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What Defines a Typical African Woman

Domestic Violence

Nine months of labour, painful hours of birth that consists of pushing out a human being (that weights a minimum of two Kilos) out of their body at a cost of near-to-death. And then looking after these being for the rest of her life.
Many still give birth at their homes, in their houses, Kitchen and latrines, enduring the pain as it comes and by the help of old women, who chop off the cord of the babies using razorblades and without gloves. She gives birth to up to fifteen children because her husband won't allow family planning methods.

She was sold off by her parents for bride wealth from as early as 10years of age, she is considered as a property by her husband, she has no voice in her own house, she is bartered by her husband so often but her parents won't allow her return to their house because once married, always married.She hunts for food, firewood, water, vegetables to feed her family. She in the farm on a daily basis, her office for life. It is from the very garden that the many more poor toil in the "better- offs" farms to earn hard cash that they can use to buy soap, salt, matchbox, and kerosene (the basic needs), their husbands are not ashamed to steal the little cash their wives toil for. Once he spots, he picks the whole of it and takes to the alcohol joint and drinks it ALL with other women.

Some women struggle to grow rice, cotton, nuts, corns for commercial purposes in order to pay school fees for the children and meet the demands in the house, in the process their husbands are busy sipping alcohol and engaging in idle games. As soon as the hard cash arrives, the wife, as respectful as usual declares her every financial gains to the man, he takes the initiative of "keeping the money" as the "the man in the house". Soon after the wife hands over the whole cash to him, the next step is marring another wife, torturing and bartering the home wife, sleeping for weeks in the drinking joints...

Where are the women in our villages heading to if they have no time to relax and have fun? all the time busy with garden and house work. Infact some do not even find time to take bathes. There are so many village women who have unpleasant smell simply because they do not find time to clean themselves. Those who try to be neat are accused of cheating on their husbands. A man sits idle, the baby is crying, utensils need cleaning, there is no firewood, no water in the house, no food, he will continue to sit and relax comfortably because tradition has ti that it is the woman's role to do all the house work.
Did you ever take time to analyze the lifestyle of a typical African village woman? Do you see that the majority complain of back ache? Have you asked those walking on sticks about their past?

Surely if by a disturbing freak of nature the men underwent childbirth, going through the whole process from carrying someone in their bellies to having their legs stretched apart with people they do not know, sticking their hands inside them and pulling out these creatures, I believe that no man would ever come home late to their wives or girlfriend courtesy of late night drinks with the "boys". They would be as docile as they came- I mean no going out, no boozing, no quarrels, no nothing but just being at their women's beck and call.

It is time for our African men to consider women's lives, they are flowers and the daughters are treasures who deserve the best of their parent's attention, including education. Gone are the days of proving manhood this way. A real man supports his family, a real man loves and respects his wife, a real man is faithful, a real man cares about humanity, and a real man educates his daughters. Be a real man.

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aimeeknight's picture

This is an amazing article

This is an amazing article Bea. Your words and voice are so powerful.

"One shoe can change a life" ~ Cinderella

AchiengNas's picture

Thanks Aimee

Many women in the country side of Africa go through alot of sufferings and they tend to keep silent with these problems because they know they do not have a voice in their homes.
They are the true grassroots women, living in the most traditional environments.

Love,

Beatrice

I believe everybody has the potential to live a better life. Given the Opportunity, Education and Motivation ANYONE can become someone admirable. Nobody is a NOBODY, everybody is SOMEBODY.

Lah Tere's picture

BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is awesome!
The way that you described the life of a typical village woman
is amazing. I think that most of us in the United States don't even
think about what other women are going through in another part of
the world, because we are too busy trying to survive similar
domestic violence, cheating, alcoholism,etc... we here are also
going through the same thing in that sense, but I really appreciate
how you opened my eyes with the fact that your shared how the women
have their children is some of the most unclean spaces with unclean
instruments. We here in the U.S. are very lucky in that sense.
Unfortunately it seems that women across the world are in the same
space when it comes to men and their disrespectful and disgusting behavior.
We must continue to pray!

One love sister!
Lah Tere

<3 and light,
Lah Tere
www.lahtere.com

AchiengNas's picture

Thank you Tere

For reading my article, for commenting I am grateful.
Women in the rural communities do give birth anywhere they feel. A matter of kneeling down and pushing the baby on the bare ground for example!
Education and empowerment has reduced these cases and more women are visiting hospitals for delivery.

Love,

Beatrice

I believe everybody has the potential to live a better life. Given the Opportunity, Education and Motivation ANYONE can become someone admirable. Nobody is a NOBODY, everybody is SOMEBODY.

Nusrat Ara's picture

Loved it. You Have put it so

Loved it. You Have put it so simply and yet so powerfully. keep sharing.

Another thing when u reply to a post. click on reply for it. This intimates the author of the comment , otherwise she doesn't get to know :)

Love

Nusrat

AchiengNas's picture

Thanks Nusrat

I am grateful you took time to read this article dear Nusrat and I am also so grateful for your correction. I did not know I replied Aimee in such a manner, next time better.

Love,

Beatrice

I believe everybody has the potential to live a better life. Given the Opportunity, Education and Motivation ANYONE can become someone admirable. Nobody is a NOBODY, everybody is SOMEBODY.

Dearest AchiengNas,

Your words paint a picture of awareness and education for the rest of the world. As i sit and read through your words i can feel your passion for change and awareness. I empathize with you and unfortunately have heard this all too often from many women around the world in developed and under developed communities, tribes, villages and towns. The most powerful tool we have are our voices. A tool to bring awareness, educate and empower many across the globe. i would love nothing more than to share your voice on my forum for women. With your permission i would love to run your article and read it to the women and girls in my community so theya re aware of the daily difficulties African women go through.

Your gift to us of your voice is a blessing and I thank you for that.

Your sister in the U.S.
Mia

AchiengNas's picture

Go ahead and use the article Mia!

Dear Mia,
I would really love the world to know what the grassroots women go through. Sharing this article is not just a gift to you, it is a blessing to me. I will be glad wherever this article is shared.

Thank you,

Love,

Beatrice

I believe everybody has the potential to live a better life. Given the Opportunity, Education and Motivation ANYONE can become someone admirable. Nobody is a NOBODY, everybody is SOMEBODY.

ArtByMia's picture

You are a blessing to us

Thank you so very much. This will educate and bring awareness to many that do not know what is happening. It would be my honor to recieve such a wonderful gift from you. I will let you know when it is posted.

Keep up the good work and saty in touch!

Love and light, Mia

ArtByMia's picture

Thank you

Hello Beatrice,

Hope you and your family are well. I will be finally running your article this week and had a few questions for you. Please send questions with responses to my email address ( artbymamamia@yahoo.com) so i can finish the article. It is with great honor that i share your passion and words with the world.

1. How old are you?
2. where were you born?
3. What advice would you give young girls around the world today?
4. If there was one word that could describe you what would it be?

Thank you,
Your Sister in the USA, Mia

ArtByMia's picture

Never recieved this info.

Hello Beatrice,

I never recieved the answers to the questions above. If you like you can still send them to artbymamamia@yahoo.com with title of Beatrice interview and i will ad to the article.

Have a blessed day, Mia

Hello Beatrice,

Hope you and the family are well. I have been following your posts and i must say that you are a brave and inspiring young lady!!! I have published your article to my blog with your permission. Feel free to share it with the world. go to www.chamacaarts.blogspot.com to see it live.

I would love to post more of your work in the near future and look forward to reading more of your work.

Have a blessed day, Mia.. your Sister in the USA

AchiengNas's picture

As requested

Dear Mia,
I am so grateful for all that you do in sharing our voices with the world. May the circle of change and empowerment enlarge as the world read these stories.

Love,

Beatrice

I believe everybody has the potential to live a better life. Given the Opportunity, Education and Motivation ANYONE can become someone admirable. Nobody is a NOBODY, everybody is SOMEBODY.

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