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to give things correct names

I am from Belarus, Eastern part of Europe. 20 years ago my motherland was a part of Soviet Union.
For the first look, women of our country have no gender problems. Girls are going to school and univercity, women are working on a par with men. They have the same rights, for example, they are electors from the same age, they can be elected on any lever of power. Many womens are commanded men.
But! Only for the first look.
Because if we have human rights only on paper - there are no real rights both for women and men. Our women thought all time about how to feed family? how to wear family? how to treat? how to study? how to..?
Our men try to get money... And neither men nor women never think about the way to change something.
Conversely, they teach their kids to adapt to sistem, to society: silent, lie, be like everyone else, hate, do not resent the loud, flatter, to substitute another, to steal, bum. Parents think, they are help their children. And they are surprised, when kids grown up and became, maybe, sucsessful in carier, but they are angry, unhappy, agressive, unsure, kindless, indifferent...
Mothers! We must have own opinion. We must let our children to have own opinion. Not only to have, but to defend. We must give our men chance to be MEN. It is time to remember, what is good and what is bad, and to give things correct names. Nobody exept us can do it. The way is beginning with one little step...

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Carri Pence's picture

What do you think parents can

What do you think parents can do to raise a happy, positive, and honest child?

lenka1st's picture

I think, parents must be

I think, parents must be happy, positive and honest. And never try to make child "like somebody"s kid".
And we must find interesting people our children can meet - it is very important, to have an example of interesting, useful and honest way of life...

Я твайго не вазьму, я свайго не аддам! - I shall not take your, i shall not give my.

brianna.warren's picture

This is a really interesting

This is a really interesting way to view what is happening in Belarus. While women and have opportunity, they are also taught to conform. How do women in Belarus feel about the imperative to conform? In what ways can women assert their voices and express their opinions? Thank you for sharing your experience - I'd love to hear more from you on this subject.

Brianna

lenka1st's picture

to be conform

Belarussian tradition is strong family with the Father or Grandfather at the first place. But during the XIX-XX century Belarus lost a lot of men in wars and uprisings. And women came to men's place de facto, but they wanted to be behind their husbands and fathers. Govenment do all possible to take women from family to work at factories and fields - country was need all hands to work. A few men who were alive after II world war were on managerial positions - and women like this, because during the ocupation they was alone with problems, after release they began to restore country without men . And young men saw their mothers - not womens but workers, getters.
In the 2nd part of XX it was normal to see women at any work place. Men like there wifes as equal getters and as houseworkers at the same time, it became normal: 1 work for man and work + many duties for woman. Womans understood that its hard to be alone and told their daughters to be indulgent with husbands. And they told sons to became getters. At the end of XX Soviet Union collapse, it was very important to save a work. And now our parents told us to keep work at any price. And if somebody - man or woman - begin any activity to defend own opinion - the first step of govenment is blackmail dismissal. The second step is repressions with respect to family with the same blackmail dismissal. To be conform = to have stability.

Я твайго не вазьму, я свайго не аддам! - I shall not take your, i shall not give my.

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