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I speak for myself

Growing up in Zambia, a girl child is told not to speak until spoken to, especially by the father. When a girl becomes a teen, she is advised to stay as far away from her father and brothers as possible.
When she grows up, she is told not to talk back to her husband.
If she is lucky and is allowed to go to school and later find work, a man will usually get more money for the same work.
I went through most of that. I was taught to keep quiet and to keep my thoughts to myself. No one was interested in what I had to say.
When I was given a chance to speak, I was not taken seriously. Even when I grew up and started working, my ideas were brushed aside and when my male colleagues suggested the same thing, it was praised and taken up.
On June 16, 2011, I lost my job. I was depressed and bitter. I was dismissed suddenly, with no benefits (after four years) and without warning. I remember forgetting to get on a bus when going home but somehow I managed to walk in the right direction and after what felt like a life time, I finally arrived home.
During the weeks that followed, I walked from office to office trying to find someone to help me with my situation. I hit a huge brick wall.
With the help of friends, I managed to get over my job loss.
One particular friend who helped me enormously was Brenda Zulu, a New Media Journalist. She opened my eyes to this field of journalism that I was so blank about.
Brenda lit a fire in me that I could not control. I went crazy!! I visited her every day during the weeks that followed. When she was not available, I used search engines to for information on new media.
Despite lecturers from Brenda on new media, I began to notice that there was a lot that I didn’t know; I still don’t understand many things. This led to my search for training.
One day, I was browsing through the IJNET website when I saw the Voice of Our Future advert. I was so excited. I visited the site right away and you can never begin to understand my happiness when I read the words “if no one speaks for you, speak for yourself.” I thought finally, I can speak for me!!!
In my former job, my opinion was not allowed in any of my work. I spoke for everybody else except me.
Since, I signed up for VOF, I have already learnt many things. I see my story in many tales that I have read on the site.
I look forward to one day owning my own new media platform and I have no doubt that the knowledge I would have acquired from here will be the very foundation that will make that dream come true.

Comments

Breese's picture

So glad your journey brought

So glad your journey brought you here, and hope PulseWire can help you achieve your goals!

Mutale kapekele's picture

Thank u

I am so glad too Breese. This is the place to be.

Iryna's picture

Keep on smiling

Mutale, your story is incredible. I think women are stronger than men. Not to be crashed, keep on with optimistic attitude after life hit you so many times, I believe, only a woman can do it. You are a real woman and you have all to be proud of yourself ;)

Mutale kapekele's picture

I am smiling

I am smiling because I am happy to meet people like you. Thank you for your kind words. Yes I believe women are strong, we dont break easily like men. Stay blessed.

Chinemu's picture

Incredible

Muta, indeed you speak for yourself, this is an incredible story, touching though,

Mutale kapekele's picture

Thanks Chinemu.

Thanks Chinemu.

viochan's picture

Great post!

Dear Mutale,
As you may have already discovered - through this platform and in your own country - you are not alone. Women all over the world are told to keep quiet, they are told they have no worth, nothing to contribute. And as you've also found out, women are amazing, strong, intelligent and beautiful. We sometimes need a bit of help, but we can do *anything* we set our minds to.

So I hope you use your newfound power to show our sisters in Zambia and the world how unbelievably strong they can be! Lead the way, dear friend!

Peace,

Violeta

Mutale kapekele's picture

Thanks

Thanks Violeta.
I am begining to understand that women are treated in the same degrading manner in many parts of the world. And you know what, its because men realised long ago that a woman was more powerful and they created a defence mechanism of bring us down to make us feel lower than they are. I am so happy to have friends like you on Pulse who are alive to the fact that woman is indeed powerful!
Stay blessed.

bluepearl2001's picture

You Have A Voice!

To be silenced is one of the cruelest afflictions. For a generation of girls and young women to be silenced--now that is a crime! Your story represents the struggle of ALL girls and women, even here in America where I live.

I could feel your power in your story, Mutale. Perhaps being silenced for so many years was the very thing that inspired you to now speak up for yourself, LOUD AND CLEAR. And in doing so, you will also empower more girls and young women to stand with you and to speak their own truth. In this way, all over the world, we will see more women shining forth in spectacular ways--in their homes, in their families, in the work place, in our schools, and in the politial realm. When that day comes, watch out world! Women will be an even greater force to be reckoned with!

Keep writing, Mutale. Keep learning and reaching for your dreams! Never be silent when you have something to say! I look foward to hearing more from you.

Blessings to you!

Mutale kapekele's picture

I am happy to speak

Hi bluepearl.
Thank you so much for your encouraging words, they mean a lot to me. One of my attractions to Pulse was to have people like you as friends. I know that here, I am perfectly understood. Thankx

jap21's picture

Hi Mutale

I am so glad to know that you are now empowered to raise your voice loud, loud!

This is what we need here in World Pulse: women proud of raising their voices, and happy to show us the path!

Thank you.

Love,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Mutale kapekele's picture

Jackie

Thanks Jackie. I am also glad to finally have a voice and to meet you.
Stay blessed.
Mutale

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