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Stigma to a Separated mother

Believing and hoping that a door that closes a new one will be open.A wellknown catholic institution have the access,knowledge and authorized to channel the job openings for the company and agency to the social action center where I worked before.Organize group of women whom I organized were the one who spread the information of the job opening to their constituents and the one intereste to apply usually have letter of referral from our center.Aware and optimistic and inspired of that I apply because a lot of opening was posted in the bulletin board of the said catholic institution.The staff know me and I also follow the standard procedure in applying for the position I desired.I passed the written examination and during the interview by a "Nun/Sister"I open-up my real self and status.She said there's an opening in the city after a certain time so I was told to wait for that.I did what she told me but it seems i waited for nothing.I prepare a letter to the highiest authority of the catholic hierarchy and send it to his palace personally and after a week I received a reply from Him and advice me to return to the institution with his letter. I showed the letter to the staff assigned in the portery of the convent and she got the letter.The same nun/sister accomodate me and as we have our conversation she directly told me that she's so sorry that eventhough I am qualified for the position they cannot hire me because I might become the topic of all the staff which is a very shallow reason. Imagine,an apostle of Christ,my co-woman,discreminate me, she at once assume of what might happen?I forgot and wasn't able to get back the letter from the staff because as if I like to cry and leave the premises at once.After that event I wrote a new letter,relay my feedback and send it again to the holy palace but I don't receive any reply from him.

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Khushbu's picture

Sorry

Dear Adelma

It is really sad that you were discriminated and cheated by a woman. I have my sympathies for you. I suggest you to fight for your right, and not be dismayed by setbacks. They are meant to come but it is upon you to move on undeterred.

As your listener for the week, I have few suggestions for you, however. Since this is part of your assignment, you should have connected the strings about how did you become a part of VOF and what inspired you. Is it the same injustice that triggered you to join this community and voice out your frustration and anger and let the world know of the injustices? How does being here fulfill your vision? Your assignment would have been powerful if you had followed the instructions.

On a personal level, I wish you luck. I will pray for you and hope that you get what you deserve.

Hugs
Khushbu:)

Khushbu Agrawal

Dear Khushbu,

Thanks a lot for your symphathy and I really appreciate your kind worlds and wish for me.I come to know World Pulse through ISIS,International,Manila.It is through ISIS that I usually visit after we've been forced to resign in a womens group institution.They,(ISIS) allowed me to use their computer for FREE and from there, I was able to have my email account I think way back year 2000. Am so thankful for their being OPEN to me inspite the fact, that they know my former boss.It so happen that in the module of the 2010 VOF program,we cannot prevent that our past experiences can be touch because I need to open it to women of the world who can read it,that I was able to survive,be brave enough to face incoming challenges and struggles that might come my way.Opening it will help me how to continue of "letting go".That's why,I can say, that I am a wounded healer.

olakitike's picture

A wounded healer

Dear Adelma,
I believe that many times we help others to find healing and comfort in the same areas that we ourselves have been wounded. I pray that you will be fully healed from this hurt so that you also can help other.
All the best dear,
Ayobami

Adelma A.Linatoc's picture

Motivator . . .

Dear Ayobami,

Thanks a lot my dear for your pray which will be of great help to me. Yes,by sharing and opening my experiences to others especially to women of the world, I know that those who were able to know and read it and those with the same experience will emphatize with me and together our healing will continue.

Let us be strong !

Pain at first is just on the mind level until the hurt and the bad memories remain in one's bone,blood and cells,but if I continue to cling to it and I didn't allow "letting go" to happen,for sure I'll not prosper and be advance of what I want to be of myself.I must not dwell with my past pain.

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