Who dares to be the change?
Does my community see change in a positive view? Does it accept amends? Do I want to be a challenger? The best changes often start as single and simple thoughts. I believe in Thinking big, and discovering how to make my dreams real. Changes are good, but not everyone observe it positively. To bring change in my country, Afghanistan you will definitely face many problems such as family discouragements, community non acceptance, and security problems and so on. Every path has its puddle. I think every problem has a solution and I can make my dreams real. If we can really understand the problem, the answer will come out of it, because the answer is not separate from the problem.
In Afghanistan where I want to bring changes, my barriers will start from home and my family expands to the community and society, and covers my safety. Even it might finish in not being able to live in my home with my family anymore. Family is the heart of our strength, especially in a conservative culture, but not all families accept their girls to be the change because of their family name or honor, people’s talking and teasing their daughter, and their daughter’s safety. Most of the people in the community where I have to work and make changes for the good, will criticize and scrutinize me even it is possible to stamp me as a bitch and so on, because of working outside, Daring to negotiate with the people who have always thought that women is a shy and silent species. Likewise, there are some very conservative people who don’t want women to work or be counted as a part of society might harm or kidnap or at least warn me, as it happened to my Mom. Thus, to bring change is really hard, for this reason, we have a very small amount of women working outside or dare to work in high positions. For example, we have “only one woman cabinet member, and from 17 ambassadors of Afghanistan only two of them are women” (MOWA, 2007).
However, there is a famous quote that, “every problem contains the seeds of its own solution”. So there are solutions for these problems as well. For working in my society, I think, first of all I need to consult with the community women leaders, discover their problems and solutions and use their experiences. And when they see my enthusiasm they will definitely help me too. Furthermore, I am able to catch my family’s trust, so I can convince my Mom and get their support by working hard, and respect for their expectations. Secondly I have to improve my knowledge and capacity. I believe that I should handle the words carefully while talking because words have more power than atom bombs, and people are very sensitive with words, it is possible to misunderstand or create problems. In the contrast, there are some thoughts and agony issues that needs to be change, for this change World pulse is helping me and will help me by giving me friends that can give me feedbacks and help me to arrange my thoughts and whenever I ask help I will have supporters to help me. In World Pulse, There are people who inspire me by seeing how they could overcome their barriers and successfully made changes like the founder of world pulse Ms. Jensine Larsen.
To sum up, As Edgar Poe says, “Words have no power to impress the mind without the exquisite horror of their reality.” it is me and you who can help ourselves and our sisters, bring up the issues that we suffer and change them for the good of all by recognizing the problems and finding solutions together. Hiding from problems leads nowhere except to more hiding. The best way out of a problem is through it so let’s take our first step to solve the problems.
Edgar Poe Quote, access date: 06/10/10