can I coach you if I haven’t been coached?

That’s where Pulswire comes in. I hope to learn how to be a coach to someone else., I live by the mantra that a candle looses nothing by lighting another. I think of my life as a candle, and sometimes the wind blows and as much as I want to keep burning the fire goes off. Everyday many women stop by and through the stories we get inspired, challenged and roused out of our comfortable places. WP is a place where I can come and relight my wick.

Being a part of the VOF will help me do the same for the girls in my country. All I want to do is light is candles that will light others when mine burns out.

Comments

SSBrashear's picture

Beautiful!

Thank you for sharing!! I am going to take that mantra with me... "a candle loses nothing by lighting another"... thank you :)

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Thanks SS...

That's what I an talking about! sparking a light in someone's life with just a simple line like that makes the difference..

Light some candles today.

Cheers,

Y

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Stella Paul's picture

Like I always say

Dear Girl
A lot of times one doesn't reach the destination not because the road is tough, but because the traveler doesn't know which is her destination. You know where you want to be and like I always say, you have what it takes to reach your goal. Bunches of good luck!!!

Stella Paul
Twitter: @stellasglobe

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Thanks Stella. I appreciate your comments and encouragement during the four weeks we have been here. I hope we shall keep in touch.

Cheers,

Y

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Stella Paul's picture

Like I always say

Dear Girl
A lot of times one doesn't reach the destination not because the road is tough, but because the traveler doesn't know which is her destination. You know where you want to be and like I always say, you have what it takes to reach your goal. Bunches of good luck!!!

Stella Paul
Twitter: @stellasglobe

Sahro's picture

I love this piece. It is so

I love this piece. It is so uplifting!

Founder of the We Are The Generation Of Possibilities Movement #WeAreTheGenerationOfPossibilities #Somalia
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YAOtieno's picture

Thanks Sister....

Thanks Saro....

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usha kc's picture

Ah!! Yao ,, good one dear, I

Ah!! Yao ,, good one dear, I enjoyed to read and liked the Mantra. great !

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks Bahini

Thanks Bahini! I am glad you enjoyed the article and the that you like the Mantra. It is a simple truth to live by.

Cheers,

Y

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

usha kc's picture

Sister is it your final

Sister is it your final tagging????? if so please make correction dear.

YAOtieno's picture

Done

Thanks Usha.

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Akech's picture

Hey Y! I like your mantra

Hey Y!

I like your mantra too. Candles need each other to burn brighter! If we continually work together supporting each other, women will become more powerful, burning brighter!

Nakutakia Kila la heri!

Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.

YAOtieno's picture

Asante

Hi Aketch,

You can say that again. Nawe pia nakutakia hila na heri ( I wish you joy)

Cheers,

Y

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Adepeju's picture

Your school mum reference

Your school mum reference brought memories... Many of us had school mothers and were mothers to others back then :-)

The place of mentorship in life's journey cannot be overemphasised. Its essence is found in the chain development theory which has been captured in your mantra. Light others so that others can be lighted too.

Good job YAOtieno!

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks Ade

Wow! you also had that in Naija? Interesting. Those are fond memories. XX years after high school I am still in touch with my school mum and daugters, Are you ?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on mentorship and for your compliments.

Cheers,

Y

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Carlotta's picture

Thanks a lot for a very

Thanks a lot for a very beautiful and inspiring article. I always feel disappointed when the men around me laugh at how women cannot get along. I have found a place here where the sisterhood is quite overwhelming and I'm sure it will teach us all to stop bickering at each other and instead light each other's candles. Absolutely beautiful, i liked it a lot. i do a lot of cross stitch and this is one article i wish i could cross stitch and hang on my wall so i can always read it.

YAOtieno's picture

Cross stitching

Thanks Carlotta. I am really touched by your comments.Yes, I am also happy to be here and very happy to see how everyone is supporting the other.You have my permission to go ahead and use it ...

Cheers,

Y

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MaDube's picture

I like the idea that 'there

I like the idea that 'there are no self made wo/men. We are all made up of the substance of the other.' That is why Revolutions are more successful than coups, assassination attempts or any of the single-man attempts at removing despotic leaders. The collective builds much quicker than the single hand. Thanks for reminding us.:-)

YAOtieno's picture

You see it

Thanks Madube. You seem to see what I am saying.

Cheers,

Y

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usha kc's picture

dear Sis, I am so glad after

dear Sis, I am so glad after talking to you. it's so exciting to me. I am so eager to meet you. after Dashain festival i will invite to my home dear.......huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..

seee you !

YAOtieno's picture

Same here

Thanks Love!

It was exciting to talk to you too! Enjoy the holiday and see you when you get back

Cheers,

Y

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usha kc's picture

I also read you blog Slice of

I also read you blog Slice of Nepal and it's so good to read dear. But me too felt sorry for the bad experience you do have by people !!! just ignore them and you rightly have analysed it's cause. it's due to they very rarely see the African people and they are curious about so..
sorry form my side too.

YAOtieno's picture

Dhan yavad

Thanks for reading my blog and for your constant encouragement.

Cheers,

Y

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Ruun Abdi's picture

Amazing!

This is a great and inspiring post. I also loved your mantra. :)

YAOtieno's picture

Glad

Thanks Ruun,

Glad you got some inspiration. Been reading your articles too and i am greatly touched by your dedication to Somalia

Cheers,

Y

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mirette's picture

You are truly a candle

This is impressive YAOtieno, it's one of the few articles that really touched my soul. It looks like we have a similar goal in our lives. I hope we can keep in touch and give each other support and strength throughout the way. I'd love to read more of your insights and stories.

All the best,

Mirette
Egypt

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Hi Mirette,

I feel humbled by your comments and everyone else's comments on this article. The tree weeks of assignment slowly gave me confidence to share my vision no matter how dumb I felt it was. It is what burns in my soul. I am happy to see we are birds of a feather. I strongly believe change begins with one person who them influences others. Just like you I hope that we can stay in touch, learn m exchange ideas and help keep each other's candles burning.

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment on my article.

Xoxox

Y

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Okeny-Lucia's picture

Keep smiling

Hey Sister
This is a Tsunami of women determined to say yes we can and we will always.Time is ripe.The Candle will shine on our path and we shall march into the battlefield armed with good thoughts and deeds.
Thank you for your suppport.

Lucia Buyanza
Reproductive Health

Okeny-Lucia's picture

Keep smiling

Hey Sister
This is a Tsunami of women determined to say yes we can and we will always.Time is ripe.The Candle will shine on our path and we shall march into the battlefield armed with good thoughts and deeds.
Thank you for your suppport.

Lucia Buyanza
Reproductive Health

YAOtieno's picture

Good to see you

Hi Lucia,

Good to see you here. And yes the WP Tsunami is on its way..:-). Really glad to connect with you. You are an inspiration.I admire the work you are doing with nurses. Thanks for the encouragement and lets keep chatting inbox.

Cheers,

Y

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Okeny-Lucia's picture

Sure dear Sister

Hello,
Thank you too,when I see your mail I remember the old school days fright satge,ahahahh .You are still in Nepal?

And I have read all your posts ,it is a post to reckon.Goodnight.You can check my last assignment.
Goodevening

Lucia Buyanza
Reproductive Health

YAOtieno's picture

Done

Thanks Lucia,

Yes Ia m still in Nepal, My old school days...Lol!

Just read your article. Thanks for sharing and congrats on your participation in such an important conference.

Keep writing

Cheers

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Rita Raj's picture

Mantra

How powerful and beautifully simple ! Thanks

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Thanks Rita,

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Greengirl's picture

Hello Dear

I was fortunate to read your piece, and was really and truly inspired by the mantra you used. You know what that did for me, it made me pick up the candle by my bedside. You know what I did next? I lifted it in honour of your unique speaking voice. It is not just another candle. I and other women from around the world who attended a Women's Leadership Training, were given the candle as a symbol of our being women leaders for the world. It is quite a big candle bearing the inscription " Whole Woman, Whole Leader, Whole World. Being one your self, I bet you would inspire many others to attain by lighting them up. Be reminded too that you will never burn out.

With due honour to you,

Olanike.

YAOtieno's picture

Humbled

Hi Olanika,

I dont know how to respond to your comments-I feel humbled, You gesture has left me speechless. I hope that I can light more candles by touching the lives of others directly or through an online platform. May your kindness and generosity be rewarded. Keep the candle of your life burning bright.

Cheers,

Y

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Celine's picture

Yeah, I Love this

Yeah Sister Y. I love your caption.
Women are the light of the world. You cannot light candle and put under but on top. Yeah women, let's shinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnne. We are the light, WP, the candle upon which we are lighted.

Celine

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Thanks Celine

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amiesissoho's picture

Lightinhg other candles

"I want to do is light [is] candles that will light others when mine burns out." You just want to give back; as you said people contributed to creating who you are today, it's good to give back. This vision is clear.

Amie

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks Ame..., I appreciate

Thanks Ame...,

I appreciate your comments. My task now is to know how to use Web 2.0 to light other candles.

PS> Checked out your website and I am impressed by the work you are doing in Gambia using alternative media. Keep up the good work.

Cheers,

Y

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Maggs's picture

Somehow the candle thing

Somehow the candle thing reminded me of "The wife of Bath" lol! Don't mind me, jus being silly. But seriously, I have, from the beginning noticed that salient thread in your messages and am sure the world will be brighter than it is today when your vision is realised. You've already lit couple alreadty
8-)

maggs

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

thanks Love,

Now you got me reading The wife of Bath. I hadn't heard of it before....:-)

Keep shining,

Cheers,

Y

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sallysmithr's picture

Great post

I love your vision and that was a beautiful poem. I truly appreciate what you are trying to do and am glad I was able to hear your vision and I support you every step of the way.

Good luck with everything and thank you so much for sharing.

Sally Smith

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Thanks for reqading and commenting Sally

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cassie_levy's picture

Great mantra and great

Great mantra and great vision! I hope it is achieved!

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks Cassie

Thanks Cassie

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Tari Andrea's picture

Then, the good action comes..

Hi Y!!

I love the way you tell your vision, it is so GREAT!! I keep my faith in you with all your plans. To have an impact in community we have to engage in various ways, you are the Candle among yours. In my opinion, being the chosen 1 of 30 women is not a big deal. All we do is more meaningful. Best of luck!

Warmest,

Tari
Indonesia

--
M&E of The Global Fund to Fight AIDS, Tuberculosis, and Malaria
Indonesia

"Be the change that you wish to change." - Mahatma Gandhi.

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Hi Tia,

I am touched by your comments. and I believe that you too are a candle among your community!

All the best,

Cheers,

Y

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