My challenges and the way forward…….
Being a development worker and questioning the present patriarchal environment I found my self has not been easy, it still is not easy.
I have faced many challenges growing up as a female, girl and young woman who questioned many things and tried to argue and change people’s orientation about women and girl’s issues in my community and one thing was clear boys and men in my community where very comfortable with the way things were and did not need any change and if I was to create any positive change women and girls issues, I had to make talking about our issues, women and girls issues part of my life. I had to talk change, live change and be prepared for a life long struggle.
I have faced a lot of challenges in different ways but will share few, daily my friends remind me that I can not find anyone who will be willing to marry me if I do not give up my attitude of talking about girls and women issues and trying to equate men to women and cap it all with saying am growing older in age and women have a time limit when they can be married.
It still is difficult for me to encourage girls and women take up leadership positions in different bodies in schools as the girls and women themselves are scared and do not want to oppose their male folks saying men are suppose to be the head giving males the opportunity to say women are fighting themselves.
Being a trainer and a facilitator becomes difficult by the day as people see you as a super human being who is suppose to change their world with a “witch wand”. They expect you to know all and do not want to be part of the “Change” process. They see it as my thing to change girls and women orientation not as our thing leaving me to talk and talk, advocate and perspire a lot during the process.
I have learnt to work with like minded people no matter how small they may be in number while advocating for an issue or doing community work. I have learnt to believe in my self and my skills using them positively each time I have the opportunity and reminded my friends daily too that marriage is a choice that will be fulfilled if both partners are comfortable with the personality involved and are happy.
PulseWire is an awesome plat form where I am relating and interacting with other women from all over the globe gaining inspiration and encouragement to do my work and be a change maker. This past weeks of my involvement in this training has reopened my eyes on how important it is for me to remain focus. Most importantly, it has revived my love for writing which has been the most valuable way I express myself.