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……AND THEN I LEFT….

Every day I had to woke up early in the morning do housekeeping, cooking and also have to cut big jute sack of grass before I go to school. We do not have our own land; therefore I have to go nearby fields in search of grass for our Cattles. I never got chance to be on time for my school. When I reached school, I was so tired that I couldn’t concentrate in my study. Sometimes was so hungry that I couldn’t concentrate in my class because I even do not have time to eat my lunch at home. If I started eating lunch then I have to miss first class. However, when I had menstruation, I never go to school because it’s really hard to be at school while having period. Although I had to fulfill many responsibilities before I go to school, I never give up my education. Suddenly, when I was studying in Class 8, I was forced to marry an unknown, 35 year’s age drunk man. I requested my mother several times to cancel my marriage but no one hears me. Instead my mother told me that I can continue my education after getting marriage, and my husband will allow me to go to school. Finally I got married.

In the beginning of my married life, everyone treated me well. However, the day came when I have to work from the early morning to till 11pm in order to make my family members happy. I felt so tired but there was no one who could help me in my work. Although I have two sister-in-law and mother-in-law, I don’t have anyone to share my feeling and was worthless to expect from my family members. At night, when I lay on the bed, I could feel the pain. Sometimes I cried and remembered my mother. When I was in my parents’ home, at least my mother was there for me when I need. At the same time, my husband used to come drinking local alcohol and raped me until he satisfied. I could not do anything except crying because he was my husband.

Besides, I was so worried about my education. My final examination was only a month far and it was a district level examination so I decided to talk with my husband regarding my education. No one listen to me, not even my mother-in-law, not even my husband, not even my mother, no one. I felt lonely in this big world. Till then it was already some months, and found that I was pregnant. I do not want to have a baby and I knew it’s not a good time for me to give birth to a child but what to do. I cried and cried because I didn’t have any option except than crying. I thought it is too late to talk about my education so I give up education. How can I go to school when I am pregnant? The days became harder when I was pregnant because I had to do all the work by myself. I didn’t go a single day for the checkup, neither had I taken any medication. Finally I gave birth to a son whose body was pale and yellow. Now I had one more responsibility-that is to take care of my son. Although I got so tired, I used to forget all my sorrows when I see my son. However, I was not that much fortunate, my son was also snatch from me. May be this cruel society doesn’t want my happiness at all. My son died from yellow fever but my mother-in-law blamed me as a witch. No one try to understand how I am going through instead she blamed me that I ate my own son. A son whom I carried nine months in my womb, A son whom I love more than anything in this world, A son whom I find as a friend to share my sorrow. Every day she tortured me in the name of witchcraft.

And Then I decided to run away from my home and go very far. Finally, I got chance to meet Sita Didi and started living with her. I worked for her in agricultural sector and support myself. Now I am 35 years old but I didn’t marry another man after I left my husband. At least now, I am free, no one torture me.

This life story is based on Devi(name changed because she doesn't want her name to be published). I got chance to meet her during the HIV test-a part of health clinic that I did back in Nepal on last May)

Comments

NyamburaFoley's picture

Sunita

Thanks Sunita for sharing with us Devi's story. It's sad that she had to go through hell and back at such a young age.

I wish her well wherever she is.

Regards,

Nyambura.

sunita.basnet's picture

Hello Nyambura

Hi there,
Thanks for your valuable time. Yes there are much more we need to do.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

noreens's picture

sad story

Hi Sunita,

What a sad story. I think there are a lot of women silently suffering, and unfortunately have just accepted that this is their fate. I'm glad that she had the courage to leave. Do you know if she completed her education?

Noreen

sunita.basnet's picture

Depressing

Dera Noreen,

First of all, thanks alot for your valuable time and effort u made to read this piece of paper. Yes there are many more stories which are hidden in our society. She left her home but was unable to continue her education. When I met her she was requesting me not to give up my education at any cost.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Karen Rozier's picture

Inspired Me to Do More

Thank you for sharing this story. It truly touched me.

sunita.basnet's picture

keep it up

hello Karen,

I am glad that it inspire you, keep your good work continue.
love much

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

alia's picture

sometimes i feel guitly

sometimes i feel guitly because there are alot of women who are suffering, while we cannot do anything for them , a good story Sonita

best regards
Alia

sunita.basnet's picture

Hello Alia I am sorry that it

Hello Alia

I am sorry that it made you feel guilty. Keep your good work continue and one day it will definately make an differences.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Singmila Shimrah's picture

Dear Sunita Thanks for

Dear Sunita

Thanks for sharing about this courageous woman!! It is a heart wrenching story...you covered her story so well. plz convey my warm wishes to her, if you'll ever get to meet her again... keep writing!! ur writings touch our souls in many ways..keep up the good work.. take care Singmi

sunita.basnet's picture

Heart wrenching!

Dear Singmila,

Thanks for your time. Ofcourse I will convey your message when I am back to Nepal.

Sure we will keep up the good work. Keep in touch dear!

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Subhash Ghimire's picture

want to be connected

Hey Sunita,
God job! You are one of the unsung heroes that we need here in the country.
Can you please email me

thank you,
subhash

sunita.basnet's picture

You are welcome

Hello Subash ji,
Namaste,

I have already send you an email, please have a look. Sorr, I was sick so was unable to browse world pulse. Finally I have recovered from fever and is ready for any questions. Go ahead and send me the list of questions. I will answer it because its also my responsibility as a ambassador.

Thanks for your wonderful wishes.
Best regards
Sunita

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Subhash Ghimire's picture

waiting

Hello Sunita,
I am also planning on attending the one young world event in Zurich next year. and I wanna ask you few questions and that why i posted my email but never heard from you?
Can you please email me

thank you,
subhash

sunita.basnet's picture

Email?

Hello Subhash Ji,

I am sorry I check my profile and journal only today so was unable to communicate with you. Did you receive my email? I have sent you sometimes ago.

Looking forward hearing from you.
Sincerely
Sunita

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

giftypearl.abenaab's picture

Dear Sunita

Thank you for sharing this story. I stumbled upon it today and I enjoyed reading it. It is touching and moving!

Gifty Pearl Abenaab
Founder
Greight Foundation
www.greightfoundation.org

sunita.basnet's picture

Hey Gifty, I too enjoy your

Hey Gifty,
I too enjoy your work and writing. Cannot wait to talk with you in skype.
love you.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

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