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I woke up this morning, stretched my hands and legs, hissed again and again thinking.... why did the day break again?, I think we should just sleep and forget the sorrows. My world is different from yours, my world is not the same as everybody. It is the world no one prays for, not a woman's prayers though.

Born in Nigeria years back but I cannot really place how I selected my destiny but with a little advise and counseling, I know I selected a good destiny but was born in a World where i cannot live out the destiny. Like every woman in Africa, i dream of a good life, good home, good husband and good children, women are trained to believe that their world revolve around husband, children and nothing else.

But the dream was aborted.

My dream never came to pass

And everyone felt I was different, strange and not a complete woman

With the introduction to one active pulsewire member, I became a new woman, who not only thought about the childlessness, the bareness and the loneliness but a new world where I can speak and be heard, where I can make friend, where even when I drink water, i will be satisfied that there is another reason for being alive again. I can now have a new world where no one will ask the number of my children or how I came to this world leaving my womb behind in the world beyond.

What will be the future of a woman without husband, children, shelter, job? Not a future in Africa, may be in other developed countries but with a new awakening, I believe that I will rise again and this time with other women like me. I want our voice to resonate, we never created ourselves, we never choose a destiny of childlessness but the world refused to accept the fact that no sane woman will suck her own eggs.
I love children, they are like beautiful flowers in a garden, how come I never had one? How come no one believe that I never choose to be alone in this strange world? How come everyone thought fleeing from me is the best.

May be this is a new world, may be I can be a woman like every other woman again, may be I can have a new lease of life, May be someone can wipe this tear rolling down again.
May be..

Comments

jadefrank's picture

Welcome!

Dearest Olufunke,

Welcome, welcome, welcome to our community of women who are speaking out for ourselves, who are wiping each others tears, who are supporting one another's dreams and feeling free to be ourselves, free of judgement and limitations.

I was so moved by your words, and hope to learn more from you in our community.

In friendship and solidarity,
Jade

Olufunke's picture

BOTTLED UP SADNESS, GONE

I have bottled up for so long because of past failures now, I have resolved to speak out and seek solace in the midst of World mothers and movers.

I have not been able to respond to mails because of lack of access to i internet but today I said not I must walk to a far away place to access internet cafe.

What can one learn from me, only to learn how to speak out and to know that bottling up anger, problems and failure can only make a woman look miserable.
I am glad for your warming words. I feel so much at home.
I am happy that there is a platform where I can speak out.
Thank you my dear sister Jade.

aimeeknight's picture

Beautifully written! Wipe

Beautifully written! Wipe your tears, we are here to listen to each other, sisters. I will pray for you!

"One shoe can change a life" ~ Cinderella

Olufunke's picture

THANK YOU MY DEAR AIMEENKNIGHT

May God answer your prayers and mine, thank you so much

olutosin's picture

Prayers

Yes sister Funke, just like Aimee, I will pray for ou always!

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

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Olufunke's picture

Thank you my dear sister

I know that you will pray for me, thank you so much.

nilima's picture

Dear Olufunke

While reading your post, i noticed something-
your writing is beautiful,
your style of choosing the words and putting it is awesome,
the poetry in your simple writing can impress anyone,
i noticed one more thing-that is the pain you have in your heart with you which was unshared, unspoken and unwritten, i warmly welcome you to the place where you can speak out your words! where you can share your feelings and where you can be console yourself reading others story because no one is living the normal life in developing countries, while reading others story you will know the hidden pain that every woman is facing and bearing !

do not feel alone and do not keep your pain in your heart! share with us, we are the friends for your lifetime!

:)

Olufunke's picture

Thank you so much Nilima

I am happy for your words, thank you so much and I look forward to learning from everyone here.
I have decided to move on with my life.

vivian's picture

world pulse is the place

As i read your post, i smile because i know you will be happy again. because you have found yourself here in pulse wire. you will be happy again and again. Your life will truly turn around. You are in the right time and right world........

Vivian

''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Olufunke's picture

Thank you

Thank you so much for your comment.

sunita.basnet's picture

Powerful Woman

Hello Olufunke,

First of all, hearlty welcome to our community. As one of my friend said- we are world pulsarian- so do not feel alone . We are with you sister. Feel free to connect with us. You are more than welcome dear! I am glad that you find our community helpful and supporting. You will feel much more in the future.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Olufunke's picture

Thank you

Thank you i am grateful to you for your comment and love.

JulesHS's picture

Never alone

Please know that we are your sisters here on Pulse Wire, and for each comment you receive, there are thousands - dare I say millions - who are with you in spirit, whether or not they can communicate by internet. Share your heartache, your tears, and your prayers. You are heard, you are never alone, and you are in our prayers! World Pulse is only one organization of many that are using technology to link women together all over the world in sisterhood - the wave is rising, and it's not going to stop. Keep hope i n your heart, and have faith.

Reading your words, I was reminded of these line from a poem called "Desiderata"...

"Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here."

God bless.

Julie

Olufunke's picture

Thank you

Thank you for your comment, God bless you. I am happy to be among women who feel what I feel, i am happy that I met those who actually understand what I am going through.
Thank you my dear sister, may Sadness end in the lives of women worldwide.

Greta's picture

Greetings Olufunke

I have just read your post. I wanted to let you know that you have moved me deeply and my heart and hands also reach out to you. Know that you have a new resource here. Connection, support, willing ears and open hearts await you in this community.

Keep writing, and let your words pour forth. You will find comfort here in this global community, I promise you that.

With Kindness,

Gretchen

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