week two assignment
I was born into a family where every thing work for me. Although I was given out to marriage at age nine, the agreement was that no advantage be taken on me until I attend the age of 16. This Memorandum was respected. My father was a Jounalist and a man aware of the ill surrounding women disadvantages in the community. I attended all my school life in my husband house, who is a medical doctor. At the momen i hold Bsc Political Science, PGD Jounalism, PGD Business Administration, Diploma in Public Administration and Diploma in Computer Engineering. I am currently taking up MSc in LLB International Business Liverpool University London on part time. My Doctor husband is late. In the course of study I have come across so deep sociatal impediment against the girl child. Early marriage, nagative Religious doctrine, cultural norms, tradition and out right supremecy of men over women. In my growing days the women has basically no say to what ever the man said. This practice, as today been modernized not erase, perfected to serve the interest of the men. It has been traslated to work place, segregation, discrimination, slim opprotunity to women in work places, politics, allocation of lands, ownership of landed properties, meanful business, access to meanful loan, partnership of gaint businesses. Where such women worked their way up or inherit these opportunities from parent , the men are alway at the coner to mis manage and ruin the woman, even blood brothers or relation. My very very first encounter with this vices was when i graduated and pick up a job as Personal Assistant to a Director in government office. having been posted to work with the director, i was happy and as a young girl and Personal Assistant, my husband ensure he furnish me with the right dress. Unknowing to him, by boss was a religious extrimist. three month into the job, he oneday ordered me to returned home and change my dress. I am an independent minded person. My husband though from the same society, but was englighten enough to drop those primitive ways of thinking. I refused to obey his commond. He confronted my husband in the worship house and discussed the issue with him. I did not. The next day did repeat similar dress. He worked me out and order for my posting on grounds of wearing english none traditional ijab. My husband took up the case with the personal Director. But unknowing to my Husband he harbour same believe. I was made redoundant for 6months. My father being a jounalist waged into the matter. I was then posted else where. 5years after similar situation occured. I was pencil to be a Secretary of the Local Area Council,on three occassion, but was denied on grounds of being a woman and young, without looking at my capacity to execute what i was pencil for. The position each time, was given to men who have no much capacity to make meanful contribution. Another 6 years later I fail neck deep into another controvercy. This time to a much higher postion. I acted that position for 1 years 6 month. did what i am expected to do clear all the mess only for rub a man to take the position away from me. posted out to a new place to act similary higher position, which until now 2year 6month, i am deprive of the sustaintive position. this is not because i am not capable, but simply because i am a woman. I have told my father from the second experience to stop waging into my problems. I can face it myself. I am a resolved woman. I believe in fighting my course. I believe I can make it without lobbying any man. I can speak for myself. My capacity and productivity, skill will speak for me. This is me and my story. Many women out there are into this mess with no body to bail them out. In my society you need a strong man behind you to progress even without requisite qualifications. Your father, husband, uncle, brother etc. This has over the year subjected women to compromise their intergirity, to obtain such support. Milliions of such women are out their suffering this faith. Sometime even a husband can work against his wife upward movement because he habour same believe. One thing is obvious women only get to top through merit. Any woman in position merited it and will perform mavalously, and outstanding mark it. Therefore the men do not want the women to discredit their performance, because it is a challenge. This is my bio and who i realy am.