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My mother

A first child among the six of her mother and second among eleven of her father, Janaki got married at the age of 15 with a man she never saw before the wedding day itself, and bore six children herself. Unfortunately for her, the first four children were girls and before the fifth one she and her husband were forced to leave the joint family and forego their share of ancestral property. While her brother-in-laws family enjoyed immense wealth, she struggled with her husband to meet ends. Her husband resorted to drinking in a hope to drain away his sorrows and injustice perpetrated to him by his parents and siblings. On top of catering to the constant needs of six children, thinking about ways to keep afloat the household, Janaki now had to manage an almost alcoholic husband who was slowly turning into abusive as well. There were so many times in the years that followed when she was protecting her children not only from the world at large, but also inside the four walls of the home from their own father. It was only her immense courage, her perseverance for the want of a better future of her children that kept her going. Many a times, she was suggested, some out of sympathy others with outright glee at her predicament, to divorce a husband who have now become a source of sorrow and pain. But she was never the one to sway from her responsibilities, neither towards a husband who depended largely on her for moral support nor for the children to have to grow up in a fragmented family. Always humiliated by her in-laws, treated lowly at every possible occasions by immediate and extended families, she never once allowed the hope of a wonderful future for her children to even flicker.
Her courage and determination seep through her to her children who not only turned out to be good scholars but humble human beings. Today she takes immense pride in being mother of those who works for the rights of children, women, a nurse, an HR specialist and tourism entrepreneur. After nourishing her husband who was suffering from cancer for three long years – she conducted the final rites of her husband despite vehement protest from the senior male members of the society, a right exclusively for male only in our Hindu patriarchal society.
She is the miracle that changed the course of our lives, which could easily have been just a continued legacy of the women handed down to her. Today she takes pride in nourishing a grandson who sketches a woman driving him to school on her way to work when asked to draw a mother, a far cry from my sketch showing my mother in a kitchen with her kids lying about and other chores waiting for her.

Comments

Ally_N's picture

Lovely Mother

Dear Xevly,

Thank you for writing about your beautiful and inspirational mother. How lucky you are to have her and I love your story.

Ally

xevly's picture

Dear Ally, Thank you for your

Dear Ally,

Thank you for your comment :-)

Xevly

Linda M. Ando's picture

Extra-ordinary Mother.....

Dear Xevly,

Women are AMAZING, as they give and nurture LIFE and protect their loved ones at all cost. Your mother's depth of courage, humanity and love is phenomenal, a source of inspiration. Thank you for sharing her story, she is an extraordinary woman who you can proudly call "mother" and a woman of great heart and courage. Enjoy and take good care of each other!

With gratitude,

Linda Ando

With Gratitude,

Linda M. Ando

ccontreras's picture

Thank you!

Thank you for sharing your story! It's amazing and very commendable to see that among so much upset and dispair in your life, you have come above and now you are a great example for your children and for women around the world. I am deeply touched by your post!

"I embrace emerging experience. I am a butterfly. Not a butterfly collector." - Stafford

olakitike's picture

Thank you

Thanks for sharing your story. Your mother has given you a life that is better than the one she had, she is a gift and a miracle.

xevly's picture

Thank you all...

...for your encouraging comments.

I hope to write more about other women, the unsung heroes of our society.

Jebli

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