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Ushering in a Change

In a patriarchal society, where men are the dominant gender and the women are always considered second to them, it’s very difficult for anyone to come and try to change the social mentality. Especially, it is difficult for women to join any conversation to make people see the difference between right and wrong.

Most of the time, the ones who oppose new ideas are women themselves. They can be seen protecting traditions and norms that are derogatory towards women and trying to make the young girls comply to them too. One of the reasons for this is their lack of education. And by education I don’t only mean a school education but their lack of life skill education.
If they do not have any knowledge about the life skills that they need to empower themselves, only bookish education won’t suffice. If I need to bring changes to the society I will need to empower women by informing them about the various life skills that they need to overcome difficulties of everyday life.

Encouraging them to talk about their problems openly which they hide and suffer silently in shame and mostly in fear of what others might think of them could possibly initiate the change. Writing about these social issues through blogs, articles helps create a platform for discussion and awareness, helping to bring these issues to everyone’s attention and make others realize the importance of bringing social change apart from encouraging to be part of it.

Pulse Wire is one of the most successful examples of how people can create social change through discussion. When you start sharing your thoughts about something that you are concerned about to online communities, you not only make others aware to the different issues in the world but are forcing them to think about it and making them realize the fact that they too can help in ushering in the change.

This quote by John Hersey has always inspired me and it perfectly sums up what I think about bringing change.

“The reality is that changes are coming... They must come. You must share in bringing them.”
~John Hersey~


Titilope's picture

I have often heard that women

I have often heard that women are their own worst enemies, this is also reflected in your article. It may be true but when women have been socialized to see themselves as part of patriachy and to ensure its continuity, it may be difficult to change their mindset. dismantling patriachy from the pschic of women is a task that those of us who understand the issues must tackle.

Ariee's picture

Thaks Titilope

Thanks Titilope for your insightful comment .
I totally agree to the fact that women think the way they do about certain norms since they've been socialized that way. But when you start questioning them and talking about them with your peers, change is possible.

Thanks for taking the time out to read my article :)

Astha Joshi

Monica Clarke's picture

It's we, all of us, we...

Dearest Ariee

Thank you for your very insightful article. I am one of those women, Ariee, who was ignorant and suffered "silently in shame and mostly in fear of what others might think ...". But I am also an educated woman. I have the certificates on my wall to show this, I also have the certificated scars on my body and mind to prove it.

It is part of our responsibilty as women, all of us, to share these scars with each other, and as you say, to write about these things and to discuss them together as you are doing in this Pulse Wire community. Bless you for speaking up.

We are all in this together, although sometimes it seems that we might consider ourselves apart because of our privilege or so-called education. But in reality we are in the same, very same boat, travelling down the same river which keeps us together. We already have all the lifeskills we need, they are our birthright as women, for we reflect the femininity of creation, we are the reflection of feminine Mother Earth. Sometimes, perhaps, our innate wisdom is overshadowed by the harshness of everyday life and keeping house and home together. Thank God then for young sunbeams like you and our other PulseWire sisters, who come and gently wipe our tears away and disperse our fears, thus allowing our faces once again to radiate, for when the clouds of despair and self-doubt are removed our natural wisdom comes forth.

Thanks for being in that boat with me, Ariee, and with all of us who are trying to find solutions so that our children and grandchildren will see a better future than we have.

Lots of loving from Monica in France

Monica Clarke, Writer & Storyteller, bringing human rights alive.
I wish you 'Nangamso', that is: May you continue to do the good work which you do so well.
(A blessing from my ancestors, the Khoikhoi, the first people of South Africa).

Ariee's picture

Thankyou so much

Thankyou Monica for sharing your story with me and your thoughtful insights. Thanks for inspiring me to write even more and especially for taking the time out to read my article :) It's so good to know a very brave woman like you through Pulse wire..:)

Astha Joshi

YAOtieno's picture

Speak up

Hi Arya,

I agree with you that we need to =Encourage women to talk about their problems openly which they hide and suffer silently in shame and mostly in fear of what others might think of them could possibly initiate the change.

My observation is that women in Nepal seem quite ---even when suffering......

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

Ariee's picture

Hey Yaotieno

Hey Yaotieno!

You are correct... Most of the women in Nepal be it educated, uneducated are very hesitant to talk about issues they face. It's mainly because of the society we live in where it's not considered proper to disucss personal problems with strangers as it might hurt the family's prestige. So, that's why they silently suffer every problem they face in life.

Thanks for reading my article :)

Astha Joshi

Jency's picture

We are taught not to be vocal

We are taught not to be vocal about our problems. And when we do decide to come out in the open, we have to face all kids of barbs. The first advice a woman getting married used to get was - dont bring the problems you face in your 'new' home to your 'old' home. Because of this women have been suffering in silence, reduced to the level of a maid in the household. But slowly things are changing. I am sure with voices like yours gaining ground, there is more improvement in the offing.


Ariee's picture


Hey Jency!

Thankyou for taking the time out to read my article and for your comments:)

Astha Joshi

sunita.basnet's picture

Re: Ushering Change


I totally agree with you but the question is how can grassroots women who are poor, illiterate and busy with their domestic chores benefitted from the discussion and publication. It will never reach to their level. Here the change should be from bottom up approach rather than top down approach.

Perhaps what we can do is collect the unheard stories, ask them their needs and mainstream their practical and strategic needs in social, economic and political institutions. What do you think?

I would also love to hear how you can contribute to this positive change. Please send me the link for your next assignment so that I can go through it directly.


With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

sahar's picture

great words!

great words!


Sahar Nuraddin

follow me @snuraddin
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing."
- Helen Keller

DinaYazdani's picture

Very true!


Thank you for writing! Your words on the importance of a wholestic education couldn't ring anymore true. I agree that one of the first steps women should take to becoming more independent is to be able to express themselves--through the internet, blog, and media as you talked about in your assignment. You discussed a problem, and the solutions you see to that problem. Great work, keep on writing!

Much thanks,

Twitter- MojoThinkTank

jackiesw's picture

so important!


Thank you for what you wrote about the importance of educating women in order to change their beliefs about systems and practices that are hurting them. Something we don't always think about.

Keep up the good work!


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