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Widowhood

I am 61 years old. Forty years ago, my husband Michael was killed in the war, and made me a widow at the tender age of 21. Barely, a kid myself, I was stuck with the responsibility of bringing up our kids alone. With the devastation of the war everywhere, I was lonely, rejected and confused; with no means of livelihood, no formal education, and no roof over our heads.The only thing worthwhile, my husband left for me was our innocent children, looking up to me for succor, and beckoning on me spiritually not to abandon them. That, I had no intention of doing. By the grace of God, we stuck together, and raised each other....But, it is a lonely world out there.
Today, with a whale of experience, and perseverance, I am available to counsel, mother, mold, nurture and encourage widows and orphans worldwide.

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jadefrank's picture

losing a husband, gaining a stigma

Dear Rose,

What an inspiring story! Losing a husband and raising a family as a single mother, especially at such a young age, is huge obstacle. But on top of that, the stigma that comes with widowhood in many cultures adds such discrimination that reading your story makes my heart shake with inspiration for what you have achieved - especially now helping other in your community and beyond to be empowered like you.

I would love to hear more about your foundation for widows! Please share your vision and current projects with us!

In friendship and solidarity,
Jade

Rose Candy's picture

GrandmaRose Foundation

Thanks so very much for your kind reaction to my story on WorldPulse. I pray that this story will make a difference to women all over the world who are wondering where to go from where they are now, and this is exactly what I am doing with widows; letting them know that "widowhood is not a curse, but a challenge".
GrandmaRose Foundation is a new NGO that empowers women through counseling, which is very important to heal the emotional wound caused by the the drastic loss of their loved one. I have been there. I know where it hurts most. I also encourage them to stick to their children, nurture and train them to be useful to themselves and society.
GrandmaRose Foundation also encourages young children on the importance of getting educated, and have succeeded in enrolling a few of them in school.

Mothering, Molding and Nurturing children

olutosin's picture

Inspiration

Finally you are here and I am glad because I believe that you will finally find a new platform to show case your beautiful ideas we discussed and most importantly you can mentor other young women on mothering, your area of expertise. I am always touched by your story, three sons all by yourself at the age of twenty one and you were able to return to school, learn and supported your sons too, I am happy we met.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

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Rose Candy's picture

Thanks for encouraging me

I really appreciate your introducing me to World|Pulse, and all the help you have rendered so far.
This is what | call empowerment. Thanks, and stay blessed.

Mothering, Molding and Nurturing children

giftypearl.abenaab's picture

Strong woman

Dear Rose,
You are a strong Grandma, mother, sister and a friend to many girls and women around the world. You have a powerful story and a wealth of experience. I happy you set a Foundation to reach out to women with counselling.

I cannot wait to read more stories about your life 40 years ago and now. Your challenges, your success and how you sailed through all of this.
Best

Gifty Pearl Abenaab
Founder
Greight Foundation
www.greightfoundation.org

Rose Candy's picture

MY FORTY YEARS SOJOURN

My Dear Gifty,
Forty years as a widow is like forty years in the wilderness. But, like the Biblical story of the sojourn of the Israelites to the Promised Land, they wore the same clothes and sandals for forty years, without wear and tear, because the Mighty One was with them. They had divine sustenance. Same, with us here.
God made everything possible by giving me the grace to hold on to Him, and to my children. The kids and I grew up as siblings, with me holding the mantle of leadership.
I went through, and enjoyed the pains and joy of motherhood. Believe me, it is not a bed of roses, but it is worth it. This necessary pain/joy relationship is what will bind you to them
for life.
They will always be there for you later on in life. They will be your life insurance and social security, all in one.
If you mold and nurture your kids, against all odds, they will grow up to be useful to themselves, and become respectable members of society, and the world as a whole.
So, mothers worldwide, hold on to your kids, and be there for them, no matter what situation you find yourselves. You will be making the world a better place by this God-given mandatory act, and responsibility.

More detailed and explicit story of my 40 years sojourn will be made available in my Bio which will be out in the future.
Gifty, I am proud of what you do. You are really making a difference. We are all in this together. Thanks for responding to my story, and stay blessed.
GRANDMA ROSE FOUNDATION
Lagos - Nigeria

Mothering, Molding and Nurturing children

millly's picture

Thanks

Rose,your story is encouraging to many .I became a mother at a tender age,though not as a widow like you,i can identify with the stigma you found yourself in.Its a tough world for women and even tougher for widows and single mums.Iam a single mum and i have gone through so much,no mentor or an encourager along the way.This site is trruely an inspiration.

vivian's picture

Don't look back

I can imagine what you may have passed through even with the little one I see my mum a widow too go through.

Don't look back, just keeping moving until you get there. The Lord will continue to be you strenght

Vivian

''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

Rose Candy's picture

THANKS

I am proud of you, Vivian. We are all in this together, and we shall get there.
Keep on keeping on.

Rose Candy @ GrandmaRose Foundation

Mothering, Molding and Nurturing children

vivian's picture

Don't look back

I can imagine what you may have passed through even with the little one I see my mum a widow too go through.

Don't look back, just keeping moving until you get there. The Lord will continue to be you strenght

Vivian

''Every woman have a story at every stage of Life''

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