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Why Should I only be treated on my Gender?

Every person has some incidents in his / her life that the impact of such happening influences her entire life. I am no different. The occurrence that took place has changed my attitude towards life.
It happened when I was in class 11. I was enjoying my holiday with some of my friends. We were enjoying our time pretty much. On our way back to home, some of my friends decided to buy something from departmental store. I, along with other friends was waiting for them on the footpath outside the store. Suddenly a stranger caught of my eyes. He was standing in the parking lot which was beside the shop. The person had a mobile phone with him and trying to take a snap of us. I was quit puzzled in the beginning but as time went by I became conscious of the situation. Why this happened? Is it because I am a woman? Is it because he thinks I am so weak to defeat? Anger rolled inside me and I told my friends what the man was doing. After listening to me and having seen the man they became scared. They decided to leave place at once. I did not like the idea at all. It would be cowardice work, if we leave the place leaving the person unpunished for taking our photos with bad intension and without our permission. I thought it would be a serious insult to my womanhood, so I made up my mind to face him and demand an explanation from him. Therefore, I started to walk straight towards him. When he realized that I was coming, he got somewhat panicking. I asked the man what he was doing. He hesitated and could not produce any satisfactory answers. I snatched his mobile and started to check it. It was only a matter of moments that I discovered some photos (!) of me and my friends. My other friends also came beside me. We rebuked the man for such a heinous work. Our shouting made the passersby interested and the place became crowded within a short time. Seeing this, a traffic police came and listen what was happening. Then he called the mobile court. As a result the police came and arrested the man. The man was sentenced 1 month imprisonment by the new law of eve teasing.
My parents, friends, and neighbors all praised me for my courageous action. From that moment I realized I cannot be treated as weak or incapable only due to my gender and felt an iron will that it is my duty to raise my voice against all bad practice and oppression.
Now I believe and also think all should believe that a woman should not be treated only as “women” but a human.

Comments

ruth_terry's picture

Hi Rini, There have been so

Hi Rini,

There have been so many times in my life when I had the opportunity to take a stand, and let the moment pass. Often I am so surprised by this kind of behavior that I miss my moment to take a stand. It seems like the right words or correction actions are on delay; they come to me hours after I should have said or done something.

I think women, unfortunately, are often unlikely to confront people like you did. Maybe it's because we were taught to keep quiet, and avoid conflict. Or because we worry about our personal safety and bodily harm. I think your story shows how positive confrontation can be. The result was worth the risk: you stood up for yourself and you prevented a similar situation from happening to other women. Thank you for encouraging us to do the right thing, even when it is outside of our comfort zones.

Ruth

"A writer’s job is to tell stories that connect readers to all the people on earth... Passionate and well-articulated ideas can and do change the world." ~~Mary Pipher

akaneko's picture

Dear Rini, I applaud your

Dear Rini,

I applaud your strength and determination to stand up for yourself, for your friends and for the rights of women in general. I can relate to your feelings of anger and frustration with being mistreated as a woman. It takes great courage to stand up against violations of our right to be respected. I think that what you did is the perfect example of how to bring about positive change. Your actions drew the attention of others and gave them insight into how powerful one person's will can be. I hope that your friends and family can continue to draw strength from your voice.

Alison

pheebsabroad's picture

Inner

Inner strength is something which is not easily found or measured....and your inner strength is something I am amazed by! You made a choice to stand up not only for yourself, but to call attention to the issue of gender based rights violations for all people. I applaud your courage!

Pheobe

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