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A Love of Isolated Daughters

Nepal is a country of our father and brother’s property. We, the daughters and sisters are ignored from every sectors. No matter how much we are educated or aware of our rights, we cannot go against our family, friends, community and government because we are taught to be dumb even we have voice to talk with our husbands, families, relatives and friends. We do have the feeling to cry when we are in pain or hurt by others, but we are shy to show others or talk about it. We hide our pains and try to smile in front of others because we are scared of family prestige.

However, we don’t have right to speak out or to be heard by others when we are oppressed or discriminated against. We work and live together with our fathers, brothers and husbands, but are treated differently. Although, we plant together, all the fruits belong to our brothers, fathers and husbands. Whatever happened with us, we love each and every living and non-living things of our land. We love our brothers, fathers and husbands.

We don’t have words to say how much we love and care them, but we are not servants. We neither are tame animals nor are we second class citizens. We don’t want to be treated differently. We want the change but we don’t want to involve in violence because we know “an eye for an eye will only makes the whole world blind”. It will not solve the problems.

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Emily Garcia's picture

Thank you!

Dear Sunita,

Thank you for your story. I'm greatly moved by what you've shared. It is so painful for me to think about women working alongside men, tilling the same soil, growing crops together and yet not receiving the same respect as men nor the right to the fruits of their very own labor. And yet, I think it is commendable that despite this cruel injustice you continue loving--loving the land and eachother. I imagine this must be very difficult, but think that love, not violence, is essential in toppling the power structure in place.

It upsets me beyond words that you are treated as second class citizens. No human being should be classified or treated as such. You are powerful, your voice is powerful and I know you are inspiring others to speak up for themselves and against this injustice.

Warmest regards,

Emily

Emily Garcia
World Pulse Online Community Lead

sunita.basnet's picture

YOu are always welcome

Hello Emily,
Namaskar,
Thank you so much for your effort you made to read this post. I do agree with you. it's very hurtful when we work together and all the fruits only belongs to male. Although the situation is painful, we never stop working. We are happy when our brothers, fathers and husbands have smile in their faces. We never think of our selves.

Most of the time, we are treated as second class citizens because we are ignored in our society.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Cheryl Rask's picture

Greetings

Dear Sunita, I am so grateful that you opened your heart to share your story with us. I truly sense how we all can learn from what life is offering to you to evolve. When I see your smile, I see the light that shines from within... what a gift to all those your presence touches. Love & Light, Cheryl Rask

sunita.basnet's picture

Namaskar

Dear CherlyRask,
Namaskar,
I glad to find you as a new reader for my post. I hope to see your support in the future. First of all, thank you so much for your time and effort you made to read and leave a comment.

I will be sharing more in the future. Looking forward to hear from you.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

malayapinas's picture

Dear Sunita, Thank you for

Dear Sunita,

Thank you for posting! It's gives me more strength to carry on with my wrting advocacy . The world needs to hear our story and be joined together by a common aspiration of liberation.

More power!

best reagrds,
malaya

sunita.basnet's picture

I do agree with you

Dear Malaya,
Namaskar,
I am glad that my writing provide you strength to your writing advocacy. I do agree with you, our voice need to be heard. Thanks for joining me together.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

LUZ MARINA JARAMILLO's picture

Beautiful words

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sunita. I appreciate very much your words.

Best regards

Luz Marina

sunita.basnet's picture

Thank you

Dear Marina,
How do you do? It had been a long time, I didn't hear from you. I encourage you to spent sometimes to write your thoughts in a paper for the love of the land.

Thank for your appreciation.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

JaniceW's picture

Beautiful

Sunita... each time you post, your voice becomes stronger and your words louder. Your love for your fathers, brothers, uncles, husbands is so deep yet the wounds of their oppression and discrimination cut even deeper. I wish all the men of your country could hear your cries, could see the pain they cause, could listen with their hearts.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Land with us. They are an inspiration.
Didi

p.s. I wrote to AUW to spread the news about this call for submissions. Please tell all your friends and classmates to write in too. We would love to hear their voices.

sunita.basnet's picture

Wow! That's interesting

Dearest Janice Didi,
Namaskar,
Thank you so much for your inspiring words. It's great to hear from you after a long time.
I agree with you, how much we women are oppressed, we tried to hide and support everytime to our brothers, fathers and husbands. We laughed when they are happy and support them when they are sad and are in misery.

Yes, we all wish that one day our family members will understand our pain and sorrow. Sometimes, I wonder how would be our society wwithout discrimination. I cannot wait to see peaceful and equal society.

Regarding call for the submission, I have also send an email to our university students affairs to forward that email to all students, faculties and staff. I have talked with some of our friends and seemed positive in it. I hope Prabisha is also going to write. Last night I talked with her and she was interested.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

busayo's picture

Inspiring Words

Sunita, your words are inspiring, keep on raising your voice.One day your fathers and brothers will have no choice but to listen and retrace their steps and stop their oppression and discrimination in the land that God have given to all to enjoy both male and female

Regards
Busayo

Busayo Obisakin
Women inspiration Development center
Ile-Ife, Nigeria
busobisaki@yahoo.com
womeninspirationcenter@gmail.com
http://womeninspirationce.wix.com/widcng

sunita.basnet's picture

I will never stop....

Dear Busayo,
Namaskar,

I am glad that you also find it inspiring. I will never stop writing because after joining world pulse, I have developed myself in a positive way. I do wonder like you. We both son and daughter are the children of god but why are we treated differently. I hope there will be a positive very soon in every corner of the world because now we, daughters, sisters, and wives, are aware of our rights.

Thank you so much for your time

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Nusrat Ara's picture

Well done. This is an

Well done. This is an important issue. Women is so many countries especially in Africa don't inherit land. It brings them on the mercy of others. It should stop.

Regards

Nusrat

Dear Nusrat,
Namaskar,
Yes, discrimiantion need to removed from it's root not only from Nepal but also from alll over the World. We have to face many challenges when are ignored from our property right. We all vows to have equal rights in land. We all are the children of same parents then why are we ignored. We want equality.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Victoria Vorosciuc's picture

Sunita rocks!!!

Dear Sunita, you are the challenge to all the fathers and brothers. They must fear you now. I see this strong woman in you, who can bring the change and advocate for human equality.
I never thought of Nepal as a country with so much gender issue. Oh my!
Certainly, it is the world of power, and governments want to hide the reality for their own prestige.

I want you to be the best graduate from Asian University for Women and I wish I could study there, too.

Can you ask them if it is possible?

:)

Your sista,

Vick

Victoria Vorosciuc
Project Coordinator
"Empowering women to participate
in community life"
WorldPulse Media Corresspondent

sunita.basnet's picture

Inspiring words

Dear Vick,
How do you do dear? Thank you so much for your inspiring words. I do hope so like you but to say as a bitter truth, It will take much more time to complete. Yeah, as a citizen we are proud to the citizen of the highest peak and the most multicultural country in the world. But we will look each and every individual as a human beings, there is a vast gap of gender. Regarding the the world of power, if t he government has think that hidding the reality will remain their prestiage then it's a great mistake. They have to realized the reality and have to work to solve it. I belive there are more people like you and me, who are concerned about every issues and ready to change.

I wonder if you are talking seriously about my university. Do you really want to come and study here? If so apply for the scholarship however we have only till undergradute studies. Would you mind providing more information to me about you. I mean which level do you want to study? which subject?
Thank you
With regards
Sunita Basnet

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Victoria Vorosciuc's picture

Woman to woman

Hi Sunita,

Of course there are more people like you and me. And we can as citizens express ourselves to the best we can.
And if man and brothers of your country cannot handle the trhuth, we can tell the truth to those that are ready to hear it.

And somehow - the effect can reach them later in the days, indirectly.

Sunita, may I ask how old are you? I woul'd like to hear some storyes of your dayly activities within Asian University for Women. What do you do there, who are the other women, who else studies or teaches there. What are the most inspipring things, and who out of teachers you like. What are the challenges there and are there any projects that you all do?

As for me, I see myself visiting your country for a month, or more. And volunteer. Maybe this would be the good way to do things together. Because by volunteering youcan both, lear, assist within your classes, help, learn and experience your culture and meet great people.

And I strongly believe we can work this out!

Yours,
Victoria

Victoria Vorosciuc
Project Coordinator
"Empowering women to participate
in community life"
WorldPulse Media Corresspondent

sunita.basnet's picture

Wonderful idea

Dear Victoria,

Wow! this is an wonderful idea, I believe one day they will realized the truth although it will take time.

MY age! Guess??? Do you want me to post about my daily activities in pulse wire, if so I would love to that but I wonder will others be interest to know my life style. Next week, I will post about it.

Oh! you mean in Nepal. I wonder if we all world pulse member can meet together in Nepal and talk with ignored people. Currently, we have discuss to do a project in Nepal from our university. I will be sending you an email immediately I finish writing this comment dear.

Sure! It's a great idea dear.
Love to work with you dear.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

FAHMIDA YESMINE's picture

Nice writing

Hi Suni,
I have just read your writing. It really evokes a picture in my mind how you feel abuot being a woman and being discriminated.

Carry on this!!!!!!
And Good Luck.
Fahmida Yesmine

Hello Fahmida,

It's WONDERFUL to find our AUW friends in world pulse. I am glad that I have evoke the picture of your mind. Thank you so much for support by leaving this beautiful comment. I wonder if you are going to submit your paper. The due date is coming soon so hurry up friend.
I cannot wait to read your post.
thank you

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Mauri's picture

Your light, so quiet and shiny

Sunita, how you are right!

No one should be servant of anyone else, even the beloved.

And as the wonderful words you have written resonate, little by little maybe, but they will inspire more and more people to change.

And a change is necessary! Your voice is from Nepal, but its deep meaning could well apply to Italy, and in many other places of the rich North. Injustice is always arbitrary and, so often, rooted in unawareness and hard to die habits. This, I guess, makes things harder if possible: you have to change minds and hearts, and this invariably requires perseverance.

Positive action is necessary, however, and can't wait any longer.

From what you said, I got the impression of Nepal as a place where property and control of land is power itself. It was the same here - with so harsh consequences. Still it is, although right of property is granted to anyone, man or woman. The point is, so many of these places are the property of large financial groups, or even mafia. More than tilling it, it's now more convenient to build houses no one will inhabit, destroying beauty. Again, women voices are so necessary...

Thanks, by the way, thank you.
I wish your tears be noticed by the world you love, and fertilize their hearts.

Sincerely,
Mauri

sunita.basnet's picture

Ofcourse! we cannot wait any longer

Dear Mauri,

I am sorry to hear that even in Italy same discrimination happen. Ofcourse hundred and hundred years long belief cannot change over a night however we cannot wait any longer. Enough is enough, we are much too discrimination in our own land and even in my family.

Thank you so much Mauri, I would love to hear more feedback from you in the future. I wonder if you can visit my profile and I have just send you an request please accept me.
thank you

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Mauri's picture

Positive action

That of discrimination is, I guess, a universal problem.

It takes so many forms, I see. The so-called "developed world" is not immune. Maybe it has not to do directly with formal ownership of land, or other things giving you access to power. It may be more subtle, yet not less injust and devastating.

In Italy, formally, all citizens are equal. This is written in the beginning of Article 3 of the Italian Constitution (sorry so sloppy with my translation - I know English just a bit): "All citizens have equal social dignity, and are equal in front of law, without distinction of sex, race, language, religion, political opinions, and social and personal conditions".

In practice, this doesn't happen.

For example, two people with same preparation and ability but different gender will be paid differently and will have access to career paths widely different. Women of course are paid less and grow less. Provided they decide to work, of course.

And also (this problem is growing to huge proportions in these last 10 years), a different dignity. Being "to much rich" has its drawbacks I see: people has less time to connect with others, and more to watch the television or doing things alike. There, invariably, and archaically, women are depicted as soul-less sex-only creatures. They're always uniformly young, gorgeous, apparently available and cute, dressed with last trendy fashion. I was about to forget: they also have to look attractive - and "that's all their value", as inanimated objects of lust.

As we see in the rich world, marketing never anticipates tendencies: it follows them. In the most creative cases, advertisement makes something deep and subterranean evident. Reading this, I'm so sadly wondering whether this really is. What I can add, some subtle changes don't pass unobserved. How normal people dress, for example. That's nothing to do with "luxury fashion", yet since three-four years you can notice people, young women especially, wearing clothes clearly designed to please someone else, not who carries them. Some years ago, the functional was preferred. Pardon me of this "stupid" little thing in front of the problems you deal with.

The point is, in this country there is a lack of accepted and admired role models. And we can't say there are in Italy many great women (just to name one, Rita Levi Montalcini). Simply stated, they are not indicated as examples in the mainstream.

The consequence of even this subtle discrimination is: death of voice. Yesterday I made the experiment to count how many Italian people is connected to Pulsewire. The result was: four! Just four, me included! (And if you will have the patience of reading my posts, you will see I'm maybe the less entitled to speak).

Without women voices, Italy is declining fast. OK, it's dying in richness. But you see human relations deteriorating. Our government has emitted recently a law allowing authorities to push migrant away before they touch our national boundary. These migrants are people who paid enormous sums of money to have the opportunity to enter one of the boats from the southern Mediterranean Sea, with some hope to reach Europe (just "some" by the way: many die in the journey). Pushed back to Lybia or other countries, they seem to disappear. Another huge sign of degradation is "fear". Fear of different people, first of al. And this is alimented systematically by political forces belonging to the government, and not resisted enough by the opposition. Hatred, and fear. On the other side, the diffused idea that solidarity is not important. That things are always simple. That doing as the current Duce commands is all what needed.

Air is turning heavier and heavier here.

Where is the women voice? We need it.
Hope I can do something, maybe just by convincing some other people from Italy to join and share their experiences and dreams.

Excuse me having taken so much time...

I have a big curiosity. You say one of your major drives is "education". I'd like to learn more from you on this point.

In love and peace,
Mauri

sunita.basnet's picture

Strong commitment

Dear Mauri,
Namaskar,

What an inspiring woman I have found in this website. I am very moved from your thought. You know very well what you wanted to do. Yeah, we all women need to speak out for the change. I liked your words "Hope I can do something, maybe just by convincing some other people from Italy to join and share their experiences." You know this is an wonderful way to bring awareness in the country. I have a suggestion you convience five people and tell each of them to convience each new five people. I am sure one day you will be able to convience people. I know it will take time but I am sure this can be an effective way to bring awareness. I am also using the same method.

One more thing, never hesistate to write and leave a comment even if it is long. I love to read.

Thank you so much for your comment, I have learnt many new things about your country in a very short time.

You can be a great change maker for your country. Keep writing. We all are here to hear your voice.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Mauri's picture

A possibility!

Thank, Sunita, your suggestions are always so welcome! I'll do - at least try. Maybe, five is not sufficient as people tends to feel overwhelmed by lack of time and over-busyness (does this word really exist?). But, let's give a try.

Have you received my reply to your post on global change? I'm sorry this answer come so late, as there may be something useful (for both). My only justification is, I discovered you only from Pulsewire, where I'm a total newbie.

If you did'n received, please tell me - I may arrange sending you in some direct way.

(Of course, it may also be you received it, and found totally uninteresting. Well... That's might happen. If so, please don't waste any further time with it).

And, Sunita, "little Sun" (sorry, your name suggests me this connection, so evocative of your light), please continue to shine.

With love, gratitude, and respect. (Wow, I guess space will not be sufficient as I know you more ;-) ).

Mauri

Hello dear,
Yes i have received and will reply you today. I am sorry I am late to response to that.

I found it so interesting and want to response you however I was little busy with my study. I promise tonight I will reply.

Thank you so much, I will try to be a "little sun" to bring positive change in our community.

Haahah thank you so much for your lovely comment.
Big hugs

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

laughterlove's picture

Hi Sunita, Thank for your

Hi Sunita, Thank for your post.

Have you seen the film, Where the Water Meets the Sky?

It is about a unique way women in Zambia are coming together and getting their voices heard.

www.watermeetssky.com

Valerie

For all of life is like that race with ups and downs and all. And all you have to do to win is rise each time you fall.
“Quit! Give up! You’re beaten!” They still shout in my face. But another voice within me says “GET UP AND WIN THE RACE!” DH Groberg

sunita.basnet's picture

I am so moved from your link.

Dear Valerie,

I am so moved from your link. Wow! what an inspiring way to bring change in our community. Thank you so much for sharing with me.

Thank you so much dear. I hope to hear more in the future from you.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Mauri's picture

Sunita, my friend, take your time!

Thank you.

But please, don't feel pressured.

I know time is a scarce resource, the only one we really can't control.

And now, I see, you have a dense program of study. It's so important!

I see you, in future, as a great teacher, or leader. One of the people who, I'm sure, will indicate new ways, including maybe land is a resource to share and not a way to affirm a sterile power, as you already so wonderfully said.

You are doing right what so many women would do: study. Pardon my Spanish, but once I read a phrase by Che Guevara: "El muchacho que no estudia no es un buen revolucionario" (the quote is sloppy, as memory wanes with time - but the meanings is wonderful and applies to women as well; revolutions, also, may be "quiet" - apparently - and sure you are doing one).

So, please, may you take your time?

I know, it's so difficult.

One thing I'm continuously learning is, we'll go nowhere if we let the urge of time lack to sommerge us. We'd like doing so many thing in parallel... And regularly, I find myself finishing none. Or better: none visibly! I "finish", but have no time to make clear I've done. To take a stand, at last, so important for people to follow.

I'm a bit at unease when sharing things "from me", but maybe the two posts I've made on micrometeorology in the journal, on request of another friend I'll present you soon, might also be an add. I'd like to know what you think (of the subject, of course, not the terrible way I present it). But, take them only as your time allows, and you really think they might be of use.

So please please please let study be your priority 1 - we (I and, guess, the World) thank you so much, for your hard work and passion. Let it never cease!

With love
(and possibly calmitude - from both sides ;-) )

Mauri

sunita.basnet's picture

Ofcourse Dear

Dear Mauri,

Wow! what an intersting friend I have met in world pusle. I am very pleased to talk with you. Yes, due to our study today we are here otherwise we will also be same like many other daughters who do not have voice to speak even they can talk with their friends.

Therefore, we have to give first priority to our study. I have just open the link and seems like it is so much interesting. I wonder if you are working to prevent environment dear.

I would love to talk with you more dear.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

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