I am marriage-less, They Think so!
Journey is a very challenging word to me. It does makes me close my eyes and remember how past years of my life were. I am an Egyptian woman, finished the first year of my third decade. The age of maturity but age of burdens and blames.
Though I brought up in a middle- class family to parents that could not finish their education, I was blessed by their help and support that made me finish my high education in a reputable college and to work in an international organization as a journalist. I traveled a lot, which something that was abnormal to the community I live in. Traditions say that it is not good for single ladies to travel alone. But I took the blame and traveled to Europe, America, and Asia, caring less to the voices that pointing at me whispering that I break the traditions and live on my own, in such an eastern community. Parents supported me so much, but still neighbors and family members show no understanding.
Coming to the age of burdens, being a single in 30s is not a funny fact. In traditional communities it may become a shame for the woman to stay without marriage till this age. This has less to do with religion, but more to do with customs and traditions. Woman stays without marriage it means she is not desirable, she is not a well- mannered woman, or she suffers from a complex that holds her to be approached by men.
No matter what rank you reach, what education you gained, or what good personality you are, people will talk about your weak point, seeing you marriage-less, as if it is your fault. Woman in her 30s must go and bring a husband, otherwise she will be underestimated. Left to age blame and marriage-less blame.
I live this dilemma, and I hate hearing questions from family members, neighbors, and friends about why I did not marry yet. Some even advise me to accept any suitors whether he is the right man to me or not. Main target is “marriage” per se.
As love is a vital condition for marriage, mutual understanding, intimacy, and matching are important pillars in good martial relations. To some in eastern people, it suffices that man loves woman, it does not matter if she loves him or not. She will get used to him!
For me, I never give up. It is my right to find the suitable partner, no matter how old I am. But to some other women, stress can make them accept any body, or to decide to get married and then divorced, only for the sake of shutting up the tongues that blame them.
I have a vision and a belief which is I am what I want to be. I am an entity, body and soul, created to decide for myself.
As for marriage, I want it, but at the end of the day the decision is mine, not their.