Wake up and speak up
Wake up and speak up!
A nation’s development also depends upon women. As long as women are only allowed to do household chores they will develop on an individual level. And because of that the community and the nation will never see any significant development.
When we were kids we observed what our grandmothers, mothers, sisters-in law and elder sisters did. This is where we learned what a woman should and should not do. We followed what our elders said and did. As a result we never gained any confidence and were too shy to speak up in front of a public.
People are still saying that women can not work and do not know anything. This has affected our whole life. After always hearing these negative things we ourselves start to think the same. Women sometimes also discriminate among each other. For example; it isn’t a happy occasion for a mother when a girl is born. And if the second child is also a daughter the mother just gets frustrated. But the mother cannot be blamed for giving birth to a daughter.
Family members blame a woman if she has given birth to two daughters. Because of this they don’t give her the care that she needs. As a result she is unable to take care of her new born child. If a mother cannot be happy with her new-born child then who is going to take care of her and let her develop? Therefore, women should be aware that to give birth to a boy child or a girl child depends upon a man’s chromosomes because women have only X chromosomes and men have both X and Y chromosomes.
On the other hand, a son observes what his grandfather, father, uncle and elder brother do and listens to statements from his father, mother and neighbors. As a result he believes a son should take responsibility, be brave and, even though he is small, should play the role of protector should any female family member go outside. I still remember one incident. When my colleague Durga Regmi was taking her nephew to school, a dog came from the opposite side. Seeing the dog coming their way, her 8-year-old nephew told her, “Don’t be scared Didi, (elder sister) I am here.” This statement show how he believes he should protect her, he needs to be a “man”.
Every person has unlimited powers but those powers aren’t always used. For a woman it is important to think “I can”. But these powers are suppressed inside like a bird in a cage. If a bird is set free it will take time before it takes flight after being in a cage for so long. It is the same for women. Their potential is suppressed inside and it will take some time for women to develop and use that potential. It is also certain that change is only possible by one’s own efforts but not by others. Others can only give suggestions but the choice to make a change lies by oneself. Women need to think positive and take action. Participate in meetings and trainings and do not only do household chores. Stop wasting your time to thinking that I am not able to do anything. Wake up, wake up! And speak for yourself no one will speak for you Make a ten year individual plan and think about where you want to be in your life! No matter you are educated or not but try to find out how to be independent or self sustained if we have money in our pocket people are treating in different way so wake up and speak up.