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Yes! We have options and we have rights

I was born in a small town in Brazil and as soon as I graduated from High School I moved to São Paulo. What was my dream? Earn one million dollar and to conquer not only the biggest city in Brazil, but the world. I became a journalist. I worked for international companies and nonprofit organizations; I met interesting people and thought my life was just fine. But something, inside of me, kept saying: you can do more. So I started to think about studying Human Rights. I should definitely do more. But life is unexpected. When I was going to apply I got married and moved to the US, Mexico and, now, back to the US. In 2005, my first son was born. This will sound cheesy and cliché, but motherhood completely changed my mind about how to pursue my career as a journalist.

Since 2006, I ´ve been working with a friend of mine to create a social network with mothers who write on blogs. Our goal is to bring new information and motivate them to think beyond their everyday lives by learning or sharing their thoughts about humanized delivery, domestic violence, racism, feminism, work, Women Healthy, Children´s Rights, miscarriage, abortion and other issues.

Why mothers? For me motherhood is the greatest challenge so far. I love being a mother, although most of the time I feel lonely and guilty. When I miscarriage I felt horrible, I felt guilty and I felt shame. I was all by myself with my thoughts trying to understand why me in a very selfish way. Why not me? 10 to 25% of all clinically recognized pregnancies end up in miscarriage. Even though I am a graduate woman with a master degree I was completely ignorant about the subject.

Last year I started writing a series of posts about miscarriage and, so far, I am amazed by the response and collaboration from the readers who started sharing their own experiences. One of them, inclusive, had the D&C (Dilation and Curettage) procedure performed without her consent. They didn´t explained to her about the risks, about the procedure. She learned reading the posts. This is not an isolated case. In Brazil and other countries in development this happens every day, sadly. It happens with miscarriage, it happens with C-Section (90% rate in private clinics), it happens with a lot of other things. I feel that women no longer have the choice and they will only regain it by learning more about their options and rights. Learning that, yes, they do have an option.

We don´t need to deal with our fears and doubts as mothers and as women alone. We can learn from each other. I do not feel the urge to conquer the world by myself. If I can reach to other mothers and motivate each of them to reach their own community I believe that together we can spread the word to the world. I believe that as a mother I have one of the greatest responsibilities in the world: raise a good woman, a good man and contributing to make at least my community a better place.

By doing this I no longer live in a shell. I am citizen of the world.

Comments

YAOtieno's picture

Thanks

Hi Sueli,

Thanks for sharing your story. I enjoyed reading it. The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.

Y.

A candle looses nothing my lighting another

MaDube's picture

Dear Sueli

Thank you for your story.

One prospective mother to another mother (well I am not even pregnant yet but would love to have kids someday) I would like to know about your site and learn more because I think I am one of those women with a Masters Degree but I am ignorant about the subject of child birth and all that comes with it. Can you share the site with me, please?

Best,

MaDube

sueli sueishi's picture

Thanks MaDube

Thanks for your kind words MaDube!

The blog address is http://blogdodesabafodemae.blogspot.com/search/?q=aborto

I write in Portuguese, but soon I will start to translate some of the posts here in my journals.

Sueli

MaDube's picture

Ah yes

I saw the blog. All Portuguese. I shall wait to read the English versions in your journal then.

SallyB's picture

Inspirational!

Beautiful piece on the power of community and motherhood!

Noriah Ismail's picture

Wonderful Aim and Vision

You have a strong, deeply rooted vision and desire to be the best mother and

help others to know and gain their rights.

Keep on fighting for the rights of women.

After all, nothing of great value in this life comes easily.

Best,
Noriah

Dr.Noriah Ismail
Senior Lecturer
Academy of Language Studies
UiTM Segamat Johor
Malaysia

sueli sueishi's picture

You are right!

Noriah,

Definetly nothing of great value comes easily. And here I have the opportunity to meet with wonderful women who do extraordinary thing with so little. This is a lesson of great value!

Thanks for your kind words
Sueli

LauraB's picture

Great piece

Sueli,

Your journal is spot on- bringing your life experiences, dreams, hopes, disappointments into the public realm- change, awareness, community.

I think you will affect many women as you share what you learn about motherhood.

No need to conquer the world by yourself- you have your people - right here! We do it together.

Nicely done. I really look forward to hearing more from you.

Best,

- Laura

sueli sueishi's picture

I am not alone!

Laura,

I feel lucky to be part of world pulse and have the oppportunity to meet so many wonderful women. Since I have my sons, I feel this huge responsability over my sholders so I started writing to interact with other women ... and the response is so amazing. I am glad I am not alone!

Thanks for your words
Sueli

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