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The journey so far.

Change is the only constant thing but the human attitudes dread the thought of change and the possible effects of change. There are a few challenges and barriers to creating or making a change in Nigeria.
The first is the traditional mindset of the people; Nigerians are most times dead set against change. So, we face a lot of problems when trying to orient them .Nigerians would prefer to do the same thing the same old way, even if it doesn’t yield positive result, you hear phrases like, “this is how we have been doing it before you were born” Some men would say, their fathers corrected their mothers by beating them, so the only way to correct their erring wives is to beat them like stubborn goats.

Another challenge is the fact that Nigerians place a lot of emphasis on unpleasant incidents like rape and mental illness ,so you find it difficult most times to access the victims, they prefer to keep quiet and save their faces from the stigma. Many times too, affected young women would prefer to live on monetary support rather than getting entrepreneur empowerment, and this makes our efforts so tasking.

Thirdly, we lack of funds and this makes me willingly buy less of personal stuff whenever money is given for such and I wear less expensive attires. This approach makes me “beg” less and work more”

To solve the problem of traditional method, we have accepted to patiently educate the public on issues of our concern, a step at a time. Even though one public enlightenment programme may not do the magic, the second, third, fourth, fifth etc are making slight and significant impact. The people are now knowledgeable about traditional challenges and the choice of a change that would make the positive difference. Getting to know that a wife is not a slave but a friend and partner who must be treated as one is goal we have achieved through “Destiny Luncheon”.

In addition to solutions we have created, we have different platforms for young people, including the males to come interact on issues that border on their unique sexes and entrepreneur. I n such forum, they talk and respond to one another and they also get revelations on their right to protection and survival.

To get fund, we have found a way around ourselves, I have started some businesses like hair dressing salon, children library and after school support in our facility in order to fund our programmes. That decision was a tough one, because my husband thought the business investment was to support my own personal needs. I would really want to appreciate his financial support; he is my only financier at the moment.

Finally, I see Pulse Wire and other online communities playing a great role because of the interactive toolkits like resource exchange, global events and action alerts. These support tools can help us reach volunteers, access funders, access relevant trainings and wider methods of executing our projects.

Comments

Leina's picture

More grease to yor elbows

More grease to yor elbows sister!
Hugs
Leina

tocssfoundation's picture

Re:

Thanks Leina.
In partnership with your efforts.

Warm Regards
Temidayo

Shalom.

Noriah Ismail's picture

Stick to the Fight !

Life is full of its twists and turns - only those who do not give up easily and strive hard to achieve their goal will succeed.

In your case, you seem to have the strong willpower to keep on going and fight the odds

So stick to the fight and change may come sooner than you think!

Am Proud of You!

Noriah

Dr.Noriah Ismail
Senior Lecturer
Academy of Language Studies
UiTM Segamat Johor
Malaysia

tocssfoundation's picture

Re:

Thanks Noriah for the kind remarks.
I'm proud of you too.

Regards
Temidayo

Shalom.

Julie Tomlin's picture

Using your influence..

I think you have hit the nail on the head that the big barriers women face in Nigeria can only be changed by taking one small step at a time. I enjoyed reading your journal and admire the work you are doing and what you are prepared to sacrifice personally to achieve it.

Yours,
Julie

@julietomlin

Julie Tomlin's picture

Using your influence..

I think you have hit the nail on the head that the big barriers women face in Nigeria can only be changed by taking one small step at a time. I enjoyed reading your journal and admire the work you are doing and what you are prepared to sacrifice personally to achieve it.

Yours,
Julie

@julietomlin

tocssfoundation's picture

A big thank you!

Dear Julie,
Thanks for the kind comment and I echo your noted point, one small step at a time..
In partnership with your efforts.
Together with you the World shall become a better place.

Regards
Temidayo

Shalom.

tocssfoundation's picture

A big thank you!

Dear Julie,
Thanks for the kind comment and I echo your noted point, one small step at a time..
In partnership with your efforts.
Together with you the World shall become a better place.

Regards
Temidayo

Shalom.

Christine L's picture

Change!

Hello Temidayo,
Change is hard especially when the beliefs and practices are embedded in years of culture. You are doing your part and you are excellent at doing it. Thank you.
Christine

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”- Mahatma Gandhi
www.harmonydrs.com

tocssfoundation's picture

Re:

Dear Christine,
Thanks for finding time to read my post .
I really appreciate your kind cmment.
Together with you, the World shall become a better place.

Regards
Temidayo

Shalom.

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