Dowry--an illness in Pakistan
by Asma Ejaz | July 12, 2010 at 10:34 PM
Dowry has more value than womanDowry is a massive social ill on both sides of the Pakistan. There is no harm for giving the brides gifts on her wedding for her home. The growing numbers of daughters are staying unmarried simply because the parents are not able to meet the demand of the groom’s family. This is a quandary that needs to be looked into. If the parents promise to give dowry to bride after marriage but they cannot fulfill the promise at that time the brides life is miserable and these conditions change into dowry harassment. It covers a spam of behavior by man or his family members. When any person of the family is convince or forces the bride for dowry, it gives women mental depression. Dowry demands are sometimes so severe and cruel that women have often committed suicide to escape from this situation. Many women died because they were severely beaten by the people for dowry. The Dowry system has been practice in Pakistan from time Immemorial. Now it has become a route of life, it poses a challenge which seems difficult to meet. The demands for the dowry became the most essential condition for the marriage settlement. Marriage which is something sacred should be made as simple as possible.
Comments
DIFFERENT FOLKS DIFFERENT STROKES
Wonders will never end, we all must visit and end all forms of violence against women, in India, it is the problem of women paying the groom but here in Pakistan, it is the groom buying the bride.
This also happens in Nigeria, Eastern part of Nigeria especially where brides are bought according to educational attainment, so the higher the educational qualification, the higher the price, I am of the firm opinion that is Govt can come up with stringent law punishing parents who put their children on sale.
What is the different between human trafficking and sales of bride, one she is sold less because she is a child and and on the other hand, she is sold higher when she is an adult at better price for that matter.
When will the world accept child bearing and rearing as both social and spiritual obligations?
Thanks for writing....
Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale (Prevent Child Sexual Assault)
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria
https://www.facebook.com/olutosin?ref=tn_tnmn#!/olutosin
Thanks
Dear olutosin:
Thanks.We should bring awareness in th society.We (women) can change the world.
Thank you!
Asma Ejaz
Acc090095
Asian University for Women
There are so many
There are so many consequences of dowry that tarnish Pakistan and all who practice it. First, most families want to have a boy child causing a huge amount of baby girls to be abandoned or even aborted. Second, it makes women into objects where they are not married into the family but traded in. Third, it causes a physiological effect where women are forever removed from their family and placed into another family. Fourth, it creates women to be responsible for her own family to pay their way and she is the one that has to suffer the consequences. Fifth, it creates a tradition based on abuse where since the women is an object rather than a person, she is denied the ability of being physically protected. It is sad but she is not only abused by her husband but by his family as a whole. Sixth, it causes men to always have more of a right, than women, to own their estates and belongings, causing women to have to be dependent on their husband and his family. Seventh, and this saddest of it all is bride burning. Can you state any other effects that bride burning has, because I know I only touched a few.
In love and hope for a better tomorrow,
Carri Pence