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MY PERSONAL STORY

I was brought up by a single parent, my mother. I was made to understand that my father abandoned her when she got pregnant for me saying he was not responsible for the pregnancy. My mother in that emotional trauma and her little salary had to bring me up despite the challenges. She had to work extra hard to provide for my needs.
So, I went through school not knowing who my dad was and suffering from low self esteem and acceptance. This is because, where I come from, one who did know his/her father was considered a ‘bastard’ and was mocked at. I had to yield to peer pressure just to gain acceptance from my mates.
Haven seen all what my mother had gone through, my heart was hardened. I considered myself the unfortunate one who was not raised by both parents. I was not able to have all my needs because my mum could not afford. I didn’t have a voice in the family or community since I was considered a bastard as it is commonly called. I could not express myself freely because I considered myself less important and inferior to those raised by both parents. I grew up with this intimidation and I did not want to mention any thing about my father. This made me not to believe even in myself. It’s like there was no future for girls like me. Always filled with regrets, I thought my life would have been much better if I had the opportunity like other children to be raised in a home of love and care from both parents.
The upbringing and well-being of children need the presence of both parents. I know what it feels like to grow up with psychological stress and have to face the world and all it challenges. Fathers and mothers need to be part of the child’s development in order to make him/her strong and confident.
It is humiliating to be in a society where you are considered an ‘outcast’ that is one with no paternal background and have to bear your mother’s family name; always living in isolation.
After high school, I decided to read Journalism in the University, hoping that I wouldn’t be silent anymore but rather have the opportunity to make my voice heard by others. But unfortunately, it was not the case. Then a friend introduced me to world pulse online community, and encouraged me to use the forum as a means of speaking up and speaking my mind so as to bring about social change.
I believe there are other girls or women out there who have faced or still facing the same situation and need to be empowered by others like me, to build their confidence. I know this is a unique platform for me to make my dream/vision come true.

Comments

Stella Paul's picture

Yes dear

Yes dear Rita

There are other women who have faced this discrimination, this struggle and difficulties that you did. You are not alone. And you will never be alone. You are a great survivor, a woman of strength and daughter of another courageous and strong woman. Be proud, be happy that you are different enough to stand tall in the crowd.

A hug!

Stella Paul
Twitter: @stellasglobe

Ritabest's picture

Thanks a lot Stella. I know I

Thanks a lot Stella. I know I am not alone and that there are many more out there who need to survive as well. Reason why am part of the world pulse community so as to make the difference.

Best wishes
Ritabest

Nezed's picture

Dear Ritabest, You are

Dear Ritabest, You are speaking and the world has stopped to listen... Well written! Thumbs up!

I do not aim for Perfection; Just excellence!

Ritabest's picture

Hey Nezed, thanks so much. Am

Hey Nezed, thanks so much. Am glad to hear that.

Kind regards
Ritabest

Rakiba's picture

I was in state of shock..How

I was in state of shock..How hard must be your childhood when most of them enjoyed their childhood....!! But,your inspiration is your mom and you are our inspiration..Keep this inspiration flag high in the sky...

With all my support,
Rakiba

Ritabest's picture

Hi Rakiba, it was so nice

Hi Rakiba, it was so nice reading from you and i want to say thanks. My childhood was indeed hard but am glad to have had such a courageous mother. She really did inspire me and am glad i can equally inspire others out there.

Ritabest

KaitlynMalk's picture

What a story

Hello Rita,

Thanks for sharing your story! Well written, I enjoyed reading it. Keep making a difference!

Kaitlyn

Ritabest's picture

Hi, am glad to see your

Hi, am glad to see your comment and thanks so much. Please to know you also enjoyed reading my story and i know together we will all make a difference.

Ritabest

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