I Spoke for myself and for my sisters
I had to let my voice be heard and to assert the rights I own; not as a gift, but as an endowment from creation. I have been married for over five years. I had five kids with my husband. The last of the kids was a boy. I had named him Samoh meaning the truth. The truth because after his birth, I had to stand for what was true no other truth but that which says women had rights and these deserve respect.
On the night Samoh came into the world, it had rained so heavily. My labour started with the rain and progressed so rapidly that I either had to rush to the hospital or have the baby at home. My husband was out with the family car. I called him several times. He promised to be home immediately. I waited he didn’t come. Minute after minute the pain increased. I was exhausted both mentally and physically and could not walk to the hospital for lack of strength. My legs were trembling and cramping. I could not move an inch. Squatting gentling on the floor, I ushered him into the world. It was painful. It was joyful. With tears and laughter, I held him close to my body.
The emptiness remained. He was never there to welcome any of them. It was agonizing. We have always started this together and I am always left alone to finish it. The next morning he walked into the hospital ward. His very presence made me sick. I could not face him. I needed an explanation I needed an act of contrition. None of this was forthcoming. All he said was ‘I am now a man. I have a son at last’ I need two more to make me complete. My answer was ‘No more!. Never again’ Many years have passed, nothing has happened. It has been rumored; it has been sung in songs; it has been a subject for gossip all whispering how I dared to refuse my husband and community children.
On my part I feel stronger; I feel happier. It’s my health it is my life. Many women have come along all wanting to know what it takes to say no and take control over their bodies. The answer is simple: be ready to die for what you believe in. Women’s rights are human rights. Together lets fight.