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Why "Living the Healed LIfe"?

I have had people ask me why I refer to this journal as "Living the Healed Life." There are several reasons and please feel free to respond to any of them. I love hearing from you.

Mental/Emotional/Physical: The father of my four wonderful children was a man who liked (a lot) to control and abuse. It took me 16 years to be able to get away from him. While that abuse stopped then,...

Poisoning/Cancer/Appendix: ...all the years of stress and "trauma drama" created in this body two rounds of cancer and later a damaged appendix that had to be removed.

During all of these "sick years" I learned many things, Probably the most important of these is really what forgiveness is. At first I thought forgiveness meant "making what he did OK." No. Not at all. Forgiveness, for me, iwasgiving myself those things I always wanted (love, fun, joy, safety, etc) so I didn't have to blame anyone, anymore for not having them. I had to forgive myself all the anger, resentment and guilt I had been feeling for so long. Then my body began to heal. I used only alternative healing supplements and a happy attitude as I had little money and no heath insurance at the time.

Well, it's been 17 years since I last heard I had two years to live. Guess I'm doing something right.:)

K-lee
www.k-leestarland.com

Comments

Nusrat Ara's picture

That is some wonderful advice

That is some wonderful advice Starland. I think if I am able to follow it , it can do me a lot of good. Probabaly this is the time I need it most. In your words I have to FORGIVE

Lots of Love

Nusrat

Mwierenga's picture

Struggling with forgiveness

K-lee,
Thank you for sharing your definition of forgiveness. That is a particular term that I really struggle with. I like how you describe it as being something positive you were giving yourself, rather than giving something away (which is how I often look at the word). I am sure it means different things to different people and I'm very interested in that, but it was refreshing to me to read how you used it to grab on to the things that made you feel good.
Keep up the "good work" which is indeed working on more levels than you can probably imagine!
Marlies

Starland's picture

Thank you

Hi Marlies

Thank you so much for your kind words. I just read your intro. I've been to Holland and loved it very much. I am glad you are in the states and working on environmental issues. Very important, I think. Interesting how nature forgives all the time. Through all the ignorant abuse, it comes back over and over again in great beauty. Maybe there is a lesson here, too. Perhaps forgiveness is NOT taking on other's people "garbage" (pardon the pun) even when it is dumped on us so that there is really nothing to forgive in the first place. :) Keep up the good work. Please write when you have time. Good to hear from you.
K-lee
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K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

jodelight's picture

beautiful

K-lee,

Thanks for sharing your words of forgiveness and insight. I love your last two sentences, "Well, it's been 17 years since I last heard I had two years to live. Guess I'm doing something right.:)". Wow! that's amazing! I'm moved by your words.

in kindness,
Jody

Starland's picture

Forgiveness

Thank you again. The secret to ultimate healing seems to be in large part a lot of happiness. In the beginning, a counselor told me that I had been depressed for so long I didn't even know I was depressed. She told me to spend 20 minutes a day being as happy as I could. In the beginning that was the longest and hardest part of my day. Now I am happy just about all the time. Lovin life.

love
K-lee

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

olutosin's picture

LEARNING LIFE'S LESSON

Thanks so much for this short but wonderful life prolonging lesson. It is not new but hardly thought about. Thanks for remembering us.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

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Starland's picture

Thank you

Good day Olutosin

It is so very good to hear from you. I value your input. Thank you for your comments. I looked over your profile and journal. What an amazing women's advocate you are! Keep up the good work.

I have a special place in my heart for Nigeria as my doctor where I used to live saved my life. He was from Nigeria. Great man and good friend.

K-lee

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

olutosin's picture

You Are Welcome Ma!

It is amazing at the pace, the net is connecting women all over the world and the initiative of Jensine Larsen, I feel so happy to read about the Nigerian, who was your doctor, but I am equally sad because our people are dying because of the Health care condition of Nigerian, it is so bad that our President cannot even see ANY GOOD HOSPITAL OF PHYSICIAN TO ATTEND TO HIS HEALTH IN NIGERIA, NOT TOO LONG AGO, THE IMMEDIATE PAST VICE PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA SPRAINED HIS ANKLE DURING HIS EARLY MORNING EXERCISE AND WAS FLOWN ABROAD FOR MEDICAL TREATMENT!
I am here to learn please post more and more!

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Starland's picture

healthcare

The state of Arizona that I used to live had healthcare for everyone. It was wonderful. Here in the state of Texas we do not. Many people do not have access to healthcare because it is so very expensive and so is the health insurance. I was aksed when I first arrive here if I could start some kind of health clinic for people without health insurance and no money. With the help of a few people and a lot of work (lots of paper work needed here), I am happy to say the clinic will open in a couple of months. Doctors here are required by law to report signs of abuse. Your husband would have been arrested. Well, that is a double edged sword for sure. There is a little peace and quiet when he is arrested but when he gets out - look out!

How old is your baby?
love,
K-lee

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

olutosin's picture

WELLDONE MA

You are doing a good job, one person actually said We should stop complaining and start working for Nigeria, that is why I stopped writing here and doing the writing on novels now, you are really working ma, May God bless you. There is nothing like health cover for the masses, but in written paper, children ought to be treated freely in a health care where there are no drugs you know, so I called it prescription centre, most poor people live on medicinal herbs. OUR LEADERS ARE LIARS, IT IS BETTER SEEN NOT READ , WHAT THEY SAY IS DIFFERENT FROM HAPPENINGS ON GROUND.

In Nigerian law, the husband should be abused but the culture permits the husband to cane an erring wife, in the Northern part, the man cannot be prosecuted except the wife loses the eyes, that is become blind in the process of being beaten, the husband is to cane her like a slave, it is normal here.

My first child is going to 8 and the second girl is 4and half.

Take care ma.

Olutosin Oladosu Adebowale
Founder/Project Coordinator
Star of Hope Transformation Centre
512 Road
F Close
Festac Town
Lagos-Nigeria

https:

Recently I came across some dictionary of illnesses... and it had explanation from where each disease comes from... for example cancer, is due to anger that was not expressed and etc, diabetics - for unachievable wishes, allergy for another reason.... That is indeed the solution!!! To live positively, forgive and try to be happy. Like one somebody said once: "There are no ways to happiness - happiness is the way".

Well done...

Next step for me... try to be happy every day and beating your record :-)

Thank you!!!

With respect,

Victoria

Victoria Vorosciuc
Project Coordinator
"Empowering women to participate
in community life"
WorldPulse Media Corresspondent

Starland's picture

happy, happy, joy, joy

Hi Victoria
Thank you so much for commenting. Are you familiar with the work of Louise L. Hay "You Can Heal Your LIfe" ? She has a whole list of physical ailments associated with mental attitudes. Well, I think, this is only one key. When I started, I knew cancer was about anger and guilt of which I had a lot. The first time around I went to counseling, ate on the cancer diet, set boundaries for my kids and kept them (quite a feat for me at the time) and a variety of other things. The second time, I had a much better handle on things (that being me) and took Essiac Tea. Good stuff for cancer.

I love having happiness competition! We both win! Actually, I think that would make us happiness partners!
hugs
K-lee

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

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