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Victors not victims

Victors not victims

I was wearing a skirt that day and was on my way home. Sitting on the rear side of a public utility vehicle I placed my jacket on my lap and was quietly enjoying the ride when suddenly, I felt a hand on my thigh. I tried to push that hand away but a middle-aged man looked at me with a threatening stare as if telling me to keep quiet. There were only two of us on that side of the vehicle. I didn’t know what to do. After few minutes, I found the courage to jump out even while the vehicle was moving. I was mad at myself for allowing myself to be a victim. Why didn't I fight?

It was my first job and I was excited but it turned to be an unpleasant experience. My boss asked me to clean a high shelf so I had to climb a high chair to do it. When I looked down he was there watching me and whatever flesh he could see. I wanted to shrink in shame. What do you do with a superior who asks you to go out with him or sleep with him? After I got my first paycheck I quit the job, giving up a career I wanted and everything that should have gone with it. Why couldn't I fight?

Why are women treated like commodities and objects and not as people with dignity? This question bothers me until this day. All over the news there are stories of women who have gone through traumatic experiences, they have been raped, molested, and have been victims of domestic violence and sexual harassment, and all other kinds of abuses. Most of these women don’t know how to defend themselves and how to fight for their rights … they are left with two choices, to give in or run away helplessly. In both ways, women end up feeling bad about themselves. They blame themselves and feel bad all the more.

This is the change I want for my community. I want a society where women can have their place as a dignified human being ...where their rights are not trodden upon and where they learn to fight their battles bravely. I believe it is time for women to rise above this stigma and be something they have never been before. And in this, I truly want to make a difference.

I have started in my own little way. Whenever I can, I publish reports about women concerns, laws and measures of the government to protect women against all forms of abuses. I try to reach out to those I can reach but in my heart I know this is not enough. There is so much to learn and do. This is my challenge. How can I help them more?

Through World Pulse and other online communities, I will be able to get in touch with women from all over the world, to hear their battles and victories, to learn from them and to be part of a bigger crusade for the empowerment and protection of women.

My passion has been ignited. Thank you women of World Pulse.

Comments

deltaqueen's picture

A Victor

I would say that you are a VICTOR. After reading your story, that position that you quit was not a career it was just a job. A career is something that you enjoy doing and are encouraged to continue doing everyday. That experience only shaped you to know that deep down inside you have the determination and courage to make things better and great for your life, and anything less than that would be unexceptable. You continue to be true to yourself and your spirit. You have already started to create a society for women with dignity by not settling for less than what you deserve. I encourage you to keep going and creating positive change in your life. Stay positive, stay encourage and be the best that you already are.
Have continued peace.
Shawanna

Deltaqueen

ladyblue's picture

Thank you

Thank you so much for that perspective and for your words of wisdom. It has enlightened and encouraged me. See you online

Tina Mason's picture

I loved reading this article

I loved reading this article and am in agreement with Shawanna. I think sometimes victories are not how we may expect them to appear. Recognition that a situation is fundamentally wrong, having the consciousness to remove yourself from it and using the experience to further goals of change for the betterment of more lives than your own is for sure victorious.

Sharing your frustrations and hopes

Tina

ladyblue's picture

Yes victory

Thanks so much for reading my post and for your encouragement. I hope to know you more ...

tallybery's picture

To the Victoy

Dear Ladyblue, I am here as part of the listener group to congratulate you on your essay. I belive you had reach the goal of this week assignment, elaborating an inspiring piece that covers the issues pointed, but also tells a little bit about yourself too. Your question is really threating...playing the victim roll is not enought, it is time for us to take the lead of our lives and stop feeling ashamed for who we are. There is nothing positive on being victims, suffering is not a beautifull thing to do as it shows on some movies or love stories. We have to assume, recognize and take responsability for our power to change things around, that is a surely beautifull thing to do. And to encourage other women to do so can be trully powerfull. So, let´s keep on with the good work, it is a trully important one :-)

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