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Being the girl from future!

Alia Turki Al-Rabeo

I always avoid talking about myself. I believe that a journalist’s task in life is to talk about other people and their lives and make them effectively heard.

When I begin working as a journalist a few years ago, I did not have much experience in life. I dreamt of being a news presenter all the time. However, I joined a news channel as a producer with the promise of being made anchor of my own show sooner than later. I didn’t realize that the management’s promise would cause jealousy at such high magnitude. My enemies were all women and they seemed on a mission to fail me.

I changed my mind about the womenfolk from being jealous to a mentor when I met this great female journalist, who inspired me to write instead of dreaming of being a showpiece on TV screen. I became voice of my people, struggling to change their situation for the better. Thus began a journey of reporting for wire services and foreign newspapers, until I won a UN international award.

With this social and journalistic exposure, I find Lebanese and Jordanian women more self-confident, open-minded and ambitious compared to their Syrian sisters. It goes without saying that the Turkish women got their right much before us and they have defined their role as productive citizens in every walk of life.

The Syria women are clever enough to fight with their sisters for social space but they find tackling men really too hard. Despite being clever and intelligent, over 70% from Syrian men underestimate them while the remaining are close-mind and insecure, pretending as liberals with a rare breed of true believers in female empowerment and equal social status.

My late father always inspired me to be more ambitious, my brother appreciates my being different from the other girls while my special one calls me ‘the girl from future’. I am so much blessed indeed!

I am not saying that women alone can change their fate and lives. Rather women need male help in improving their situation. When I become a radical feminist due some situation or a particular event, I think of these three men in my life. I no more stereotype men in one form or the other.

In Arabic, they say behind every great man there is a great woman, but I am saying behind every great woman there are great men. We should stop blaming men all the time for our bad situation.

Interestingly behind these men, I have one great woman who teaches me that nothing is difficult in the world. We can do everything we want. She is my elder sister Alaa. Thus in a way, to be a successful woman, you need a great woman at your back.

Prior joining the World Pulse, I wanted to enroll in women studies. Then I realized the need to study more on women issues, to hear more about their stories and to write more about them. When I read about the World Pulse, I realized that here is my space.

It is not enough to talk about women issue in a loud angry voice. Rather we need good communication skills and trainings to be make our message more meaningful for everyone. We need to improve the future by changing our present day world and here is the space to experiment the same.

Comments

Farona's picture

I am lucky to be acquainted

I am lucky to be acquainted with self-confident and intelligent Syrian women here in KSA - one of them actually works in leading newspaper! Syria, like Saudi Arabia, is still an evolving society. Slowly but surly men's attitude toward women is changing. But we still have a long road to walk :(

"I always avoid talking about myself. I believe that a journalist’s task in life is to talk about other people and their lives and make them effectively heard." you just absolutely summed up a passionate journalist's burning desire ! it's funny too, we seldom feel satisfied talking about ourselves.

Good luck, 'girl from the future' !

With love and kindness

alia's picture

yes you are right Farona we

yes you are right Farona we still have a long road to take our roles in our societies , but that would happen at the end insha Allah :)

thanks alot for your wonderful comment , i really love it so much , and please keep doing that because you let me feel that my voice is heard by great women here in world pulse , but it doesn't in my country :(

salam my dear

with love
Alia

Ruun Abdi's picture

Dear Alia

Dear Alia,
What a wonderful statements you made about journalists work, they always talk about other people's lives rather than their own. great work dear keep it up and God bless you.

As its been said "Yesterday is but a dream and tommorow is only a vision but our today's work makes every yesterday a dream of happines and every tommorow a vision of hop"

Warmest regards.
Maria

alia's picture

My dear Maryan ,actually most

My dear Maryan ,actually most of the journalists are like this , they are silent heroes in away or other

thanks for encouraging me , iam happy because u found time to read my assignment

with love
Alia

noreens's picture

Hi Alia, I agree with you

Hi Alia,

I agree with you about journalists writing about others and not themselves. We have to keep our voices out of our stories. Sometimes it can be a bit frustrating because there are so many stories to be told, and there is only so much that each of us can do. This is why World Pulse is so great - we can post here what an editor may not be interested in.

I also think that we should not blame men for all the bad situations of women. We should also blame ourselves for not taking control of our lives. Funny you mention that because it is something that I have been talking to a couple of my friends the last two days. I will write about it.

Nice reading your stories - I see a lot of you in me!

Noreen

Noriah Ismail's picture

True to Every Word!

Your writing is an eye-opener especially to many women out there who tend to blame others for their misfortune.

Another interesting point you made regarding envious women...it's true that more often than not, in many organizations, especially the ones which have a majority of women involved, a lot of envy and backstabbing occur among them. This shouldn't be happening, because women should stand up for one another and not cause discrimination against them to worsen! Anyway, God bless you and others who strive to improve the lives of other discriminated women through your writing. Keep it up!

Noriah Ismail

Dr.Noriah Ismail
Senior Lecturer
Academy of Language Studies
UiTM Segamat Johor
Malaysia

abella's picture

Beautiful!

"I am not saying that women alone can change their fate and lives. Rather women need male help in improving their situation. When I become a radical feminist due some situation or a particular event, I think of these three men in my life. I no more stereotype men in one form or the other. In Arabic, they say behind every great man there is a great woman, but I am saying behind every great woman there are great men. We should stop blaming men all the time for our bad situation".

I compeletely believe in the above statement Alia, I trully believe that we need each other to make things happen, I believe what we are the interdependent eco-system advocating on peace and harmony and equall co-existence to make the world a better place together, without thinking i am better than the other, because such mentallity has brought so much trouble and chao across the globe.

Thank you for this writting i enjoyed reading it.

I am because we are :-)

alia's picture

thanks so much my friends ,

thanks so much my friends , iam was so happy when i read your comments

noreens it is an hounor to be like you

Abella iam here because of you

Noriah you are my eyes as a woman from other country

thanks for your time ladies , you are great women , that is what i was talking about empowering eachother .

please keep doing that and read all my stories and assignments ;-))

with love
Alia

Aida Dervishi's picture

Dear Alia, reading your

Dear Alia,
reading your journal it's a real pleasure. Yes you are a girl from the future, always a step ahead with your posts here which I enjoy reading, so I am glad you joined world pulse rather than enrolling for women studies. I think this platform is more colorful and versatile that one could expect, isn't it?

Cheers,

alia's picture

yes you are right my dear

yes you are right my dear Aida , i can get more experience here in web2.0 , and know more about women issues

thanks for the nice comment

keep encouraging me please:)

with love
Alia

Dear Alia,
I loved your writing, and how perceptive your father was. He obviously saw that you were someone who would take the road less travelled in your life- with all the struggles and hardships it will bring. But also with the rewards as well. It was very interesting to me to hear what you had to say about the differences between women in Syria, Turkey, Lebanon and Jordan. And the fight for political space in your country. It is true that mcuh time can be wasted in fighting those that could be our allies instead of tackling some of the issues about sharing equal space with men. And also- definitely, we need men to support women in our fight for equality (on women's terms).
I think Syria is lucky to have a journalist with such a powerful and honest voice such as yourself. Well done and looking forward to reading more of your work.
Best wishes,
Ina

alia's picture

Dear Ina iam so honoured by

Dear Ina

iam so honoured by what you said , thanks so much , iam a journalist who is trying to make a small change in this complicated life espically in developing countries , as you know the sitution here is so diffecult and it needs alot of efforts

thanks for the wonderful comment , you make my day :)

you make me proud of myself my friend .

with love
Alia

EleanorJohnstone's picture

Hi alia, I completely agree

Hi alia,

I completely agree with Abella's comment above. As the eldest daughter, no brothers, in a divorced family I have spent several years sorting out the truths and the lies of gender dynamics. Many strong women define strength in terms of being the anti-man. In America, we often have jokes about how a perfect man is a woman, or why are men so obtuse, they must be evolutionarily slow. But I find those jokes to be very narrow-minded. I have had some wonderful, open and even minded boyfriends and male friends who have showed me that women and men have plain, honest, natural differences. And the relationships and equitable unions between men and womend epend on accepting those differences, NOT on changing or erasing them. To achieve that, I believe the clear communication is the key. And patience. Otherwise, if women just state that they can create change on their own and that they will be more effective without men, then the world will only become a harshly divided place and no progress will be achieved.

I also really liked the way you opened your story. This assignment was to tell your story, yet you demonstrate your skills as a journalist by cleverly and gracefully sidestepping that directive and explaining your reasons. Your article above is both personal and public; I believe that it connects with so many women in our world. Which is why we write, hey? To bring people together and demonstrate the similartities across so many boundaries : )

Thank you, and keep it up!

~ Eleanor

alia's picture

Thanks Eeanor for your great

Thanks Eeanor for your great comment , you would be a great writer becuse you have a strong opinion

i loved when you said , Otherwise, if women just state that they can create change on their own and that they will be more effective without men, then the world will only become a harshly divided place and no progress will be achieved.
i agree with you here .

with love
Alia

alia's picture

Thanks Eeanor for your great

Thanks Eeanor for your great comment , you would be a great writer becuse you have a strong opinion

i loved when you said , Otherwise, if women just state that they can create change on their own and that they will be more effective without men, then the world will only become a harshly divided place and no progress will be achieved.
i agree with you here .

with love
Alia

olakitike's picture

Yes you are blessed.

You are indeed blessed to have men in your life who support you and encourage you to be all you can be. I find your piece thought provoking and insightful.
I will like to know, how do you think we can have more men like this? The 70% of men that you spoke about, how can their perception of women be changed?
What if their perception does not change, does that mean an end to women empowerment? Since you say its necessary to have the men involved.
I look forward to reading your response.
Cheers,
Ayobami

alia's picture

Dear Ayobami i think The

Dear Ayobami

i think The fault lies in grooming of men when are children. If sisters are treated equal to brothers and not assistants in kitchen and home cleaners then men may start learning a normal behavior.

Mothers also have a lot of role to play in managing the gender balance at home. If they cannot create a balance there, we may end up in rebellious men or under-confident insecure women

Even in liberal or modern school systems, girls are cautiously given the roles that are easily assigned to their male colleagues. This happens in curricular and extra-curricular activities both, sometimes in subtle ways and often in clear and loud manners.

The men perception would be changed when women change from themselves ,and understand the men importance in this process , we cannot say they would not respond to us because they cannot lose their women at the end.

thanks for the great comment

with love
Alia

olakitike's picture

It starts with us

I like your conclusion, that any change will start with us women. All the best Alia dear I look forward to reading much more from you.

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