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Standing up for my daughters-fight against female foeticide.

I was in the 6th week of pregnancy when an ultrasound showed that I was carrying twins. My mother-in-law and husband started demanding and torturing me for a sex determination test to know the sex of my babies. I was even tortured to get it done.
When I resisted this demand they, got it done by deception. In 16th week, knowing my allergy to eggs they fed me cake containing eggs. I developed allergic manifestations. The next morning my husband and in-laws took me to a hospital, where I was admitted to the labor room. The gynecologist advised kidney, Ureter, bladder ultrasound, but the radiologist conducted a fetal ultrasound
After this incident my husband and in laws started demanding that I get an M.T.P. My mother-in-law asked me to at least get one child killed in-utero. I was kept without food and water. My husband even turned me out of the house at 10 o’clock one night and asked me to go to my father’s house.
My mother-in- law even told me that my two daughters would be a big burden on the family, so either I should go for abortion to give up one of them for adoption.
On 17 May 2005, after a bout of abuse, I developed threatened abortion. They shut me up in the room. I managed to call my father in the morning. After much persuasion by my father, my husband agreed to bring me to my parent’s home.
Even in my parents’ house my husband would demand that a D.N.A test to establish the paternity of the twins because some priest had told his mother that he would have just one son.
Due all the tension, I delivered two-pre term daughters on 11th August, 2005
Even after birth of children, there was a lot of verbal abuse and I had no help in looking after children. My mother-in-law deliberately pushed down my 4-month-old daughter from the staircase and pretended it was an accident. The children’s paternal grandparents & aunts rejected them totally. My husband turned me out of house, because he wanted to remarry to have sons. I have filed a case under the act which bans sex determination test during pregnancy in India. In doing this I became the first mother to file a complaint under the act. Despite a lot of harassment, I am happy I saved my two daughters.

http://mitukhurana.wordpress.com

Comments

Kim Crane's picture

Horrifying

Mitukhurana,

I hope with all my heart that you and your daughters have found peace and protection from the abuse you describe. Your fierce love for your daughters comes through so clearly in your story. I admire your strength to keep fighting, and congratulate you for being the first to take a stand against a problem that affects so many. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will inspire many.

htbekele's picture

You are amazing

You are an amazing woman,,,Keep it up. thats all I have to say!!!

oh no! My dear, this is too much to bear alone.

What is this culture we talk about all day long? Why are people unable to rethink for a moment and act fairly? This is unbelievable dear sister. I feel so sad to knowing that this is the type of torments you had to undergo. The irony in this is the fact that your mother-in-law is a woman and again, it is only a woman who can help a man have a child. This is funny. Why can’t they realise that if the women decided not to get married, they won’t have the sons, they crave for.
Keep up the fight, you have our support.

Stay Blessed

Zoneziwoh

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sibusisiweyona's picture

you are amazing

you are an amazing woman, you are strong and you are making it. your courage is phenomenal and many women will be inspired by your story. it inspired me thank you

all the best my sister

sibusisiwe

Jan K Askin's picture

Profound Thanks

Dear Sister,

Thank you so very much for your courage in sharing this story of your fight for basic human rights. May your daughters grow in grace and peace.

With admiration and affection,

Jan Askin

Jan Askin

Myrthe's picture

I admire your courage to

I admire your courage to fight to keep your daughters. You are an example and a hero. I hope you and your daughters now live in peace.

Frances Faulkner's picture

clarity

Mitukhurana,
I love your clarity from the beginning in knowing what was right and your ability to stay true to yourself through all the terrible things that happened. That is real strength and a wonderful way to mentor your own daughters as well as other women in your community. I hope peace and joy come to you repeatedly from here on out.

Frances

missjenn's picture

you are amazing!

Thank you so much for sharing this! Your story will inspire many and give them courage!

Jennifer

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