The journey so far.
Change is the only constant thing but the human attitudes dread the thought of change and the possible effects of change. There are a few challenges and barriers to creating or making a change in Nigeria.
The first is the traditional mindset of the people; Nigerians are most times dead set against change. So, we face a lot of problems when trying to orient them .Nigerians would prefer to do the same thing the same old way, even if it doesn’t yield positive result, you hear phrases like, “this is how we have been doing it before you were born” Some men would say, their fathers corrected their mothers by beating them, so the only way to correct their erring wives is to beat them like stubborn goats.
Another challenge is the fact that Nigerians place a lot of emphasis on unpleasant incidents like rape and mental illness ,so you find it difficult most times to access the victims, they prefer to keep quiet and save their faces from the stigma. Many times too, affected young women would prefer to live on monetary support rather than getting entrepreneur empowerment, and this makes our efforts so tasking.
Thirdly, we lack of funds and this makes me willingly buy less of personal stuff whenever money is given for such and I wear less expensive attires. This approach makes me “beg” less and work more”
To solve the problem of traditional method, we have accepted to patiently educate the public on issues of our concern, a step at a time. Even though one public enlightenment programme may not do the magic, the second, third, fourth, fifth etc are making slight and significant impact. The people are now knowledgeable about traditional challenges and the choice of a change that would make the positive difference. Getting to know that a wife is not a slave but a friend and partner who must be treated as one is goal we have achieved through “Destiny Luncheon”.
In addition to solutions we have created, we have different platforms for young people, including the males to come interact on issues that border on their unique sexes and entrepreneur. I n such forum, they talk and respond to one another and they also get revelations on their right to protection and survival.
To get fund, we have found a way around ourselves, I have started some businesses like hair dressing salon, children library and after school support in our facility in order to fund our programmes. That decision was a tough one, because my husband thought the business investment was to support my own personal needs. I would really want to appreciate his financial support; he is my only financier at the moment.
Finally, I see Pulse Wire and other online communities playing a great role because of the interactive toolkits like resource exchange, global events and action alerts. These support tools can help us reach volunteers, access funders, access relevant trainings and wider methods of executing our projects.