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She taught me

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My mother taught me
Yes,my grandmother too taught me
My aunt also taught me
Never to say no to him
And if it must be no, God forbid, must be mute
The creed of silent suffering, I must cram

Mine has been silent suffering
Suffering of the heart it has been
Never complain aloud
For a good wife it is not allowed
The creed of silent suffering
My poor grandmother taught me

Sit like a woman, don't complain
An obedient housewife you must be
Whips and kicks from him is a sign of love
I was made to believe
A husband must be shared
A man with one wife is like a man with one eye
My grandmother taught me

I loved a man
Who never seemed to care
Or if he did,he told me not
Mine have been mutterings of the heart
The painful patience
Tearful refuge of silence

It is my womanly duty
To love
To cook
To wash
To make the bed
Never to fall ill
To work round th clock
To prove he has married a bulldozer of a wife

For how long must I be silent
For how long must I be mute
For how long must I look down when he introduces a new wife
All these have caused my death
I have died to be reborn
This is a new dawn
I must dance to a new tune
And the steps must be too loud.

Comments

Carri Pence's picture

It amazing how culture

It amazing how culture influences the minds. Our main teacher, our family, sometimes are so blind by traditions that they stunt our growth without even meaning to. I am sorry to hear that your family places importance on the judgments of society that they fail to see the importance of a women. Your grandmother is too blinded by the word of wife, where she forgets women are our best teachers, politicians, and friends. Thanks for breaking the words that bind women to being subservient to males because we all know that the words of equality much better represent us.

Riruta UW Empowerment Programme's picture

Yes Carri, The woman has

Yes Carri,
The woman has suffered alot and the number one enemy of a woman is the woman because it is a fellow woman who tells you the dos and don'ts of the society. She highlights to you the expectations of the society of a 'good woman'. I am happy that women are saying enough is enough of this suppressive culture and are walking neck high.

Thanks alot for sharing your sentiments.

Anne Khadudu Baraza,
CEO- Riruta United Women Empowerment Programme
+254 729880651/ 020 2602803
!27-00502 Karen, Nairobi Kenya

Rita Banerji's picture

Bravo!

Dear Anne,

It is the same story here in India. It women who teach women to take abuse and suffering and to make themselves nothing! And it is also women who teach the boys to be abusive and violent and how to treat women! It is the worst form of betrayal.

I am so glad to hear voices like your speaking out and loud. Because I have been looking for voices like this in India -- and so far we have none!

But women have to learn to become women's strength. I applaud you!

Rita Banerji
www.ritabanerji.com

Riruta UW Empowerment Programme's picture

Bravo

Yes Rita, we must stand up for the silent voices and sing loud.
Thank you

Anne Khadudu Baraza,
CEO- Riruta United Women Empowerment Programme
+254 729880651/ 020 2602803
!27-00502 Karen, Nairobi Kenya

pooza11's picture

Hey, you have portrayed a

Hey,
you have portrayed a women problem so nicely in this poem. Dont worry, the days of silence for women has gone and now its time to cry out loud................

Love
Pooza

Riruta UW Empowerment Programme's picture

She taught me

Yes Pooza and we must continue singing loudly.Thank you for your comment

Anne Khadudu Baraza,
CEO- Riruta United Women Empowerment Programme
+254 729880651/ 020 2602803
!27-00502 Karen, Nairobi Kenya

Nusrat Ara's picture

Yes it is a new dawn and we

Yes it is a new dawn and we all are dancing :)))))))

Love

Nusrat

Riruta UW Empowerment Programme's picture

New dawn

Thanks Nusrat, we must continue dancing and dancing wisely!

Anne Khadudu Baraza,
CEO- Riruta United Women Empowerment Programme
+254 729880651/ 020 2602803
!27-00502 Karen, Nairobi Kenya

farha rahman's picture

Itz amazing. the poem also

Itz amazing. the poem also refects the situation of women in Bangladesh. the Steps will be too loud!!!!

Regards
Farha

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