"Single" Mothers?
by inspiredshell | October 3, 2010 at 4:05 PM
This morning I was thinking to myself...is there a growing number of single mothers in the world? If so, why is that?
This happening sparks curiosity in me, especially since I myself fall into that category of "single mother." Questions come about in my mind, such as "Are we choosing poor partners?" or "Is it about our expectations?" or even "Is it all just miscommunication?"
Perhaps some wise women in the World Pulse community can contribute their thoughts to these questions. And perhaps I will delve deeper myself, and do a little research on the topic. I know there are some of us who are single mothers by choice. There is also the single mom who left an abusive relationship. Even still there are single mothers who's partner has died. Whether or not we are parenting children without a partner by choice or by fate, here we are, in our growing numbers of uniqueness; Each of us travelling uncharted territories (or a well-known path for some), praying to god that we are making the right choices for ourselves and our children.
Does anyone have thoughts about this?
Much love and light,
Shell
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Hi Shell, I think women these
Hi Shell,
I think women these days do not stay in unhappy relationships "for the sake of the kids" as much as previous generations did. I'm sure there are multiple other factors, but that's just one thought
Valerie
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A profound question
I think you bring up a very difficult issue. I really have not idea why men do not stay and parent their children - despite the relationship with their mother. But, they should! They are needed! Perhaps we need to send messages to them about how important the role of fatherhood is!
You are doing a difficult task! My own children did not say "thank you" nor see all I that I gave until they were 19.
But, like all things worth our time, it's a daily choice. A daily choice to read to them when you are tired, to hug them when you have not been hugged yourself, to play with them when you long to escape and have adult fun.
It's also a delicate balance. A mom has to take time for herself. Time to read and connect with those that nurish HER own soul.
You have one of the most difficult jobs of all. But, also the most rewarding! I have no idea why men do not see this!