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what will happen to Robi?

Robi, a small town women, lived with parents and 8 siblings. she didnot completed her school. she was the last child of her parents. Her father worked in a government office, so when she was only 18, her parents became depended on their sons. None of her brothers were ready to take the responsibilities of Robi. Her sisters were helpless because they lived in their husbands' family. As a result, Robi did not get married. she was not educated, so she did not have any job. she never tastes freedom in her life.
Now, she is almost 45 years old. Her parents had died. she is still protecting her virginity. still she hopes that, one day she will get married! still her sisters are trying for her marriage. Recently she is living with her elder sister, who is an widow. she doesnot have any place to live. she have to live with her siblings family. Her nephews and nieces do not treat her with respect. For them, she is not different from the maid who works in their home.
sometimes when I think about Robi, I become worried. what will happen with her after her sister's death? I don't know. If she was educated, today she might have another life. if she got married, she could have a family. she is not educated, not married. she can not depend on herself or someone else. I don't understand, why she didnot ask for her rights? why she didnot choose a partner for her? I want to know, what she thinks about her life and herself, but when i go infront of her, i cannot ask the question.

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JaniceW's picture

Robi

Farha, I would love to know the answers to the questions too. Sometimes it is difficult to ask these questions but I have a feeling that the more you talk with her, the more you will learn about her dreams, challenges and hopes. Perhaps you can sit with her and just ask her to share more about her life with you. Sometimes, the answers naturally flow from her recollection of her childhood and youth.

Being uneducated, which should not be confused with not being intelligent, perhaps Robi did not know that she had any rights. Perhaps she does not realize that she does not need to depend on a man/her family for livelihood and can be independent. Perhaps she is unaware that there might be opportunities for her and that there are organizations that can help her find those opportunities e.g. NGOs in her area that focus on women's rights.

She has grown up in a patriarchal society where women are seen and not heard. You have the benefit of growing up in a generation where women are educated and know that they have rights. Perhaps you can share some of the wisdom you have learned to help her find her place in society where she is respected and loved. I am sure you will both gain from sharing your unique and beautiful lives. Keep us posted and I look forward to reading more from you.

farha rahman's picture

Thanx Janioe, yes, I will try

Thanx Janioe, yes, I will try to talk with her if we meet again.

Nusrat Ara's picture

I agree with Janice. You

I agree with Janice. You should try to talk to her and isten to her story.

Best of luck Farah

Nusrat

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