View from my window
I watched her as she came flying out of the house, I could not quite make out what she or he was saying but from the way she was huddled on the ground I assumed she was begging him to forgive her. I stood there in utter shock as she ran after him as he sped off in his fancy sports car and for a moment she disappeared in the dust. When she reappeared it was like she realised how much noise she must have been making and from the look on her face she was hoping the neighbours did not hear a thing. She quickly gathered up her clothes that were scattered on the driveway, looked around to make sure no one was looking and ran back in her house. I stood there baffled and short for words. A week later I was shocked to meet this lady at the mall looking all putting together in her Jimmy Choos, I saw how people around looked at her in admiration, but if I didn’t know better I would probably be gawking at her too.
This incident made me realise that there could be so many abused women in our community BUT the society itself sometimes makes it difficult for these women to come out in the open. The thought of everyone knowing what this “put together” woman is going through just terrifies them and they take the easy way out and suffer in SILENCE. Marriage is a sacred union that should be protected BUT if that same man who promised you heaven and earth is the very person who is making you feel unworthy is this then not fair to continue pushing that women back (like most of our mothers do). If it was not seen as taboo to report abuse by one’s own husband wont more women speak out?
I feel there should be outreach programmes formed that cater specifically for women abuse where women who have been through it go and speak out so that the ones in such situations will realise that they are not alone and might start coming out of those closets. These programmes should be visual as well with pictures showing the extent this abuse within one’s home can get to if no action is taken by the woman in it and the community she is in.
A platform like pulseware can help those who have access to the internet as they can air out their concerns and not have to worry about using their real names and being found out. Other women who have been and overcome similar situations can then help out and women will know they won’t have to suffer alone in SILENCE.
From what I saw from my window I now feel that only after you have walked a mile or two in someone’s pretty pink Jimmy Choos, will you understand how they might just be wishing they were you in your worn out pumps……..