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What if the right one is married

by Gertrude Bvindi | September 8, 2011 at 2:56 AM

Gertrude Bvindi

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HI all this is an article i wrote, for one of our local online papers.
Please visit it and comment, this is roughly what goes on where
i come from.

http://mutaretimes.com/newsdetails.aspx?newsid=64

Gertrude

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Very interesting to read... I like how you put the words together.

I however have a different opinion: Mr Right belongs to someone else. Its that simple and straightforward that am afraid i can not be persuaded otherwise. Way forward? Take the Mr. Left (the ugly toad) and turn him into the Mr. right (the handsome Prince) you will love him to be and he is yours totally forever! Everyone is happy and nobody gets hurt.

Btw, it may also interest you that the Mr. Right you so hunger after, may used to have been a Mr. Left and a woman like yourself turned him into who he is now. Allow her reap the joy of her labor.

Peace,
Nezed/

I do not aim for Perfection; Just excellence!

You have me smiling, thanks for taking time to read it.

Gertrude Bvindi

Just shared it with my colleagues in the office and a debate has sparked! Wow... will get back to you on the conclusion of the argument...Lol

I do not aim for Perfection; Just excellence!

Thanks Nezed. If they can may they comment under the article so that i also know what they think.

Gertrude Bvindi

It is a good article. For me the bottom line is if he's married, he's just not Mr. Right.

I too have had questions of morality. Here too, it was common for men to have more than one wife before Christianity. I've left my comment at the site. If the people in the relationship are comfortable, Susan should be ok, but Mr Right is certainly not marriage material. I like Nezed's views. Very different perspective.

Thank you ladies for your comments. It is i supopose a matter of stamping your authority down as a woman and making sure that your life is based on what you want it to be and not what socity says.

Gertrude Bvindi

Hey ladies, if he is married then he can't be called Mr Right. He belongs to some-one else and that's it. I believe that every woman has a Mr Right some where who one day they will show up no matter how long it takes. No need to panic at all. God gives the best to his children who trusts in him and worship him . God can never give one a Mr Right who is married, that's not his style. He give the best always to his children ladies.

But the article is very good. I enjoyed it.
Sibongile Zgambo.

Thank you for emphasising on the fact that we dont need to panic. I feel that more often than not, once a woman starts getting asked questions about when she plans on getting marrried, she gives herself pressure to be in a relationship. Half the time this is when people end up settling for less and shortchanging ourselves.

Thank you for taking time to read it.

Gertrude Bvindi

Dear Getrude,

i believe that God's time is always the best for each and every person. Marriage is nice, sweetie and more enjoying when you marry a person who is your best friend, some one you can lean you shoulder on, who understands your problems, your downs and your ups too. A Person who will be there through thick and thin, money or no money but together because there is love. Am not married at and am in my early 30's but am not in a panic no matter what people say. I only mind and be moved by what my creator God says about me. In my stories on women empowerment, i also speak and share the word of God with women, so that they should not only see success, happiness on earth only but they should also think of the one who gave them the life on earth too, that God. Sorry for preaching to you dear but it is a powerfull weapon because the word of God comforts people even though resources are not there. One thing you are very sure of is that there will always be another day of hope and happiness.

HEY YOU WROTE A NICE ARTICLE INDEED.
TAKE CARE SIBONGILE.

Thank you very much Sibongile, and i dont mind the preaching at all. We always want to hear a word of wison from our olders sisters, Thanks for even taking time to tell us what you know, and what every woman should know.

Gertrude Bvindi

Hey any time dear will always be there to share what i can. And am so glad to learn what other women are facing in this world, when it comes to marital issues.
Take care love.
sibongile