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my life journey

I come from a community that belongs to the Terai part of Nepal where still girls are given less priority than boys. As I started considering myself as a part of the society, the question that really hit my mind those days was: Does the birth of daughter add burden on parents?” I could often hear my relatives discouraging me as a woman of color. I could never see any boy being ashamed of his skin tone. Then why was I made ashamed of my dark skin? The only reason behind it is that I am a girl. I heard my relatives bringing up the issue: “How could a poor and dark girl get a good proposal of marriage?” As the dowry system is major problem of my community, I could see my parents being discouraged about my study. Moreover, my father’s parents completely opposed educating a girl. But with the support of my family, I have been able to continue my studies till now with the support of my family and my own hard labor.

My father was the only breadwinner of my family. It was hard for him to run the family and foot the bills of college with his limited amount of salary. So, he was often drunk which created domestic violence and mental torture in my family. Most of the time, watching my parents quarreling and then the painful cry of my mother and her mental tension brought a sort of inner feeling that it is necessary to uproot poverty in order to maintain peace and healthy environment at home and in the society.

All these factors have directly and indirectly created a platform for my awareness in a global context. Getting an opportunity to study at Asian University For Women has proved to be my first step on the path of social change as people of my community really started considering the capability of girls: I was the first girl from my village to step out of the country in search of higher education, despite being a girl from a poor family background. This was the first achievement of my life towards my thought of changing the wrong mentality of people, ignoring the value and capability of girls. I look forward to observing especially girls of Terai and the lower caste being able to recognize themselves as important members of society, nation and the world.

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zoneziwoh's picture

A power question you'd ask

How disturbing can it be to be relegated and associated with colour and sex. Thank you to standing up against those myth.

I love the question to whether a girl child is a burden to the parent. This is an excellent concept to interrogate.

Thanks

Stay Blessed

Zoneziwoh

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seema.shah's picture

hello

Thank you for reading and understanding the meaning of my words. i wrote just what i experienced in my life.

With love,
Seema

Sarvina's picture

Wonderful!

Hi Seema,

I do love reading your powerful writing. It is shown how to struggle to get education for a girl who is living in poor family like you and me. It is very important for our lives to get a brighter future when we are educated. I wish you all the best for the future. You will be a good role model for young generation and girls in Nepal. Keep up your hard work!

Thanks so much for sharing your lovely story to us!

Love,

Sarvina

Regards,

Sarvina from Cambodia
VOF 2011 Correspondent

seema.shah's picture

Thank you

Hi Sarvina,

It is my pleasure to hear from you. I believe that a writing is most powerful when we feel and experience in our life. The reason behind whatever i wrote is good to read is all because i have written it from my heart. i will keep struggling with my life until i can overcome some of these problems prevailing in my society. I will do my best as much as i can. Taking this as the motto of my life , i am moving forward in my life. And thank you so much for keeping your belief on me and of-course, i will not let my spirit down. i will never lose my hope and keep my hope alive.

Love,
Seema

Sarvina's picture

HI Seema, I am glad to hear

HI Seema,

I am glad to hear that. I am so moved after reading your story and your determination is very powerful. You can do it!

Love,

Sarvina

Regards,

Sarvina from Cambodia
VOF 2011 Correspondent

seema.shah's picture

Hi sarvina,

Thank you so much for keeping such a strong belief on me. Truely to say, we need to move forward with time and we all can do it. Although life is suffering but, our strong determination and courage teaches us to cope up with all types of problems that comes across our life. Obstalces and difficulties are the tutor of our life which teaches us to be strong and patience.

Love,
Seema

Deepti's picture

Nice post, Seema! Wish you

Nice post, Seema! Wish you all the best. I am glad to see your determination and courage.

Best,
Deepti

seema.shah's picture

Thank you Deepti sister

Thank you so much for your wishes.

Love,
Seema

pheebsabroad's picture

Great start!

What a great way to start the posting by using a question. Not only was your story moving and addressed the topic of "standing up" I think you showed a really innovative way of tying in your life and experiences to the topic.

Pheobe

sallysmithr's picture

Awesome!

Congratulations on studying at the Asian University for Women. I think what you face is very difficult and it is important for people to hear this. Being from the United States there is always struggles for women and minorities, however after hearing your story it is a reminder that there are much more struggles that others face. I think what you are doing is amazing and wonderful and wish you the very best.

Thanks so much for sharing.

Sally Smith

ccontreras's picture

Congratulations!!!!!

Hi Seema,
Many congratulations on studying at the Asian University for Women!! This is definitely something to be proud of because you can now bring all that knowledge back to your village and you will become a role model to other women too. I believe you have the power to bring so much change to your village! I really enjoyed reading your post, about your struggles and biggest triumph. I can't wait to read more about you!
Cynthia

"I embrace emerging experience. I am a butterfly. Not a butterfly collector." - Stafford

seema.shah's picture

THANK YOU TO ALL

yes, i think i am really lucky to get an opportunity to study at Asian Uiversity for women. And i will try my best to do something for my society and village through my hard work.

with love,
Seema

seema.shah's picture

THANK YOU TO ALL

yes, i think i am really lucky to get an opportunity to study at Asian Uiversity for women. And i will try my best to do something for my society and village through my hard work.

with love,
Seema

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