Woman of loose morals
by gunu_k | July 21, 2010 at 7:22 AM
After having finished my MPhil degree and got some freedom from rigorous studying I decided to bend my attention to doing some voluntary work to improve the bad lighting and sanitation situation prevailing in our residential colony. Our colony here in Indore is in a bad shape because the earlier elected President has defalcated funds and been sacked. He did not do any work. Now till a new board and President is elected all the community work is in limbo. So street lights were not working, men from outside were drinking at night in the colony and the septic tanks having filled up the drains were overflowing with sewage. There was no money for carrying out remedial action as the bank account is sealed for the time being. So I got the people of my colony together and we collected money from the residents and improved the lighting and sanitation and went in a delegation to the Police Station and got the drunkards from outside ejected. Now the colony is a more liveable place.
However, instead of getting kudos for these efforts there is feedback that a woman should not be so active. This feedback is coming more from women in the colony than the men! One woman even told my husband jokingly that if he did not watch out then he would lose me to other men! Thus, the social stigma attached to women becoming socially active is so great that it is indeed difficult for the general run of women to do anything socially constructive.
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Great Courage
Hello Gunu,
No matter what the other people says , you have done a fantastic job. That is how an educated women take lead to change the community we live in. The countries like yours, Nepal, Bangladesh and Pakistan still lacks the education on women and women are biased in the name of gender. IT happens everywhere and we should only listen to people but at the same time we should realize that its not them who are saying these demotivating words its the education and the conservative thinking that speaking.
Really like your endeavor!!!
Nilima
Peace,
Nilima
www.nilichari.wordpress.com
spot on
Thanks Nilima for the encouragement and you are absolutely right that it is not the person but her conditioning that is speaking. The situation is rather hilarious here in our residential colony because I am not considered to be a good woman because I do not fit into the traditional mould of a housewife. Moreover, my husband is considered a weakling because he frequently does the cooking, cleaning and clothes washing!
Subhadra Khaperde
India
Dear Subhadra, It happens
Dear Subhadra,
It happens everywhere but the courage you have shown in this situation is what matters the most!! i wish you all the best and i hope your husband understand you too.
Peace,
Nilima
www.nilichari.wordpress.com
Inspired!
Dear Subhadra behen,
I can only say salaam to you and your husband. Continue your courageous and crucial work, sister!
Love,
Pushpa